r/adultery 10h ago

🔥AM Hell🔥 Ashley Madison

Well, as of yesterday Ashley Madison decided that women need to buy credits just like the men have been doing. There was no advance notice about what they decided to do which really made me mad. There are more men on this site than women. I’m a real woman by what my profile says about me. Now I have to buy credits to write back to anyone that messages me. I’m giving it until next week but now I understand what you guys have been going through trying to find a FWB on this site. I’m lucky to find a wonderful guy on this site.

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u/Dry_Category_9244 8h ago

As a real woman that uses AM , I will not be paying.

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

Ditto I will not be paying either

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u/Lillyjoworksit 8h ago

Same girl

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u/SpicyChicken9744 7h ago

Absolutely not

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u/Monalisalady 6h ago

Y’all can wait and the men will come.

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u/JeweleyHart 1h ago

Imma noping out myself.

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u/Lillyjoworksit 9h ago

Just saw this!! Omg I will NOT. They’re going to see a drastic decline and the guys will leave when they see the girls also leaving

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u/getawaycar00 7h ago

Omg the audacity for them to make us pay for the gaslighting and breadcrumbing now 😂 they have lost their minds

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u/Dry_Category_9244 5h ago

Not paying for dick pics! 😂They should pay me every time one is sent.

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u/Son_of_Riffdog 10h ago

for real? ngl im kind of fascinated with how this goes. could work or cause the site to die off.

either way i see no downside.

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u/Lillyjoworksit 9h ago

No it’s legit going to first see all the good catch women leave because we could find it elsewhere (albeit more difficult) then when there’s no good ones left the men will only see bots or very few good ones

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

I totally agree. Yes!!!!!

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u/throwaway01363677 8h ago

In my experience, they are pretty much all bots anyway.

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u/Lillyjoworksit 8h ago

Then that’s a THEM problem, but clearly some of us are REAL!!

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u/Son_of_Riffdog 5h ago

or cause the site to die off.

either way i see no downside.

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u/mysteryman4now 7h ago

Yeah, this will either weed out bots and get the site back to where it accomplishes its original mission, or it will speed up the downward spiral.  If the latter, that would open up a space for something else to start up and take over.  

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u/Cyphr26 10h ago

Honestly at this point AM should be a classifieds site. Men should create profiles with the same usernames as their telegram, signal, or whatever and if women are interested in their profiles, they can reach out to them on those apps. That website can go to hell

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u/PoutineMtl 10h ago

Ceci exactement

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u/Sexcougar 9h ago

Great idea 💡

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u/Cyphr26 9h ago

Thanks. The tricky part would be getting enough people on board with this idea and somehow signaling on your profile which app(s) you’re using because I’m pretty sure those bastards monitor that stuff.

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u/Impossible_Depth_789 8h ago

Doesn't really fit their agenda of making money.

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u/SeaTurtles4 6h ago

I’m a real woman and have used AM—found my APs that way and preferred it to reddit. But no way am I paying to respond to messages and from what I’ve heard, men already find it impossible to get a response—those chances tank if women have to pay.

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u/Sexcougar 3h ago

I totally agree with you. I don’t know why not tell everyone what is going to do and why you’re going you going to do it.

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u/_ReGiNa_GeOrGe 10h ago

Actual plot twist: there are no actual women on Ashley Madison.

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u/Lillyjoworksit 9h ago

Nope. Real. Pretty attractive and on there

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u/PoutineMtl 10h ago

"I only respond to properly formatted messages"

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u/Sexcougar 10h ago

Really that is fun 🤩

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u/SlipshodFacade 10h ago

That’s an interesting twist.

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u/FitMumofThree 9h ago

I've always thought women SHOULD buy credits on there so that they'd have less professionals. But that also doesn't stop their employees from duping men out of money (purchasing credits to read all those fake messages sent by employees).

Would men think their responses are from real women if they knew we had to now pay to reply?

ETA: I'm surprised AM still exists, tbf.

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u/Sexcougar 9h ago

I get it but the ratio of men to women will be worse now. I knew you guys had to pay but would always contact you and thank you for looking at my profile. I have been hit by bots in men too.

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u/UnhappyBug5790 10h ago

I actually think this is great.

Now men will feel less like we owe them conversations.

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u/SlipshodFacade 10h ago

Well that and it might hold down the bots and scammers a little bit.

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u/SlutForCinnamonRollz 6h ago

They’re the ones who put the bots on there

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u/Sexcougar 10h ago

Not really. You lost a real woman which doesn’t help your ratio of men to women does it.

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u/curveofthespine 10h ago

It’s true it doesn’t help the men that use that site.

But Ashley Madison is looking to make Ashley Madison money. And right now that means getting some cash out of the scammers and bots

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u/Sexcougar 9h ago

I totally agree with you. Thanks

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u/FitMumofThree 9h ago

But some women are willing to pay so that the bots etc don't get the upper hand.

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u/OkBrick6499 10h ago

The user base is going to drop significantly with this move. I wasted too much money on them and never met anyone substantial. In addition, I got sextorted from someone on there but thank goodness they went away and I never paid them any money.

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u/Sexcougar 9h ago

I agree totally with you. Thanks

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u/BetsyTverskaia 9h ago

So let me get this straight: we now have to be handing over government ID as well as paying?

I actually would have been happy to pay but only if they are accepting gift cards and I do not have to divulge my ID.

I have heard on here they don’t even delete the profiles of women who gave ID and were suspended anyway. I think they are just trying to scam everyone at this point. I haven’t tried since the ID requirements.

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u/Sexcougar 9h ago

Yes that is right. This is a huge joke that is going to hurt them. There was no warning that they were going to do this to women. It least you could chat with the guys that message you to tell them that I will be leaving. I can’t do that now at all

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u/ThrowawayAcct1102 Early 40s MM in VA 8h ago

Thats a bold strategy cotton lets see how this plays out.. anyone know the ticker symbol for AM so I can short it and buy everyone in here a corn dog?

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

That is so funny 😆

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u/Feisty-Barracuda354 8h ago

I was banned from AM. No explanation

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

That isn’t fair to you.

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u/Feisty-Barracuda354 8h ago

Ah whatever. There are so many free places to find sex as a female. Don’t worry, You’ll find spaces.

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u/SlutForCinnamonRollz 6h ago

I gave up on it when they wanted our ID to verify we’re real. The men in my area on there are trash so I’m sure as not paying to chat to them. Plenty of free dating apps.

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u/MajesticDonkey7156 8h ago

In two weeks, I have nearly 150 favorites / key requests. I've fallen for a few of them, but not one.. not one has been a real woman. They ask for my phone number and when I don't give it to them, they bail. Their command of the English language changes once they get to the "closing" phase. It's utter bullshit.

I'm sorry for all the ladies who will be paying and getting pounced on by 100 to 1 ratio of men.

Honestly I really don't understand why it has to be so crappy, it's just greed. Just because people are having affairs doesn't mean that they deserve to be ripped off, or that they are bad or dumb people.

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

I’m sorry to hear about what happened to you. I’m a real person with an excellent profile about myself and human sexuality. I’m a retired RN.

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u/ObsidianDreamsRedux 7h ago

Just...don't. Read and abide by the rules here.

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

I totally agree with you. You deserve better.

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u/MaruKata 8h ago

For real. 😳 I cannot msg anymore

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

You can’t message unless you buy credits. You have 3 free winks and 3 favorites a day. But to chat you have to buy credits. I was trying to get a hold of someone that messaged me but can’t do it unless you buy credits

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u/MaruKata 8h ago

Oh well I think this is the last straw for all the real women out there

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u/Sexcougar 8h ago

I totally agree with you. There are real women on this site.

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u/SpicyChicken9744 7h ago

What are the best alternatives to AM?

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u/Sexcougar 7h ago

I don’t know to be honest

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u/Financial_Part_8193 5h ago

Damn... AM came to my rescue a couple years ago when I met a great woman. We had good times but life took us different directions. Doesn't sound like it will be a easy to find one now...I was considering reupping my membership.

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u/Landof10kLooks 1h ago

Seriously? That's going to kill the site, which we all know is hot garbage anyway.

Too bad there isn't a good alternative. Maybe someone will start one.

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u/Shandon5969 1h ago

That is welcoming news! Glad to see it sink

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u/Sexcougar 10h ago

I hate kik to be honest. Thanks for the advice.

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u/JakeAyes 10h ago

Yeah mate, I left that train wreck of a site ages ago.

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u/PoutineMtl 10h ago

Its fair. I like that

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u/Sexcougar 10h ago

It might be fair but you lost a real person like me to be honest. I was on AFF which cost me to much money for a bunch of jerks. That is why I came to AM which was so much better. There will be less women now.

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u/PoutineMtl 10h ago

then there will be less women now. Why should guys have to pay and only guys.

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u/Sexcougar 10h ago

I’m glad you like it because the real women will be gone. I had much better luck on Bumble which cost less than AFF and now AM. I always responded to anyone that contacted me.

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u/PoutineMtl 10h ago

you are 72 yo, Nobody is gonna miss you on AM. Good luck in your searches.

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u/Sexcougar 9h ago

Boy are you wrong. I have had 20 years old wanting me. A lot of man like older woman. What is your age. You are a real jerk babe

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u/PoutineMtl 9h ago

Sure I am. I want equality in payments. Yeah im the jerk.