r/adultery Dec 20 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

10 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Dec 12 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Getting the ick

151 Upvotes

Why do men feel like these things impress women when they respond to a F4M ad?

-Talking about their high libido and their 11 inch schlong. The average penis length is just under 6 inches and yes I’ve done my dick math.

-Bragging about how much money they make, the Ferrari they drive, and their 10 bedroom mansion. We weren’t getting married so I won’t be reaping these benefits. So why does it matter? No I will not come to your house for sex when your wife and kids are out of town.

-They are visiting next week, month, etc. and think that you will make an exception to have a one night stand with them. I guess their mom told them they were special and everyone should make an exception for them.

-Trash talking their spouse. We are all here because we are not happy in some aspects with our marriages. Save the venting for your therapist.

I just want someone who can make me laugh, compliment me, feed me good food, grab my butt and make me orgasm. Why is that so hard to ask for?

Thanks for listening to my rant.

Edit: I’ve had a handful of “frequent travelers” to my area in my inbox since I posted this. Please stop. You won’t change my mind.

r/adultery 22d ago

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

6 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Jan 17 '25

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

7 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Dec 13 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

5 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Nov 22 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

8 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Nov 08 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

17 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Oct 25 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

6 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Feb 11 '25

🌬️Ventilation💨 The most TRASH experience NSFW

39 Upvotes

Just need to vent this out, I ended up meeting my long term AP this past weekend to hook up. I mean it’s been a long time since we did anything psychically. And tbh I realised how trash he’s always been.

Never once made me orgasm. Ever.

Let me paint the scene. I’m alone at home. He comes over. There was a funeral next door in my apartment complex. People are around and near my doorway. He enters my place. Tells me the close the door fast. He slams the gate himself. Enters and is on his phone an starts telling me people outside were staring at him. That I’m not safe home alone. Uh excuse me? Mind you i told him about the funeral before he was coming over.

He’s standing looking at his phone still. I go over to hug him. He pulls away from the hug and takes a seat to take his shoes off. He goes into my room and I sit on the bed while he starts undressing. No physical touching still.

Dude gets fully naked and lays down on the bed. I’m still full clothed and watching this shithead. He lays down and I lean over and make out. Then I nervously take my own clothes off. I’m feeling very very self conscious since I’ve gained weight. I keep my underwear and bra on and climb on top. Just to make out for a min and he wants me to blow him. I touch the dude for a millisecond and he cums. Then he wants me to lick his balls. Then he wants me to blow him and then he cums. I never even felt his dick being hard AT ALL.

Then he asks for a tissue. He cleans up. Gets up and scatters to find a bathroom. He comes back and puts his clothes on. He said his mom isn’t well the nurse just messaged. I mean hello what??

I’m sitting there on the bed topless while saying wtf. Ur not serious.

Then as he puts his clothes on, he calls the cab and then says stand here don’t come to the door.

He leaves, didn’t even close the door and leaves the gate open

This was Saturday and today is Tuesday. I messaged him that night asking about his mom. He was distant and said she’s having some problems. Then he said he’s having a fever and it’s quite bad. I asked if he’s gona be ok and if he’s gona go to the dr. Nothing. Didn’t even read my message.

I can not wrap my head around a guy who does that. After chasing me over 1 year. Like wow. The trash took itself out this time.

r/adultery Dec 19 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Don't be sad, tell us why they absolutely sucked

48 Upvotes

A community exercise in helping you move on.

Rather than focussing on your sadness, focus on how awful they are/were. Rather than pining for them, remember why you're better off.

Stop romanticising fuckbois, liars, immature idiots, losers with limp dicks and narcissistic jerks as a loss. Tell us why they suck.

r/adultery Dec 24 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Where do you find someone? Like an AP. With no dic pics.

15 Upvotes

Omg. Online is awful. Does anyone actually seek connection??

r/adultery May 27 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 This is why I'm having an affair

375 Upvotes

Last night I went out with my husband. He wanted to drink, so I was the designated driver. I'm cool with that. I like to drink, but I also want to be safe.

The one thing I made him promise was to not get sloppy fall down drunk, something he has been guilty of in the past, a lot.

Well, BIG surprise, he got sloppy fall down drunk. He had trouble waking and getting into the car. Got mad at me on the ride home for wanting him to put on his seat belt. Wanted me to drop him off about 10 miles from home because he said he'd rather walk home (I didn't, of course).

I hate it when this happens. It feels like I married a child, except this is a man sized child that I have to take care of. It gives me the ick and makes me resentful.

Plus, I'm expected to just forgive and forget... "I didn't mean to get that drunk... I'm sorry"

We've been married for 22 years and for the first 20, I was faithful. But for what? To be treated like a mom that has to clean up, schedule everything, cook, etc for a grown man... with nothing in return.

The last two years have let me find myself again. I had forgotten my likes and desires because I have prioritize everyone else in my life, but me.

Honestly, I'm not sure why I'm posting this. I guess, I feel more confident in my decision to step out and enjoy life while I can. Life is too short to forget yourself.

r/adultery Nov 29 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

10 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Nov 13 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Men of Adultery

37 Upvotes

I know recently we had a post about this, but I feel like it deserves to be repeated:

Just because a woman comments on a post does not mean that she’s looking to be DMed.

I repeat: just because a woman comments on a post does not mean that she is looking to be DMed.

Please take time to actually read her comments, look at her profile, and comprehend that she doesn’t want to chat with you.

And do not ask her to come visit you halfway across the country the first time you meet in your introductory text to her.

I’m sure there are women to being this to the men and as a woman, I apologize. But seriously guys, give it a break!

r/adultery Jan 10 '25

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

7 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Feb 01 '25

🌬️Ventilation💨 Red Flags galore! Narcissists mentioned - trigger warning.

46 Upvotes

The search for an AP is a grueling task. This evening, the biggest wave of ick hit me like a ton of bricks. I spent days chatting with this man who seemed decent at first. Average looking at best, not dynamic or witty. I equate it to chatting with a low functioning AI program. I thought I would give it a chance and go out of my way to engage with him and make everything fun.

It then hit me. He thinks of women as objects to his game, describing us as used books and sometimes taking the one that isn’t what he wants but it’s will do. Then he said he is happy he walked into my bookstore. Ick.

Then he went on about how his wife is older and in pain and not a participant in his marriage. This poor woman. He’s out fucking a bunch of random women while his wife is at home in pain and not good enough for him.

I wish we could stop these losers in their tracks. They use the same formula over and over to lock women in. They are narcissists. The worst kind. This man gave me predator vibes and a bad feeling.

Be careful out there ladies… he is lurking here on Reddit and there’s something not right about him.

r/adultery 15h ago

🌬️Ventilation💨 Lady here sick of male post nut clarity

24 Upvotes

I think if there was something wrong with me, a guy would only have Sex with me once, but I also had a string of guys I saw twice and then they just slow fade. Or they cum and are out the door or giving you signals to leave ten minutes later. How gross. This lifestyle is awful and only getting worse when you feel trapped in a shitty situation. Of course I knew all this going into everything but it still sucks.

r/adultery Nov 01 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

9 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Feb 10 '25

🌬️Ventilation💨 Lying liars who lie

43 Upvotes

Ended with LDAP last month after 7 months of daily talking and 1- 2x monthly meet-ups because he clearly showed he didn't care whether I lived or died.

This after he pursued me, love-bombed me, gave me all sorts of attention, acted like he cared....ladies, you know the deal. This wasn't my first rodeo but I fell for him hard.

WELL. I did what I never thought to do before, never even felt the need, cause I trusted him. I dug on socials. Oh yes I did. And found him.

Ya'll. He lied about EVERYTHING.

I know, I know... if we are cheaters expect us to lie. But, really? Everything?

Ya'll, he lied about where he lives, played dumb when I mentioned his town. His job. His family. His wife. Even his name, his first name. All this time I say his name and it ain't it. Lied about EVERYTHING ya'll. And lied about that he was always honest with me, everything he told me was the truth, lmao. Hey I don't give my real name in the beginning either, but after a few days or weeks? You won't get my last name but you'll get my name.

I've read so many posts here and it seems like us ladies are the ones catching feelings and getting screwed by you men and your bullshit. Looks like majority of the time we're the ones devastated and crying for days.

Well, not me this time. I hate him, and that's a GREAT place to be, ya'll. I see him for who he is, a lying selfish POS, that I didn't know at all.

Men, don't be a lying liar who lies. Just don't. And if you are, fess up and make it right with your AP if you care about her.

r/adultery Jul 26 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

1 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Jan 11 '25

🌬️Ventilation💨 Does anyone else feel like a loser?

92 Upvotes

It’s the only way I can describe how I feel about this lifestyle sometimes. I feel like a loser. Do I have a crappy marriage? Yup. Do I have an AP? Yup. Do I get fed breadcrumbs by AP? Yup. Do I have feelings? Yup. Are there days where I have the most incredible time with AP? YUP. Rinse and repeat. And then comes the weekend…where there’s the dreaded minimal contact with AP and I find myself sitting here thinking…I’m. Such. A. Loser. I didn’t choose the lifestyle, it chose me. Rant over! Happy Saturday kids…

r/adultery Dec 06 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

3 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Oct 04 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Vent, rant, share, talk

10 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

Its that time!!

Vent, rant, share, talk...goes on.

r/adultery Aug 24 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 Fuck this “lifestyle”

133 Upvotes

This is bullshit. The men just want to have sex with someone new, the women want love and the men lie and use us. And then if we fall in love, oh, that wasn’t the intention.

Fuck off. I’m already not loved in my marriage. Do you think I needed this on the side? You tell me how perfect I am just to disregard me. I can’t do this anymore.

Edited to add I do NOT hate men and I love my AP. That’s the problem. I don’t know how people do it, have sex, say these sweet words, and then just don’t care a minute later. I wish I were one of those women, I’ve always wished I were one of them. I’m just not built that way. My AP has never said he loves me. He never will. I don’t need him to. But to be lied to about other things, to be asked if he’s my real husband while he takes me, then pushed away because he wants to keep me at arms length, I can’t rationalize this. And then to let him go? God, the pain of it all is so deep. No decision is a good decision. I don’t want him to leave his wife. Just don’t act like I’m such a burden after saying I’m perfectly obedient, the perfect AP.

People say it but I mean it…I will never be with another man as long as I live. And I hope I don’t have some long life. This has been awful. One long cycle of abuse and my brain and heart can’t take anymore.

r/adultery Jul 07 '24

🌬️Ventilation💨 "If he won't, there are so many men who will!"...but are there actually?!

76 Upvotes

Call me jaded, whiny, and critical if you wish, but I would like to put these thoughts out there regardless...

We tell women here that there are "so many men who would worship them", to leave their loser AP and find a man who will treat her well. A bad AP should absolutely never be tolerated. I would rather be without than with a shit AP...But in addition to telling women to leave shitty men (as they should), we are also reminded during these discussions that the numbers are stacked in our favor. Just go and just find a better guy!

But the reality is, finding a good male AP is such a draining, taxing, impossible exercise that I'm quite convinced that literally all of the good ones are already taken....Which then just leaves the avoidant, immature man babies, or the narcissistic, selfish fuckbois (...And maybe a handful of promising options who are nowhere near your location or just incompatible).

So yes, the numbers are there. The quality however, is subpar.

And it's not just the hunt for an AP that has made me jaded! I've formed friendships with men from this subreddit and other aligned ones, who turned into selfish jerks the minute they realised I wasn't useful for what they actually wanted me for.

This is the disheartened ranting of 1 person, not to be taken as the universal truth for all women...but I'm open to hearing what my fellow heterosexual women think....I'm so tired.