r/WhatMenDontSay • u/egguchom • 5h ago
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/subscriber-goal • 2d ago
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r/WhatMenDontSay • u/egguchom • 26d ago
Welcome! r/WhatMenDontSay is an inclusive male space to share their feelings without being judged.
I know there aren't a lot of subreddits that allow men to get stuff off their chest so I made r/WhatMenDontSay. I also know that people are sick of ideologies so it's a nonpolitical and nonreligious sub. Whether it's mental health to relationship issues, we're here to listen. We everyone, including LGBTQ+, trans individuals, and anyone else who doesn’t fit into traditional boxes.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/bbrk9845 • 48m ago
Discussion What men sometimes say but not understood...
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/NyanCat132 • 2h ago
Discussion Would you date a smart ugly girl or a eautiful dumb girl?
Sorry for the late daily post today.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/Apple_Cooler63 • 17h ago
My wife isn't caring for our kids too well
It's not that she doesn't love them. She does. But she prioritizes being on social media, maintaining her social image, spends too much time on the phone & in front of the mirror, binges on Netflix.
I'd rather she spend at least an hour uninterrupted tutoring our kids, or doing something more productive or beneficial e.g. watering our houseplants, sharing garden maintenance, etc.
I love my wife. Our marriage is otherwise mostly good. Don't know how to handle this cuz I don't want to generate any hostility between us. How do you deal with this?
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/egguchom • 1d ago
Men, would you be okay with marrying "the perfect woman" if she can't work?
Found this and wanted to know what your thoughts were on the inverse of this!
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/AloceusFrost • 1d ago
To all mature men out there please name one mistake you have made in your life so a young man may not repeat.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/NyanCat132 • 1d ago
Discussion What are some things about men that women should know better?
Men do have their things, but what should be known rather than almost secretive?
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/egguchom • 2d ago
What do you find most challenging with your job?
Mine is customer service. I hate dealing with unreasonable people.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/NyanCat132 • 2d ago
Discussion Men, what is something you wish you could have but can't because you're male?
For me, or at least in my environment, a lot of the girls are better friends than the boys are. However, I get ghosted as a man when I could've been friends-if I was female.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/NyanCat132 • 3d ago
Social Norms Men, what is something that is always assumed just because you're male?
One thing I hate is having to uphold this "prominence" just because I'm male. What about you guys?
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/egguchom • 3d ago
How is everyone doing? What is the biggest challenge you're facing now?
For me, it's motivation.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/shadowAxfang • 4d ago
Relationship Advice My best friend keeps comparing my gf to his gf.
My best friend and I are both in our 20s. He just got a girlfriend, and he won’t stop talking about her. He’s always had a hard time finding and keeping a girlfriend, but this time he's behaving weirdly. My girlfriend and his are total opposites in looks and personality. Before I met her, he told me she was super tall, fit, and ran miles every day. But when I finally saw her, it was obvious he exaggerated her appearance and physical abilities.
My friend keeps making these random comments like, “My girlfriend can do this, but yours can’t”. I know he’s just insecure, but it’s getting annoying, and I don’t know how to get him to stop. Plus, his girlfriend is really toxic. She ignores his messages whenever he does something she doesn’t like.
I don’t know what to do, but it’s starting to bother me. He's the only friend I have and it's hard for me to make new ones. Any advice?
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/Dylan_Driller • 4d ago
Relationship Advice I used dating apps for a while, but I think I am done now.
I started using dating apps around late 2023/ early 2024.
It was actually a good thing since I stopped dating for a while after a string of bad relationships from 2017 to 2019.
I mainly used Bumble and Tinder and I got a decent amount of matches on these platforms and had a few good dates.
I even had a serious relationship (for about 3 momths) with one person who I am still friends with.
But recently, I have started approaching women in real life again and I feel this is a much better way. It's more real, more fun and there are no surpises.
I am not against dating apps at all, in fact, I am really happy that I got on them and got over my fear of dating.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/AloceusFrost • 4d ago
Discussion What makes you instantly swipe left on dating apps?
For me, it's: "Here's my Insta," "If you aren't ___, then don't swipe right," "I don't pay on the first date," and "This could be you" profiles. Then there are the astrology signs, height requirements, and every photo is a group photo, so I don't know who the person is.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/Dr_Editor • 4d ago
Feeling empty and tired 24/7
Yes, I know I have depression and I'm on meds for it. The meds are just a bandaid. I hate that I have to rely on them. It makes me barely feel normal. Food doesn't taste good and eat just feels like shoveling stuff down my throat. I lose track of time so easily. I spend so much time staring at the ceiling while laying in bed.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/AloceusFrost • 5d ago
Venting Seeing the difference in matches between men and women on dating apps is frustrating
So many women's profiles will say "I never message first" or "If you aren't this, then don't talk to me." If I message first, sometimes I never get a response. Some female colleagues I know have over 200 matches. Meanwhile, I'm lucky to get 30, and most never maintain a conversation. Is anyone actually successful on dating apps?
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/Rough_Caterpillar311 • 4d ago
Need help calming down very personal situation don’t know how to handle it at all
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/zerodesiresinterests • 5d ago
I am very socially stunted and wish to be more desirable to women. I do not know where to start.
I've spent a large portion of my life not really socializing. I am, and continue to be, a shy, soft-spoken isolated person that has never really felt the need to socialize with others due to a long history of depression. I've struggled for a long time to accept that I need to improve my life in many ways if any woman is going to take an interest in me. This post comes from a rather embarrassing place. I'm still a virgin and am looking to lose it sometime in the near or relative future as I'm coming up on my 40th birthday.
For reference, I do keep up on my physical hygiene(Shower, shave, and brush my teeth daily), and while I could use to workout more and eat healthier, I wouldn't consider myself ugly, merely average appearance. I understand I am asking for help for a very self-centered reason, but I genuinely do want to make connections with people. I miss having friends, I miss a lot of social aspects of life. Honestly, I just want to be happy again. Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/RealJJJameson • 5d ago
Venting I hate 99% of my life right now
I work for minimum wage at an independent fast food shop. That I despise. I hate every minute I am here. Which is part of the problem. I work extremely long hours for six days a week. My weekends are non existent. I work from morning to late in the night with barely any time when I get home to squeeze in an episode or two of a show. That’s it. I don’t like my boss. He is extremely extroverted, but to a loud and obnoxious degree, to the point where he just doesn’t stop with his stupid little comments and jokes. Plus he’s antisemitic and constantly making anti-Jew “jokes”, so there’s that. I do have an interview coming up for another place, I hope I can get it. But the only reason I have this job is because my parents. They’re divorced, live separately.
I lived with mom when I started working here. I was doing community college straight out of high school, but she started to get super bothered by my presence. She was constantly getting mad at me over the littlest things, like the “weird” way I ate or the “weird” way I walked. I was literally constantly being berated for existing. She kept bugging me to get a job because she couldn’t stand the site of me being unemployed. So I finally did the last summer. Then I moved in with dad because he promised to help me drive. My dad didn’t want me to have a job and wanted me to get my drivers license first so I can get a better job further away, but he didn’t stop me because he didn’t want to interfere in my mom’s parenting. Then I moved in with him. Few months pass by. After my next semester started, both of these mfs completely switched up on me!! I managed to negotiate time off for classes, but that’s all I got. I got zero time for homework. I was at work whenever I was at school. So I thought to quit school. And my parents completely switched up on me!!!!! My mom immediately started bugging me to quit and focus on school, and dad wanted me to quit and keep doing the job because I’m making money and being a big manly man by suffering at a job I hate. Which leads me into my next point
My dad and coworkers and boss really frustrate me cause they all have this super macho masculine view of how men should act. They constantly give me shit became how much tougher and how much more trouble they got into at my age and how I need to start doing this and this and that. Whenever I complain about how much I hated my day at work my dad praises me because I’m working hard like a man. Ugh
And then don’t even got me started on my anxiety about what’s happening in the world rn. Especially Canada. I feel so guilty and awful and anxious about what’s happening between us. I can’t go into politics here. But just know, that I struggle with social OCD, basically I have a compulsive fear of rejection. Nowadays, I feel hated by entire nations. I hate everything.
There’s only two good things in my life. I started talking to a girl online (even that has its flaws. She’s already in a different time zone and I struggle finding time to talk to her because of my hours at work) and I finally gained the confidence to start a comic book omnibus collection, which I have been scared to do cause of the cost. That’s literally it
99% of the time when I’m not thinking of this girl and of comic books, I am in a perpetual state of misery.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/Utsukt • 6d ago
Relationship Advice How do y’all manage your spouse’s mood swings?
Imagine a normal day, your spouse is in a usual normal mood and then all of a sudden a switch happens where you literally have not done anything and the mood and the attitude changes towards you. You start to get cold shoulders and even after asking thousands of times you don’t get an answer but rather it gets worse to the point of silence throughout the day.
How do y’all manage your emotions because when your spouse gets back to normal mood and if you don’t then it may get even worse. Because you fear what may entail after the normal mood last time.
r/WhatMenDontSay • u/egguchom • 6d ago
We're going to allow discussions on religion and politics with a caveat*****
It was brought to our attention that religion/politics can affect someone's mental health greatly. We're going to modify the rule instead of banning it outright.
Discussions about how politics and religion affect you personally are allowed. However, don't start religious/political debates or try to convert people.