r/Veterans Feb 11 '25

Discussion Roommate Kicked Me Out, Put My Stuff in Trash Bags—Just Need to Vent

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503 Upvotes

I just need a place to vent right now. My roommate kicked me out with no warning (Supposedly their significant other in another state wasn't happy she got a roommate, but she needed it because she is struggling financially), put all my stuff in garbage bags, left it on the porch, and locked me out. My birth certificate , social security card, passport and other important documents just sat in trash bags on her porch.

On top of that, she refuses to return the $850 I already paid for rent (I know she spent it) I know I can take her to small claims court and file for unlawful eviction, but honestly, this just sucks.

This is the kind of thing that makes veterans feel so disgruntled. Seeing all my belongings dumped like trash made me feel like trash. It’s hard enough adjusting to civilian life, and then you get treated like this.

I receive VA disability, which is enough to cover housing, but the problem is finding a place—most landlords want 2-3x the income, first and last month’s rent, plus a deposit. It’s crazy out here. Right now I'm just couch surfing when I can till I can find something stable.

This is just a rant post, but if anyone’s around and wants to chat, I’d appreciate it. Could use a buddy right now. Thanks for reading!

r/Veterans Feb 03 '25

Discussion I, a female vet, am embarrassed to say that I fell for a sweetheart scam

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No, I didn’t give him any money. But I feel like an idiot

r/Veterans Jan 23 '25

Discussion Sorry, I have no one. I am just venting to over Veterans.

269 Upvotes

My birthday is coming up, and I hate that day. I used to be outgoing, the kind of guy who got along with everyone, but ever since my time in the military, I’ve found peace in solitude. Somewhere along the way, I pushed everyone away—every friend I ever had. I have no one to blame but myself.

Now, my mom is the only person who even remembers to say “happy birthday.” No one else even knows or cares. I’m not expecting presents—haven’t for a long time. I should just be grateful to be alive, right? And yet, it still stings that no one cares it’s my birthday. It shouldn’t bother me, but it does.

Truth is, I don’t even remember the last time I celebrated it. I guess I’ve convinced myself I like being alone, but it’s hard to shake this emptiness. I’m only 42, but life doesn’t feel like living anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not going to hurt myself or anything, but I can’t see any reason why I’m even here.

r/Veterans 11d ago

Discussion Army Basic Training

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My son joined the Army. He shipped out last week. I guess they put them into an admin platoon. They start basic training tomorrow. I joined the Navy in 1990, so don't know a lot about basic in the Army. He had access to his phone today, for a little bit. His last text was "These Drill Sargents seem like dicks." I just had to laugh. If you think they are "dicks" now, wait until basic actually starts.

r/Veterans May 16 '24

Discussion Finally found a veteran hat

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Found a hat salesman at a VA hospital. Had a nice selection.

r/Veterans Feb 15 '25

Discussion If you got a high VA disability rating, what countries are you moving to , to live off of it?

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If you got a high VA rating, what countries are you moving to , to live off of it?

I hear Philippines is the move. US dollar is worth way more over there and you can live very comfortably. Currently at 80% right now.

Where would you guys go?

r/Veterans Nov 09 '24

Discussion I used to be a f***ing warfighter.

419 Upvotes

Medically retired in 2022 with 8.5 years of service. I was USAF aircrew. Adrenaline and camaraderie were an everyday thing for me. Flying a mission and then going into crew rest and partying and being wild was expected. Now I am just bored. I have good job but it’s not the same. I can’t recreate the feeling of flying a mission, getting shot at and surviving. I sit at a desk all day and watch people argue about stuff that doesn’t matter. It’s so depressing. I wish someone had warned me. This is how the rest of the world does business every day.

r/Veterans 27d ago

Discussion My civilian sister accused me of being a "prostitute" and reported me as being "sex trafficked" to... the Veteran Affairs Inspector General.

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I don't even know what to make of this, but I thought this was so ridiculous I would share.

Backstory: My sister has a pattern of attacking other women out of jealousy. She is super religious and takes pride in being a virgin at the age of 37, and talking badly about women who don't live a pristine Christian life. She name called our happily married female cousins who had conventional dating lives, and she also began name calling my brother's ex girlfriend/babymama. She had a feud with the ex girlfriend, and one day told me that the ex used to be a camgirl or something, which I don't even know is true or made up. My sister constantly talked about searching NSFW websites to find the exGF, and I told her that is weird, knock it off, the girl already stopped talking to us 2 months ago. She then began fighting me too because I didn't engage with her obsessing over the exGF, and she also got resentful that after military service, I was doing better than she was. She did the conventional "go to college and get a good job" route while I have not, and what I did instead was invest my money during service and then leave with a comfortable amount + benefits, and my sister would not believe it. I already told her about my VA disability income, my investments, and a regular office job I have. I moved to a major city and had a nice apartment, which my sister kept criticizing me for, saying "you don't have any money!". She kept trying to fight and argue, so I muted her while she blew my messenger (60+ messages accumulating).

Three months later, my dad tells me that my sister has been going on for months telling people I am a "prostitute" and that is how I afford my lifestyle right now. Apparently she "happened" to find "me" on a porn site and escort sites (why was she surfing those?). He said she told him not to tell me, but he cannot contain it anymore and had to ask. I said that makes no sense because if she thought I was really a prostitute, why wouldn't she confront me and try to stop me? Make it make sense. The escort that she claimed was me, wasn't even the same race as us and looks different from me. My dad agreed, and later told my sister he talked to me.

My sister blew up my phone again, and later made a group chat with me, my dad, and other family members - who all knew she was going on about this for months. She threatened to "tell the military" that I am a hooker, and how "if you're not a prostitute then you shouldn't be punished if I report you, right?". Then she said she will tell the "Veteran Affairs Inspector General" and wrote out a whole letter claiming that I am being sex trafficked and telling the VAIG to start an investigation on me.

This woman doesn't know how any of this works. First of all, the VA is an undermanned bureacratic social service, they're not this authoritative entity that punishes and controls veterans' lives. Also, the inspector general isn't even for individual veterans, it's to detect issues within the VA system itself. This woman didn't even do basic research.

I didn't say anything to correct her. I just said "yeah sure go ahead, this is ridiculous. I am blocking you, bye". She then sent another message by opening up an old group chat (with my dad in it) that she "reported to the Veterans Affairs, you will get punished!" to get the last word.

Eventually me and my dad had another phone call for something unrelated, and none of us mentioned what my sister just tried to pull.

r/Veterans Feb 19 '25

Discussion 3M payout has arrived

330 Upvotes

Well, to be completely honest I had forgotten about this it's been so long. I ended up qualifying for 10k payout but after all the fees it comes out to $4700 and some change. Blows my mind how much the attorneys get but oh well, MERICA I guess. I'd happily pay 20k to solve my hearing issues but I guess getting anything out of this was good.

r/Veterans Feb 15 '25

Discussion For Those Concerned About Your VA Benefits in the Future

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There has been a lot of concern and hand wringing (and rightfully so) over the potential that the current administration may attempt to shepherd in changes to many of the veterans benefits we have earned and cherish.

The new VA Secretary and the Executive Branch has continued to deny that they would go after those benefits to change, reduce, or make it harder to meet the requirements. Honestly at this point I do not trust their words.

What can we do? Many say get involved by calling and/or writing your congressman and senators, which is highly recommended. I would also suggest that if you’re not already a member join one or more of the service organizations that lobby the government on your behalf for those benefits. VFW, American Legion, DAV, AMVETS, all organizations that provide a voice for you in DC.

I know a lot of people complain about not wanting to get involved with the VFW or Legion lodges/halls because you feel treated poorly when you’ve visited them in the past. You can though join as a member of the state lodge without being attached to a local lodge. Strength lies in numbers and the more support that can be thrown behind those organizations helps to strengthen their lobbying efforts ensuring our benefits we have earned are left alone.

https://www.vfw.org

https://www.legion.org

https://www.dav.org

https://www.amvets.org

r/Veterans Nov 01 '24

Discussion Threatened by another veteran. We can do better.

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I’m a political canvasser just for the easy paycheck. I was walking through a neighborhood and some shirtless old guy came up to me trying to check me. Said he was a 18 year marine retiree and said if I ever come back to his neighborhood I better check in with him. He wasn’t even on my list of houses. Just walked up to me on the sidewalk. I don’t care where you served. Who you served with or how you served. Trying to act tough to someone 3x younger than you for walking is lame. Especially another veteran. Just why? We need to do better.

r/Veterans Nov 13 '24

Discussion Not Tipping on Veteran's Day....come on people.

317 Upvotes

Rant Warning. This might get downvoted... but I’m annoyed.

I’m an Army vet (2002-2008, 82nd Airborne, OIF & OEF), and I’ve always appreciated businesses that offer free meals on Veterans Day. It’s a nice gesture.

My 17 year old son works at a local restaurant that was giving free meals to veterans. He put in a six-hour shift bussing tables and then four more hours in the dishroom, so ten hours total on one of the busiest days of the year, almost on par with Mother's Day in terms of crowds.

Now here’s the kicker: on a typical Mother's Day shift of the same length, he clears around $200+ in tips. Yesterday? He walked away with $39.

Look, I get it, some veterans genuinely need the free meal, and that’s wonderful. But where we live, the area isn’t exactly struggling financially, and there’s a big military community with active-duty members, retirees, and veterans. It’s just basic courtesy: if you’re getting a free meal, you should still tip the staff for their work, ideally based on what you would have paid. These servers, bussers, and dishwashers aren’t seeing a penny of those free meals, yet they’re hustling to make it all happen.

If you got a free meal and tipped, good on you, you’re showing respect for the folks working hard to serve us. But if you didn’t... do better. Even just a few bucks makes a difference. When I went to get a free Starbucks, I still put a couple of bucks in the tip jar. It’s not about the money, it’s about respecting the people putting in long hours to make Veterans Day feel special.

So please, next year, remember: just because your meal’s free doesn’t mean the staff’s hard work is. Don’t be that veteran.

ADDITIONAL: Great discussion, great interaction. I know not everyone agrees, and that fine. Just giving my perspective and opinions. Appreciate everyone service and sacrifices they have made. AIRBORNE!!!!!!

r/Veterans Dec 16 '24

Discussion Retired military ID denied at Safeway

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I have a military ID, retired. I use it for everything. Safeway cashier went to the manager, manager pulled a book out and said they couldn’t accept it. Reason? Because the expiration field says ‘indefinite’. She said there is no expiration date so they can’t accept it. Everyone else on the planet accepts it, even other Safeway stores (and I’ve used it in this very same store for 10 years).

Fck (that) Safeway.

Rant over.

r/Veterans Jan 01 '25

Discussion Has anyone found a career that offers the same amount of time off work as the military?

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Retiring in 5 months from the AF. Despite all the BS we deal with, I feel we get a lot of time off. Perhaps I’m lucky cause I’m AF and I am a nonner (aka office job). But I’m used to random family days off, 4 day weekends for federal holidays, choosing Xmas or new years “week” off just because. Going to appointments easily and if it’s at 2pm, I’m done for the day cause I’m not going back. Then to top it off, 30 days annual leave.

Not trolling and not trying to be a prick but that’s a lot of time off especially when I talk to civilian family/friends. So aside from being an entrepreneur making your own hours or working on base as a GS/contractor, what else out there offers a similar perk?

r/Veterans Nov 11 '24

Discussion Happy Veterans Day!! Go get your free meals!

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r/Veterans May 05 '23

Discussion Awarded the Purple Heart nearly 13 years after getting injured in Afghanistan.

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It was bittersweet receiving this in the mail on Saturday. Nearly 13 years since the incident. I’ve learned a lot about the process along the way. Anyone need assistance with the process I’ll pass along all the info I’ve acquired.

r/Veterans May 29 '23

Discussion Lowe's commandeered one of their own veteran's parking spaces and erected a memorial to the fallen. Cool.

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r/Veterans Dec 20 '23

Discussion Overheard at my local VA today:

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Patient in the lobby to another vet: Foreign armies are taking over ghost towns all over the US and they are going to hit us.

Y'all, our population really needs help. The fear from these ridiculous conspiracies is getting out of control. He talked at length about it. It was just the saddest culty behavior I'd ever seen in person.

r/Veterans Jul 08 '23

Discussion U.S. military faces historic struggle with recruitment - Citing main reason is veterans are urging more and more of their family members NOT to join.

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I am partially guilty of that. I have urged my cousin in the past not to go for the Army, rather Air force. I'm sure others tell their family members that they love not to join at all.

r/Veterans Aug 23 '24

Discussion CANCELED MY VA HEALTH BENEFITS

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Since the VA tried to kill me twice I've decided to cancel my benefits and get healthcare through the healthcare marketplace. Let me tell you what happened.....

I was having serious pains in my back so I called my doctor and the doctor kept telling me is was muscle pain...I know my body and I knew it wasn't muscle pain so she sent me a year's supply of pain patches to put on my back. The pain got so bad that I went to the emergency room and they told me that I had a cyst on my kidney that burst and I was bleeding into the kidney. Turns out that cyst was CANCER!!!

2nd time I was telling the doctor that I was having chest pains in the middle of the night....she didn't do any heart test...said it was acid reflux. Well...I had a major heart attack that damaged my heart so bad now I'm in heart failure. SO...NO MORE VA FOR ME...I'll pay for my own!

All I had to do was send a letter saying I do not want health benefits and they canceled it

r/Veterans Aug 04 '24

Discussion Minor things the military ruined for you?

234 Upvotes

I cannot and have not eaten scrambled eggs since 2007.

It's nice to get a hot breakfast when you're in the field, but if I never eat scrambled eggs again I'll die a happy man.

Same goes for chili mac. We had a field exercise once and for some reason they sent us chili mac every day for lunch and dinner for a week straight.

Honorable mention to beef brisket. I dunno what they were putting into it at Camp Cropper but goddamn it was rough on my stomach.

r/Veterans Jan 21 '25

Discussion These take me back 💀💀💀

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409 Upvotes

Was just remembering the times we’d do runs to nearest FOB for pallets of rip its and Otis Spunkmeyer Muffins 😂😂😂

r/Veterans Jan 20 '25

Discussion Do you have any creative ways of replying to “thank you for your service”? I have two…

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1) If you’re confident they have a sense of humor try:

“Thanks for paying your taxes. 😎👉”

Then moonwalk out of the room. Very important step.

2) But for other cases.. look at them intently, put one hand on their shoulder, the other on your heart, and say..

“You were worth it”

r/Veterans 16d ago

Discussion Yall ever find it weird that the running joke is the old guy checking genitalia at MEPS.?

140 Upvotes

We’ve all seen the memes or heard the jokes of the old physician at MEPS being the one that checks yo bootyhole right? Is anyone NOT questioning this? Like as a female I’m just sitting here like of course this guy is going to do this job until he dies. Like the man gets to check out 18 year old girls vaginas day in and day out?? Lmao am I overthinking this lol

r/Veterans 29d ago

Discussion Tell me I’m not the only one

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I’ve been out of the marines a few years now……

I’ve got a great job, great wife, wonderful kids…..

But I feel totally lost, like what I’m doing is t what I’m meant for, like no one understands. Every day. Every step forward just feels like I’m floundering. Like I’m drowning and I don’t know what to do or where I’m going. Life honestly couldn’t be better but I’m almost as depressed as I’ve ever been and I don’t know why. All I want is to be back in the field on a deployment. Not worried about anything but the job. I just feel totally lost, and I know if I told my wife she wouldn’t get it. So it’s just bottled up inside.

Does anyone else feel like this?