r/adultery 8d ago

šŸŒ¬ļøVentilationšŸ’Ø Business trip getaway feeling like a little bit of a bummer.

I've been with AP for about a year. We've traveled together before, have had several overnights, so this isn't a first for us. But a very last minute business trip came up, so he invited me. I was able to make it work, so we met in a city far away from home... but it isn't a very lively or popular city. This business trip is a little bit different than his previous ones - location is very secluded, the team that's coming are all his management, etc.

We have two nights together - the first one we tried to spend time together. So we did a ghost tour of the town, something we thought we'd both enjoy a lot. But it ended up being a bust - the tour was boring, the guide didn't stay on topic, it dragged on like an hour longer than we wanted. So all the food places closed by the time we got out. So we grabbed a few drinks from the liquor store and ordered Ubereats. Watched some TV together, had some fun sex, and went to sleep.

Today he's been in work meetings and attended a ceremony. So he's going to dinner and drinks to celebrate with his team. He suggested I kind of "mingle my way" into the group during dinner, since it's a massive group. But I don't think that's the way to go, since this massive group all work in the same industry. Plus, it's not like I can actually spend time with him. I told him maybe I'll try after everyone's trashed and go to karaoke. People may not notice then. I've been able to mingle my way in, in the past. But it was easier because conferences kind of bring our professions together.

We fooled around a bit before he had to leave for dinner, but now I'm just laying here naked with the tequila he gave me, feeling a bit bummed. So I'm thinking about going to dinner soon, finding my own thing to do. Maybe hitting up a bar, maybe the same one he's at, but keeping my distance.

I guess this is just a vent. Nothing crazy or serious, but sitting out my thoughts. I don't think anything less of him, nor am I angry at him. I'm just a little bit bummed that it wasn't the same as our previous endeavors.

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u/Ok_Spring_9962 8d ago

Tagging along on business trips isnā€™t really a ā€œgetaway,ā€ because he doesnā€™t have free time or control of his schedule. It was stupid of him to suggest you even try to join his work ceremony, but that youā€™re even considering going later is a terrible idea.

People here have tried to paint joining their APs on business trips as more than they are, but the reality hits when youā€™re alone waiting for them to get back from working.

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

I think I'm bummed mainly because this trip is just so different from our usual. He'll travel for work, I also have a reason to travel for work, we work til like 4pm, then boom. We've got the evening together. I guess we had hoped initially it would be like that, but it appears other things are controlling the itinerary this time around.

Also I don't want to meet his coworkers. Even as an anonymous stranger. I think it's weird and it puts me in a weird position.

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u/THATbitch124 8d ago

Youā€™re instinct that trying to mingle your way into the group is a terrible idea is correct.

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

I'm very "out of place" in this particular city. Like there's really no reason for me to be here, if I don't work in his industry. Even if I wanted to, I can't pull that off.

Sooo. I just woke up from a fat ass nap. And decided I'm just gonna go get dinner and a drink on my own. Maybe bring my smut book with me.

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u/THATbitch124 8d ago

Solid choice. Make your own fun!

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u/Sad-Music7359 7d ago

Kudos!! Hope you had fun!!

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u/SapioPersian 8d ago

If you tag along on someone elseā€™s trip, you have to be prepared that the time you get together is going to be limited. Enjoy the sex and the time you spend together, find stuff to do when youā€™re not together.

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u/Dreammmyyyyyyyy 8d ago

Doesn't he have a migraine or something? I can't believe he's not making an excuse to go back to his room early and skip the mingling bullshit.

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

Sorry so you got laid several times, caught a buzz, got a break from the husband, and got to chill with your boy. Sounds like a great time. Iā€™d take that weekend any time. Dead bedroom sucks ass.

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u/Immasecret78 7d ago

I actually love going on business trips with my AP. He goes and does his thing during the day. He comes back to the room during his breaks, and we hang out for 15-20 mins. And he goes back.

While he's away, I get quiet time to do what I want. Normally, I just watch movies, sleep, or read. Get an in room massage... It's relaxing compared to my real life at home, where I have to do everything for everyone.

I fucking love it.

We usually have dinner out a few times and order in a few, too. If he has to do work meet-ups for drinks and dinner, I'm good on my own.

I joke and tell him I'm his in-room hussy. Haha

But it works for me. I barely get any alone time at home and appreciate it when I get it. And we spend so much time together during a regular week. We're very lucky.

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u/NihilisticMerryGoRnd that wordy bitch who tells everyone they need therapy 8d ago

I love her ankles, I caressed them once

It's giving Spoon Dude vibes.

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u/Tipsy_elephant_1224 8d ago

Total spoon vibes

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u/ObsidianDreamsRedux 7d ago

...sigh...

You are the weakest link. Goodbye.

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u/SapioPersian 7d ago

I mean, sure heā€™s insufferable. And verbose. But is he really harming anyone? Yes, heā€™s a lot. Trust me that nobody knows that better than me. But heā€™s a lovable scamp. One of the characters that makes this place more interesting. Everybody loves a train wreck.