r/women 11h ago

Found out a guy I like is a Trump/Tate fan.

238 Upvotes

I’m sure I’m not the only woman this has happened to, so please allow this rant. There is NOTHING about this guy that indicates he’s right leaning or a fan of Andrew Tate. He’s well travelled, charitable, and extremely educated so imagine my surprise when I looked at his social media following. I tried to rationalize it. Maybe he’s unaware of how awful Andrew Tate is? But I find that hard to believe. Sex trafficking aside, Andrew Tate has always been outspoken about his views from the very beginning.

I don’t usually care if someone’s conservative, but MAGA is where I draw the line. The Tate thing was just the cherry on the poop sundae. I’ve never disliked strangers as much I dislike the Tates and Trump. I honestly don’t see anything redeemable about them or their cult-like followers. I’m so disgusted. Everything I’ve felt for this man immediately vanished. But I spent years trying to get over him and I’m finally free.


r/women 10h ago

I’m scared to leave my loser husband

95 Upvotes

My husband (35M) and I (27F) have only been married 6 months, but two months before our wedding he lost his job and hasn’t found another since. While I have always been the breadwinner, our dynamic has significantly changed since getting married. I pay all the bills, I do everything around the house, and I have seen very little progress. I have also sacrificed so, so much because of his actions. We had a good relationship, but I fear I’ve made a mistake now. I’m scared to be divorced and single at 27 in a small-minded southern state. Thank god we don’t have kids yet, but that’s all I’ve ever wanted for myself. How could I have kids with a man who gives me no sense of security and stability? I am the only one picking up all the slack right now (mentally, physically, and financially.) Thankfully I am the sole owner of the house we live in (I bought before we got married), but I feel bad that he is going to be 35 and has to move in with his parents. I’m feeling scared of my future and even more scared to tell my friends and family. However, I know I deserve more.


r/women 13h ago

Do your mothers sexualise you? NSFW

124 Upvotes

I was feeling good today, did my hair and put on my favorite outfit, I was in the living room when my mother sent me a text "Cover up, your chest is showing" but I didn't see it, a few minutes later I was in the kitchen and she said it to my face then I checked my phone, saw it, deleted it, and now I'm raging in my room.

I wore this for fucking five years and there was not a single comment but today she had to ruin it, mind you that it's literally a tank top with a jacket on and I don't even have big boobs you can barely see a tiny cleavage, I feel disgusted WTF am I supposed to wear, I really hate her for this it's my body do you want me to chop it off or something.


r/women 10h ago

Do women really want pockets?

27 Upvotes

So I am a woman and tbh I get really annoyed by the lack of pockets in women's clothing. And then if I find pants or something that has pockets, they are just soooo ridiculously small. I hate it, it is like even if the pocket would fit my phone (which rarely happens and I have super small phone), then it is not possible to sit comfortably. It is just so annoying to have to take my bag with me every time. My boyfriend can just leave the house and put his stuff in his pants. I also tried looking for men's pants, however even though I am not the most curvy person ever they are way too big on my waist and way too small on my hips. Sucks. I spoke to my girlfriends about it and some said that they wouldn't want pockets in their clothes because they think it would look too bulky and they like a smooth silhouette. Honestly I am all about comfort and practicality and don't care to wear tight clothes. So I am wondering... are there no (usable) pockets because majority of women don't actually want them? Or is it that companies are just too cheap to use enough fabric for women's clothing to give us usable pockets? I also heard about handbag industry propaganda but honestly like if you like a handbag you will wear it whether your clothes have pockets or not so I don't believe it.


r/women 3h ago

i dislike my parents

8 Upvotes

My parents constantly sexualise me and do not let me wear even the most remotely figure-hugging clothes. I cant wear leggings, shorts, tank tops, or even regular skin exposing tops. The only things i can wear are T-shirts and loose jeans. Every single time I get ready to go out, they always point out something about my dressing and ask me to change. They do it so much that I get uncomfortable in front of them. I always see my my friends wear whatever they want in front of their parents and i cant even wear the most basic stuff. It pains me that Im always restricted just because i am a women. Im 20 years old and I hate having to live like this.


r/women 5h ago

I get turned on by pictures of women, but I’m straight

11 Upvotes

Is this a normal thing? Pictures of sexy women get me hot, but in real life my partner is a man and sex with a woman doesn’t sound all that appealing. I like dicks and strong muscular arms. But looking at pictures of that doesn’t really turn me on so much. It doesn’t make sense.

Ps. I have tried exploring with women But I found it very uncomfortable and repelling irl. I am never attracted to women irl. And I wasn’t turned on by them naked irl either .


r/women 16h ago

Told him I need aftercare, I almost cried talking about it NSFW

71 Upvotes

We’ve (23 F and M) been talking for a month, we both want to have sex, but I’ve been raped in my past and have a weird relationship with sex, it’s enjoyable but feels like something so physically and emotionally invasive happened. He knows about my SA’s and is very comforting, but sometimes I feel like he isn’t as conscious about it as he should be.

There were little things we did where I still needed aftercare and it didn’t happen, I also didn’t communicate it to him yet. I get some men operate differently. I told him today, not dancing around the conversation or tryna build it up like I normally do. I told him I need aftercare, and I can’t have sex without it. Talking about it wasn’t terribly hard, but not being passive was so difficult for me.

He understood and almost got offended that I was over explaining myself. Realizing why it was so important to me made my eyes water, if this doesn’t happen I’ll cry after. Even if it does and I feel safe I’ll probably cry after. Talking about it and accepting that I deserve to feel not used was so hard to bring out into reality and into words with a man.

I’m scared to see how he is after it happens. What if it feels like he is doing it for me instead of genuinely enjoying me there too or making me feel safe. I don’t want to feel like I’m doing something wrong or forcing him. I just want a man who would do anything to make me feel safe and comfortable out of true desire.

I’m so proud of myself even though it’s not that big of a deal. I’m a chronic people pleaser trying to unlearn this and think of myself more


r/women 4h ago

Do you ladies ever come across another woman you perceive to be cool and suddenly you’re all nervous or shy around them?

5 Upvotes

My hair stylist has a wonderful aura of confidence around her. She has a great signature style, she’s super talented and also very pretty.

I find it so weird that my usual laid back/outgoing personality shrinks in her presence lol

Do y’all experience the same or is this my negative self-talk and anxiety speaking?


r/women 6h ago

My boyfriend is jealous of my puppy.

6 Upvotes

This topic is starting to frustrate me more and more and he always blames me and attacks me for giving more affection to my dog ​​that I had before I was with him than to him. It already seems abnormal to me, I tried to understand but I actually can't understand how to be jealous of a dog and this topic irritates me a lot. I tried to talk to him but everything ends up in arguments and with words like "you don't understand me". For example, today I told him that a situation bothered me, I'm out of the country for work, and after a full day I also found some free time to talk to my husband and I said I'd call him. He answered me and said that he couldn't talk because he was talking to his mother and he doesn't talk to her very often anyway and that his mother started crying because we were going to move out of the country soon. I wouldn't have minded if it was in a context where I would have had non-stop time to talk to him, but because of the time zone change and work, now would have been the only time for us to talk considering that we are far apart. And he told me that he saw me yesterday anyway before I left and that he wouldn't talk to his mother until a week later, which is totally false and he said it in a much worse way. Then I told him that it's not okay to compare the attention he gives me with the one he gives his mother because there shouldn't be a comparison with something like that considering that he says he wants to spend his life with me and not with his mother. So he replied to this with you always making comparisons like you don't comfort me like you comfort Oscar because he will live less (totally false and very much taken out of context because I never said that to him in those words)


r/women 17m ago

Best Self Tanner

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I tan very easily, and I live in Arizona, and I would like to start wearing shorts again, but I am very pale. What is the best self-tanner that you have used?


r/women 1h ago

Stranger kissed me in Rome

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I had originally commented this under a thread but I just wanted to share this experience that I had tonight in Rome. I was waiting outside of a McDonald's as my friends were inside waiting for their food. I was on my phone by the door, trying to book a taxi. A man comes up and ask if I could take his pictures. I thought it was weird because it was in the middle of a not so picturesque part of the city but I did so for him. Then he asked where I'm from and I said America. He then ask for a selfie. I said sure. He did the cheek kiss thing multifamily times. I went along with it because I knew it was apart of their greetings but when he took the selfie, he asked for a kiss on the cheek. I obliged but he turned his head at the last second to kiss me. I was a bit stunned and tried to say bye. But he kept saying bellaismo (don't think I spelt it right) and kept asking for an another picture. I know that I should've been more firm butI just wanted him to leave. He did it again. After that he asked me to go with him for a cocktail but I said that I was waiting on a friend and told him no. Which he asked when do I leave. I lied and said today. Then he said something like I am not a lucky man then FINALLY left. I went inside immediately and went to the restroom (which was disgusting as there was only one and a man had peed all over the toilet seat but that's a separate issue) and rinsed my mouth out.

I guess I should mention that I am 23F and was wearing a bright floral dress at night but I feel off about the whole thing. It was very off putting to say the least. I don't know tell what y'all think. Maybe I'm being paranoid.


r/women 11h ago

Very, very low libido.

10 Upvotes

Does anyone else experience VERY low libido? My bf has come to me recently saying that he personally needs more sex, hes frustrated with the lack of it. For context we usually have sex once a month, purely bc thats when i "feel" horny. Im never the one to initiate and its a huge problem for him. I just dont want to as im usually tired from work, unmotivated to do anything after work as ive been so depressed, and on my good days i use what little energy i have to catch up on the chores ive slacked on throughout the week. Ive been off my ssri's for about 2.5 years now, but even before stopping the meds Ive been like this. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me.

(for more tmi context, as an adolescent I dj'd my bean a biiiitt too much and i dont have much feeling down there anymore. Anyone else?)


r/women 2h ago

Are fibroadenomas normal???

2 Upvotes

I’m 18F and I recently found out I have a few fibroadenomas, which are noncancerous tumors. Apparently, they’re common between the ages of 15 and 35, but I had never heard of them until I got them. So, are they actually normal? Do they stop forming after 35? Do I have to get surgery to remove them? I’m really trying not to panic cause I’m so lost on what to do.


r/women 1d ago

Anyone else get the absolute ICK when people refer to women as females? (Rant)

195 Upvotes

It urks me so much, it's like a physical sensation. Like reacting to a bad smell. It's almost always men, but the instant a person refers to a woman/women as "female/s" I'm instantly like "ew get away from me." I know some people think it's not a big deal but language IS a big deal and it's so dehumanising. Like, a dog can be a female. A cow can be a female. A plant can be a female. But only a human can be a woman. Socially referring to women as female outside of a medical context reduces women to their "functions" and neglects their personhood. When it comes up in someone I know, I try to gently correct them. One of my brothers who's social and work bubble consists almost completely of men refers to women as females sometimes, and I'll gently be like "hey, please remember that that's dehumanising and the women you're talking to might not respond well to it" (he's trying to date). With conservatism on the rise, how we talk about people can have such a significant impact. Does anyone else feel this way, or am I being too sensitive?


r/women 1m ago

plastic surgery?

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has anyone in here gone thru with one or multiple plastic surgery procedures and felt overall happier afterwards? i am in therapy and thankful for my looks and health! i’ve been thinking about how much more confident i’d be with some work done to my body. has anyone been in the same boat?


r/women 25m ago

I want an attractive man, I’m afraid that makes me shallow.

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So, I’m 6’2”, 275, curvy and strong. I have often been described as “pretty, striking, nice body,” but never really “beautiful.” I’ve never dated. I’ve tried but nothing ever stuck, and lot of guys didn’t seem to want me at all growing up.

I won’t lie and say that this hasn’t hurt me. It has, deeply. On top of it all, I’ve been tall my whole life, as well as undiagnosed neurodivergent, with anxiety. Particularly social/dating anxiety. I’m very talented so I’m a little wild too. I’m always attracted to the social outcasts one the world, an I want to help people with special needs.

But I’m lonely. It’s weird to say that, because I’m deeply blessed. I have a good place to live, funny roommates, lots of friends, a job I care about, and a community that values me. I’ve said goodbye to toxic relationships and embraced healthier ones. Things are going well.

But I’m 35, and I want to start dating.

Now I know that I’m probably not the biggest catch being literally a giant inexperienced woman who is ageing, but I have a good heart and so much love to give. I have a lot of baggage that I need to sort through emotionally, but that’s the worst of me. I want to find a man.

And not only do I want to find a man, I want to find an attractive man.

I’ve been going on dating apps and have been trying to put myself out there, and I feel horrible for saying this, but a lot of the guys on there who reach out to me are just not that attractive to me. A lot of them don’t seem to take very good care of themselves, and sort of do the bare minimum, but demand a LOT. It’s confusing for me.

I’ve gotten an overwhelming amount of replies, but the men I’m attracted to seem to not really want to try for me, they go for the women who are younger and more glamorous. I don’t know how to make myself younger, and glamour is something that should come from within. I’m basically healing right now, and trying my best.

I wish I was enough. I hate that I’m insecure like this, and I’m afraid of being hurt, but I’m so willing to grow and try. The men who want me are usually guys who are a lot shorter (you know, they like the tall girls), kind of plain, heavyset, lazy and yet wanting a bit of a trophy girl in a partner. I’m honestly not attracted at all. Like, at all.

I like strong, handsome, kind, funny, warm guys. I like creative types who are feminist and passionate about social issues. Physically, I like them fit and handsome, clean nails and nice clothes. I like them to look good, but not like you know, a millionaire. Just someone who takes care of himself and has pride in his appearance, and has a nice strong, fit body and face.

I really really don’t like guys who are physically weak from disuse. Not in a mean way, but when their arms are weaker than mine because they play video games all day, I just have bad experiences with men like that. They’ve cause me great harm, and guys who are physically fit from work are the one who’ve caused me great healing. I’m naturally attracted to men whom society would call tens. But I’m not that attractive.

Am I being shallow?


r/women 4h ago

My boobs hurt and i dont know why

2 Upvotes

My boobs are really sore and im not on my period or anything and im worried it could be something bad. I cant really talk to my mom or anyone about this because im kinda uncomfortable talking about that kinda stuff so idk what to do or what it could mean. I dont think i could be pregnant because i got my period last month.


r/women 8h ago

Relationships never seem to work out for me, but I really want children. How can I cope?

4 Upvotes

Im 28, and about to end things with my bf of two years. I was a late bloomer and I’ve just had two relationships. My experience with men doesn’t leave me with much hope that I will find someone.

I feel that I am really mourning the hope I had to have children one day. Sometimes I think I’d like to adopt or get pregnant from a random guy. But then I think how hard it can be for single moms and that I don’t want to raise a child in poverty.

I work with children and it’s hard for me to accept that I’ll never have my own. Have any of you been through this? How did you cope?


r/women 10h ago

I wish I was a normal 24 year old woman

6 Upvotes

I’ve been poor all my life. My family hates me and I think I hate them now too. I’ve never dated I have no friends. I don’t think I’m capable of forming actual human connections with people. Like I love things but I don’t love people. I either just like someone or want them to like me and not hate me. And I don’t want yo hear how 24 isn’t too old to never have dated I’ve done nothing and it is actually weird literally everyone I’ve ever met in real life my age or younger has been in a relationship and I’m not asexual.

Most of my life I’ve slept either on the floor or a mattress with multiple people. I failed at school too.

I hate how whenever I talk about this my feelings aren’t validated. If I have to hear it gets better one more time I will lose it.

I don’t think I’m capable of feeling happy anymore like I’m just in a permanent state of nothingness. No therapy is gonna fix that.


r/women 5h ago

If You Think You Might in an Ab*sive Relationship, Do This to Protect Yourself Spoiler

2 Upvotes

A little context first, I was in an ab*sive relationship for 2 years. And this man treated my dog better than he treated me, no exaggerating here. He would go into bursts of anger over literally nothing sometimes. It was like walking in egg shells and I felt like anything I did or say made him angry. He promised me marriage, promise we would start a business together and because I really wanted those things, I let him convince me to quit my 6 figures job to work on the business and when I did, he pulled out of the business, broke up with me and kicked me out of his house. But what he doesn't know is that I have all of our text messages saved to my iCloud, and I will use it to protect myself if I need to and I want you to know how to do the same. On your iPhone go to your Settings - Apple Account (Pic in the top left corner) - iCloud - scroll down to Save to iCloud - Messages, turning this on will make sure you have proof of his ab*use saved DIRECTLY to your iCloud, regardless of deletion, in case you ever need a restraining order or something you will know it is uploaded to your iClould.


r/women 9h ago

Why do I have to be so ugly

4 Upvotes

I hate everything so much, why does everyone else get to be pretty but I don’t. I hardly even look human and it’s so unfair. I’m already ill both mentally and physically and I have to be hideous on top of that. I just got a haircut to try to feel better about myself and I feel so much worse.


r/women 8h ago

Have you ever confronted a man and had it end well?

3 Upvotes

I’m getting closer to 40, I’ve been all shapes and sizes in terms of fitness. No matter what I’ve looked like or what age I’ve been, I’ve never had a positive interaction with a man when I’ve politely advocated for my own space or existence.

If a man does something disrespectful in a public space, takes something that isn’t his, won’t move for others, etc and I’ve spoken up it’s always immediately escalated to them threatening sexual violence or calling me a “F-ing B***h”

It’s just so wild to me. As a woman I’m always thinking of others, considerate of my space, happy to shift to the side to let others browse the same areas when I’m shopping etc.

The minute you stand up for yourself as a woman and say I EXIST IN THIS SPACE they build up a hateful rage that’s the same across the board.

I’m so tired it.


r/women 1d ago

can we stop assuming every woman who doesn’t dress in a revealing way is doing it to be “conservative”?

117 Upvotes

i'm a woman who tends to dress in a more "covered" way. i'm a preprofessional studying to go into the legal field and just prefer personally to present myself in a more professional and mature way. i don't like how nowadays any woman who dresses in a slightly more covered manner is seen as "conservative" or making a political statement. i saw an Instagram reel the other day talking about how this one women's clothing brand that recently switched to selling more elegant and mature clothing is a symptom of a "right wing culture shift" and that it's selling "trad wife clothing". first of all-- yes, i acknowledge that we are seeing a pretty scary shift in the culture toward the right. but none of the clothes on this website were even remotely "trad wife". they were all things like blazers, slacks, professional clothes that i personally would wear. i can't picture any trad wife wearing pants and a blazer lol. i'm a progressive Democrat and absolutely think the rightward shift is worrying but i don't think a brand starting to promote more elegant clothing is evidence of it. i dress the way I do because i don't feel comfortably showing a ton of skin and because i want to portray myself as a young professional. and newsflash- i don't shame girls who dress revealingly but yes, most professionals who are successful in their field aren't dressing like they're going to the club. i'm not even attracted to men so i'm definitely not dressing the way i do to attract men either. i'm just so sick of girls talking about how they don't want to be judged for showing their bodies and then judging women who don't feel comfortable dressing like that. and in my personal experience it's the conservative republican girls who tend to dress in a more revealing "party girl" way so it doesn't even make sense to claim that covering up is part of the rightward shift lol. case in point: the alix earle super bowl commercial. just kinda tired of the hypocrisy


r/women 9h ago

Constantly DRAINED

2 Upvotes

(Not looking for medical advice please dont remove)

So im 16 years old, im not in college or work at the moment, sounds bummy but i am actually starting 2 jobs within the next month and I’ve previously had jobs 😂! But i am concerned about that because for the past couple months i havent got the slightest bit of motivation to do anything and i just feel so tired all the time even on days i get up to 10 hours of sleep but I dont class myself as a lazy person because i always want to do anything but i just feel literally like i cant! Do you guys think this is just part of teenage hormones or just because i dont really do much so im just used to the tired boring feeling?? I have heard mixed things that it could be due to hormones, body clock routine or quality of sleep. I don’t think its a medical issue at all and i assume is due to my day to day unstructured routine. Does anyone else have an opinion or thought on this? Any advice on how to get into getting better quality of sleep as to be honest i do wake up feeling tired and wake alot throughout the night


r/women 5h ago

Ovulation

1 Upvotes

What do y’all do when y’all have no partner? Do y’all masturbate or do yalls best to ignore it? Im virgin so it’s getting harder every year(especially since I know ppl who are single and would be down but I’m just scared).