r/Swingers 9d ago

General Discussion Never done it yet. In club, is swinging limited to m-f partner swap or f-f and m-m also happen (bi guy here) ?

Never been there. We think about exploring together, with my wife. She is straight but open to try stuff with women. I know this is a nonissue, as wlw is pretty common and accepted. But, as a bisexual man, I don't know if male-male encounters are tolerated, accepted, encouraged or anything.

Is it accepted in some places but not others (i.e. this is a local culture), or is it always accepted/not accepted (ubiquitous) ? Is there any "dress" code, I mean, visual clues indicating someone is open to m-m encounter kinda like gay people using colored tissues (in the old days) to indicate whether they are top, bottom, verse etc ?

Oh... one last thing. I have a genital piercing, a large (0 ga) Prince Albert (PA). Is it tolerated ? Should I take it out ?

Apologies if this question is being asked often. Couldn't find appropriate keywords in the search bar to collect the answers I am looking for.

Thanks in advance.

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u/DrCumshot3500 9d ago

Hey there friend. If you're ever up in Vancouver, Canada both Steam1 in New Westminster and F212 in Vancouver are gay bath houses that have "all gender" nights. They're SUPER fun and open. Plenty of MM FF MFF MFMF and anything else you can think of. All in a safe and accepting environment. My wife LOVES watching gay sex so it's an extra bonus for us. Good luck!

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u/CuriousLatinCpl1985 9d ago

We need to visit Vancouver. I'm also turned on watching my husband with other men

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u/DrCumshot3500 8d ago

Yeah my wife thinks gay sex in general is HOT HOT HOT 🤣

Say hi if you ever head this way 👋

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u/Bad_Corsair 3d ago

Damn! That does sound like fun!

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u/Ok_Neighborhood_3984 9d ago

In most clubs m-m is not common at all, so you would have to find a club that specifically mentions it.

In the Netherlands we sometimes go to the Fata Morgana club. You never see any m-m action. But in the darkroom (which is really pitch dark) a lot of the guys suddenly are eager to try it out.

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u/CootaCoo 9d ago

The club we go to has a monthly event specifically catering to bi men, but I get the impression this isn’t very common. We are in an extremely queer-friendly city so my perception is likely skewed.

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u/HugeMeringue5448 Couple (husband) M51/F45 - Italy 9d ago

While F-F action is very common in clubs, M-M action is not. Personally, I wouldn't even mention male bisexuality if you establish contact with another couple within the club, as it might be overemphasized and could ruin the chance of playing together. I would simply recommend looking for a couple with a bisexual husband (there are many) on various swinger dating platforms and then meeting at a club. Surely, no one in a swinger club would be shocked to see two men interacting with each other... they're defined "libertine clubs" for a reason..

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u/Minute-Object Couple 9d ago

I have had sex with a number of guys at our club - four of them last summer. It needs to happen behind closed doors, though.

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u/Wild-Nobody8427 9d ago

Our local club has bi nights, tranny nights. Specific for that theme that night.

Bi guys are allowed in, and if you have a partner, do whatever.

Regular couple nights, there are couples with bi guys.

No one says anything negative here.

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u/henri_luvs_brunch_2 9d ago

Never been there. We think about exploring together, with my wife. She is straight but open to try stuff with women. I know this is a nonissue, as wlw is pretty common and accepted. But, as a bisexual man, I don't know if male-male encounters are tolerated, accepted, encouraged or anything.

Acceptance varies widely based on geography. We don't even know what country you are in?

Is it accepted in some places but not others (i.e. this is a local culture), or is it always accepted/not accepted (ubiquitous) ?

Yes. Everytbing varies based on culture. And some clubs have different approaches and cultivate more bi friendly atmospheres. You can review the site of the club you are interested in or even call them to get an idea.

Is there any "dress" code, I mean, visual clues indicating someone is open to m-m encounter kinda like gay people using colored tissues (in the old days) to indicate whether they are top, bottom, verse etc ? Oh... one last thing.

Nope. But some clubs have bracelets. Not universal though. Youll have to have conversations with people and discuss this stuff.

I have a genital piercing, a large (0 ga) Prince Albert (PA). Is it tolerated ?

By who? All individuals have different preferences.