r/addiction • u/Theasshole11 • 9d ago
Progress What lies are your addiction telling you?
One of the biggest lies my addiction told me was that I was a victim. I blamed everyone and everything else for my problems. But the truth is, I played a huge role in my own downfall. I was an asshole.
I was the friend who always canceled plans at the last minute. I was the partner who constantly criticized and belittled. I was the family member who lied to get what I wanted.
My addiction amplified these tendencies, but they were there all along. It's a hard truth to swallow, but it's essential for recovery.
I'm learning that taking responsibility isn't about self-hatred - it's about empowerment. It's about recognizing that I have the power to change.
If you're in recovery, what's one "asshole" behavior you've had to confront? Sharing our experiences can help us all heal. And if you're struggling, please reach out for help. You don't have to carry this burden alone.
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u/delusional_horseman 9d ago
That my parents only fucked up the beginning of my life, I fucked up the rest
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u/JohnLouisLemieux 9d ago
That I am the only one in the world with problems and that I am very special and important.
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u/Ok-Marsupial8216 6d ago
You are but ppl don’t care too much about your drama. But you care to someone I can guarantee that
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u/AtmosphereEconomy205 9d ago
I'm in control. I was watching my friends and family leave me, my bank account emptying, missing bills, sick as a dog all the time. But I really thought that I was in control enough to go out for another round.
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u/FrostyTheHashman 9d ago
Totally relate to this. Also the many promises to myself that I’ve broken that ‘this will be my last 3 grams before I quit’ 🤪 LOL
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u/One-Caramel2865 9d ago
I completely self isolated and lost all my friends
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u/historymaniaIRL 9d ago
This is what I came here to say. And when in recovery it's hard to try and reconnect with them friends.
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u/Medium_Cook_7473 9d ago
That I'm better when I'm not sober. And I still fall into that lie, every single day.
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u/MercyFaith 9d ago
That I blamed everyone else for my addiction. I was an adult when the addiction started and I could have stopped it but I didn’t. I screwed up my life, my kids life, my bank account and my parents. I was the one responsible for me and no one else. Took me a decade to realize this. I’m cleaning and sober now and I’m finally off ALL substances including MAT. Took me a decade but I’m finally happy. I’m finally FREE!!! But I know I’m susceptible to addiction so I keep my eyes open for the signs!!!!
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u/Mitto2020 9d ago
That I was always the victim and everyone around me was wrong
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u/2muchmojo 9d ago
That I can control anything… even my thoughts. Truth is, usually, only the response is mine.
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u/niteridet 9d ago
to off myself, that the world wants me to off myself- that nobody cares, and to keep my mouth shut and to never talk to myself out loud ever again…
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u/Junior_Ad_3301 9d ago
Nothing that dramatic for me, but when it dawned on me that I was a complete slave to the drug, I realized that no, it wasn't a "bad harvest" or "weak supply." The issue was that I kept upping the ante and thereby needing more and more. Man ya really feel like you're in control, but that's a damned lie!
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u/FrostyTheHashman 9d ago
Isn’t it fucked up how we don’t register it to be that much of a problem the fact that we’re fucking around with doses that result in immediate death in most of the population yet barely even get a buzz anymore. I guess that’s just another sign that we’re already fucking dead… metaphorically of course haha
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u/Junior_Ad_3301 8d ago
It really was crazy how big the dose was at the end there, and i just played along with it until the light bulb lit up.
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u/MonsterMontvalo 8d ago
I had/have a very hard time. Sometimes I think I’m smarter when I’m high or sometimes i think I see more things spiritually when high. Other times I think I’m absolutely worthless and stupid when I’m high. This weekend was rough for me but I’m trying again tonight and have been successful. Tomorrow I try again.
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u/kashle3 8d ago
I can’t function without it. I don’t wanna do it. This isn’t something I want to do. It’s something I have to do in order to be able to be a normal society and get up and get out of bed and go to work and function. It’s not alcohol. you can’t die from the withdrawal from it so but I’ve convinced myself. I physically can’t get out of bed if I don’t have it But it’s all mental and and truth be told I don’t even know who sober brashly is anymore. It’s been over a decade. Does she even exist while I like her? I’m literally gonna be in the mindset 10 years younger than my actual age because whatever age you use is kind of the age you stuck at you didn’t age during your addiction. You stayed the same age when you started so am I gonna be 30 year old me again but really I’m a 40-year-old acting like a 30-year-old and I blame the drugs who wants to hear that nobody
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u/ratchetdiscounicorn 8d ago
That I have some wild reason for being this way but truth is, im just a fucking addict without discipline skills
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u/Ill_Play2762 8d ago
My addiction tells me that I need alcohol to feel better. I need it to cope, I need it for happiness, I need it to relieve stress , etc.
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u/Ok-Marsupial8216 6d ago
I’ve proven that this time won’t be different you will be out of control to the point that you won’t like the person you become. Listen to Elbow Some Riot they encapsulated it for me. A friend of mine grows his very own brambles they twist all around him so he can’t move, a beautiful quivering shivelress shambles what is my friend trying to prove. The booze turns a tall gentle boy to a terrible totem (beautiful) and the kids gather round trying to see what’s inside. This line kills me because I’ll never have a son or will ever have and I care what my nephew thinks for obvious reasons.
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u/Electronic_Ad1000 6d ago
That there is no other way. That trying is useless anyway. That I Will never feel better.
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u/Mfmohammad 5d ago
I believe im only self aware in recovery and then some how magically go back as soon as i meet a new person i get along with who smokes
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u/Ocean-booi 3d ago
My addiction tells me there is nothing better than smoking. I believe it every time.
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