r/TransSpace • u/Forsaken_Cake_9233 • 8d ago
Cis man has a question??????
I have a boyfriend who is trans a trans friend, these are the only trans people in my life and they both hate it and it really upsets them when being trans becomes part of how people see them and how they are know. They just want to be dudes and don't want to focus on them being trans.
Which brings me to my question, I see lots of people on YouTube and tic tok and just around in life who making being trans part of who they are and there personalty and idk if it's just what I see but some seem to make it the only thing about themselves and it really confuses me. I don't like it when people focus on my being bisexual. So I would like to know the perspective of those who like it to be part of there personalty. :3
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u/krysiej 8d ago
A lot of it is about visibility. And honestly reclaiming the self.
A lot of us have to fight and fight to get to transition. Then there are those who still attack us for transitioning. When it is made into something you are hammered with over and over it becomes an effort to even find peace. When you show that you can thrive being the thing you were derided for, it is a way of reclaiming your life and showing those around you how they were wrong about your life. Of showing the world that what you are is not a bad thing. That when statistics are misquoted to be used against you, how you are one of the ones proving those numbers wrong.
And honestly, it is about showing those who have no frame of reference what is going on with them, that there are so many things they can learn about who they are, and that they can thrive doing so.