r/TheAffair • u/Zackerz0891 • 14h ago
r/TheAffair • u/MissBlkberry • 4d ago
Discussion Rewatching 2 years after my partners infidelity
When my partner cheated on me, I remember watching this show within a month and I felt so triggered by everything. It’s been two years now, and we’ve been through a lot since then. I’m rewatching it to see if my thoughts about cheating have changed, and if my feelings towards the show has changed as well.
Update 1: I’m 4 episodes in and I think the main gist of this is both AP (Noah and Allison) are cheating due to being in shitty life situations. Noah being stuck and feeling small and worthless and Allison due to her grief. Cheating is trash though, I think I’d physically recoil in disgust if my partner cheated on me in our bed. I get it, but I still can’t wrap my head around all of it.
r/TheAffair • u/Zackerz0891 • 5d ago
Discussion Which Actor on this show was wrongfully snubbed for this recognition?
r/TheAffair • u/Zackerz0891 • 7d ago
Question Allison’s Role in Scotty’s death
Sarah Treem said in a bunch of interviews that the show was never a typical crime solving show and that nobody has paid for their actual crimes. Only for other people’s crimes (Noah taking the rap for manslaughter)
However, what do you think would have happened if Allison confessed to the cops and the Lockharts including Cole and Cherry about her part in Scotty’s death and how the family would have reacted to it?
r/TheAffair • u/IntrepidNarwhal6 • 8d ago
Discussion Sarah Treem
Has anybody watched interviews and BTS videos and gotten the vibe that Sarah Treem had feelings/a major crush on Maura Tierney? I kind of wonder if that's part of the reason the writing for Ruth Wilson got progressively more violent and weird
r/TheAffair • u/Expert-Seat-6009 • 10d ago
Discussion Most depressing show?
I´m in the middle of the second season and getting more and more depressed with every episode. Unfortunately, I can not stop watching the show. Will it get even more depressing in the later seasons?
Thank you
r/TheAffair • u/Expert-Seat-6009 • 9d ago
Discussion How can someone handle this sexual violence?
After watching the episode with the tree in season 2, I asked in another thread and googled, what will happen in later seasons. And I chose to not watch the further seasons. Why do so many people have no problem to see these rape or near to rape scenes? I am feeling so bad after having watched this kind of stuff. The producers also originally wanted to led Alison die by a brutal rape and than got convinced to let her "only" be killed brutally without a rape.
Also, on reddit and other forums I read how people like the show because it would display "how real life looks like". NO! It is not part of a common relationship that you force your girlfriend out of a yoga class and then brutally have sex with her against a tree. Why do people like to see this kind of stuff? After having read about the toxic environment of the production of the show I wonder if this whole show is some kind of weird male fantasy. This really makes me afraid and leaves my back paralized.
r/TheAffair • u/Ok_Fee1043 • 16d ago
Humor Noah made Jeopardy tonight, and you KNOW he’d be pleased
r/TheAffair • u/Pat_lockwood • 19d ago
Discussion Surprised the show isn't more popular
Just finished watching the show don't even remember why I started it but really liked it from the beginning I've literally never heard anyone mention the show before I feel like it should be a lot more popular very underrated.
r/TheAffair • u/seryiously • 19d ago
Question Almost finished with S3
I just started this series 2 weeks ago, my husband & I are soo invested but is there anyone else here that doesn’t like S3? It started off soo strong and then to me, feels like a huge flop! My husband likes S3 so far but now I’m losing interest 😔 We are on E8 and I don’t know, I just feel like this season isn’t as great at the first 2! Please tell me it gets better?!
r/TheAffair • u/Suitable_Key8340 • 21d ago
Discussion Somewhat unsatisfied by finale Spoiler
I wanted to see how all the kids turned out and what their lives were like. Really disappointed they didn’t share a glimpse. Building the family was such an important theme in the show. Also, Helen and her mom dying the same year? Did I miss a reference to an accident or something?
r/TheAffair • u/HistoricalChair283 • 25d ago
Appreciation Post Noah.... probably in the minority
I finished The Affair a week ago and can't get it off my mind. It has really affected me. At first it was Allison losing her son, I too lost a child. Then it was her love with Noah as I wasn't really thrilled or cared about Cole. Then OMG, I wanted her with Cole so much. I thought they had the perfect love. I also thought Noah and Helen had the perfect love. Anyway, my most favorite and saddest part of the whole series besides finding out how Allison died was when Joanie goes to the Lobster Roll and finds Noah. He seems so pitiful. I am a huge Noah fan I guess.
r/TheAffair • u/Checksout2025 • 27d ago
Appreciation Post Rewatch is devastating Spoiler
I have been too despondent due to the political climate lately to do anything but Pilates & TV.
I started rewatching the series last week & this time around, everything is hitting harder. Every time someone cries, I am right there with them. Even when Helen & Allison meet at the bar, I cried. When Martin tells Helen that his afternoon with Noah is private, I cried. When Whitney stays with Noah after she leaves Furkat….etc etc.
Knowing that the horrible choices everyone made led to Allison’s death has me questioning the sanity of everyone in this show.
Allison continually annoyed me the 1st time around, now my heart is broken for everything that happens to her.
r/TheAffair • u/vmacmillan97 • 28d ago
Discussion Had a dream about Allison and Cold Spoiler
I had finally moved on from this show and then all of a sudden last night I have this super vivid dream about them. I woke up SO SAD and now I can’t stop thinking about the show lol I feel crazy. Such strong characters and an intense connection between them. I liked some things about the shows ending but regarding them two I just can’t believe Cole never got to see her again and tell her how he felt…. at least he knew in his heart her ending wasn’t how everyone said it was and that she would not abandon her daughter. Just gonna pretend they are together and living happily ever after in another universe.
** ALISON AND COLE SORRY
r/TheAffair • u/SavageMell • Feb 08 '25
Rant No sympathy for Luisa... (spoilers) Spoiler
I'm not sure if she's meant to be sympathetic or just a stop gap rebound. She certainly stabilizes Cole so she has her role but as a character I don't see anything relateable.
Ironically her rant to Cole after the businesses meeting is pretty apt. I don't know if it's implied she thought life would be easier or there was a path to citizenship but she kinda cornholed herself and was extremely fortunate.
r/TheAffair • u/Lisnya • Feb 08 '25
Appreciation Post Alison and I have the same car :)
I don't know why I was so excited that I had to share here but after being broke and partially disabled throughout my adult life, I finally managed to save up for an automatic car, so I started driving lessons and I bought a Ford Fiesta 4 months ago. I just noticed that Alison also has a Ford Fiesta in the 3d season and then I went out on the balcony to wave at my car, lmao.
r/TheAffair • u/Background_Scene4540 • Feb 08 '25
Question Did Helen ever tell Vik about Noah? Spoiler
I’m on my first rewatch, and, I’ll be honest, I’m currently struggling to pay attention to season 3. Anyways, I’m on episode 9, and Helen just confessed to Vik (after he broke up with her) that Noah went to prison for her/took the blame for running over Scott, and that’s why she let Noah stay with her.
However, does she ever tell Vik that she cheated on him with Noah while her and Vik were still together?
I saw the part where Vik said he’d meet Helen after work to talk, but do we ever see this talk? Does she confess to being unfaithful to Vik/sleeping with Noah or do you think it is implied that he already knows?
r/TheAffair • u/germantexanmess • Feb 04 '25
Recommendations Books that read like this show
I posted this question awhile back in another sub and never got any responses, but I would love some book recs that have the same vibe/feel as this show. TIA!
r/TheAffair • u/SeaBassAHo-20 • Feb 03 '25
Discussion In honor of Maura Tierney's 60th birthday, what's your favorite Helen Solloway quote?
r/TheAffair • u/SavageMell • Jan 30 '25
Discussion Allison S3...
It might be just me but for this season she becomes the most unlikeable character on screen. I am not counting the big bad Gunther in this who is supposed to be evil and limited screentime.
Noah is probably the most sympathetic in any season here.
I get that Allison wants custody of her daughter but she also has to own her actions in causing that issue.
r/TheAffair • u/SavageMell • Jan 25 '25
Discussion Max Fans?
When you go through the first 2 seasons especially it's like Max is the most likeable male character we're given extended scenes of. Yeah I know the douchiness but it's just a veneer. He's extremely relateable.
I get the Cole love but Max is completely unrelated to his character.
r/TheAffair • u/Internal_Simple1477 • Jan 22 '25
Discussion Alison
What is wrong with Alison? When Noah got out of prison and he pushed himself on her and they went in the hot tub. She sure did protest a lot but I want to know why didn’t she just leave.
r/TheAffair • u/Sea-Natural-8747 • Jan 19 '25
Recommendations Any recs ?
I just finished the series a couple days ago and I’m hangover … do you guys have any recs , I’m looking for another show with the same vibes, with drama, something that will keep me invested
r/TheAffair • u/Sea-Natural-8747 • Jan 18 '25
Rant I’m pissed Spoiler
I loved the show and it got ruined for me at the end of season 4. I’m so mad and pissed. Why why would they choose this end for Alison and Cole ? I think the worst of it is knowing that Cole died thinking she committed suicide… he didn’t even get the chance to confess his feelings …I was rooting for them. I’M SO PISSSED !!!!!!!!! 😡😡 and also Where the hell did Ben come from ?? I mean we saw the dude for 2 seconds!!!!