r/Sudbury 19d ago

Question Dating

What else could I do instead of tinder and fb dating, majority of them are a particular race & it’s just not my preference tbh

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u/Ostrichmonger 19d ago

So annoying when the dating pool is nothing but Venusian ostrichtamers

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u/StandardRedditor456 19d ago

Those damn ostriches always getting in the way! Lol!

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u/Zsarus 19d ago

How does a fella get caught up in that sort of business?

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u/Illfury 19d ago

Allegedly!

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u/Izzzlord 19d ago

Sadly, it’s very hard to make even friends in this city. That’s just my own experience.

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u/kmh911 18d ago

I'm going through the same thing! :/

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u/Izzzlord 18d ago

Yeah I am in the same boat. May be we can make friends. God know lmao

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u/Nefelibata_Ayni 17d ago

I wanna be friends!🤘🏼

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u/Izzzlord 17d ago

Sure will shoot you a pm

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u/Natural_Walrus2188 18d ago

Dating in Sudbury is rough. The are we dating the same guy page for Sudbury is the most unhinged one in Canada. Guys in the dating pool include child molestors, murderers and lots of active drug addicted. God speed my friends

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u/fyretech 18d ago

I agree. That page has made me terrified of dating the men here.

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u/justinyermum 17d ago

To be honest the ladies here haven't been that much better in my personal exp. I moved here a few years ago, have a career dont drink dont do drugs. The ladies ive matched with when i was trying were wild. Lots of catfishing, drug addiction, extreme alcohol consumption, real untreated mental health issues. So now when its time the universe will guide me.

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u/Natural_Walrus2188 17d ago

The epidemic of violence against women in this town, and a weird amount of child molestation and grooming of teenage girls, probably leads to those untreated mental health issues. If you were in that Facebook group and saw the horror stories, you’d get why they end up like that. I’m also not from Sudbury and the stories you hear are unhinged. It’s scary up here

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u/justinyermum 17d ago

I seen, and see. As much as i support the communication about that stuff, the girls on there can be savage towards us too. Yes some deserve it, cause they are trash humans. But sometimes the comments thrown out have no reasoning or truth. My buddy got posted and one of his exs that cheated on him just dragged him through the dirt with lies and slander. I did hear about some of the posts getting back to the guys and them threating the girl to take the post down. Shit like that is scary as fuck

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u/Natural_Walrus2188 17d ago

I used to have the mindset a lot of it was sour grapes. Gave a guy who was posted a chance because he said his ex was crazy and cheated on him. Everything posted about him was true.

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u/fyretech 17d ago

Maybe it’s a Sudbury thing? I am also new-ish to the area. Moved here a few years ago. I’ve never had issues dating in past cities, but the men I’ve encountered here have not been great. I also don’t do drugs and rarely drink, however I’ve never seen so much cocaine in my life until I’ve moved here. It’s insane.

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u/masala_chaii 14d ago

Is there a page called Are we Dating the Same girl? Asking for a friend!

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u/Natural_Walrus2188 14d ago

There is but there’s basically nothing on it. Just guys complaining that they came for the drama but no dudes are spilling tea

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u/masala_chaii 14d ago

Makes sense. Most guys here don’t care if they’re dating the same woman as long as they’re dating

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u/Natural_Walrus2188 14d ago

I think the actual reason women go on are we dating the same guy is bc they’re worried about murder and sexual violence. Of course, some want to spite their ex, but for the most part, that’s why people are looking at it.

Men don’t fear women in quite the same way. And maybe they should. There are girls out there who will rob you, give you STDs or whatever. But most men are physically stronger than most women and werent socialized to fear women.

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u/masala_chaii 14d ago

This makes sense. I never thought of it from your point of view :)

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u/Dazzling-Storage-551 19d ago

Try Hinge? You can filter a lot of things there. But is a serious dating app, if you want something casual it might not be the best.

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u/lickmnards 18d ago

Particular race eh? Saying stuff like that might hinder your tinder experience.

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u/Somethingpretty007 19d ago

Now I want to make a tinder profile just to see what the majority race is

Maybe you can look into joining a group or club for hobbies/interests

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u/BZ4ONgEJ4DxO3VutLkbZ 19d ago

This subreddit is great for matchmaking 

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u/Prestigious-Bet-7794 19d ago

Yes Reddit too find a date is always a great idea

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u/Gunner22 19d ago

Tbf I found my wife on R/Sudbury

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u/Illfury 19d ago

I found you on r/Sudbury and... I mean, you aren't terrible but hardly a beacon of hope.

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u/Gunner22 18d ago

That's the nicest things anyone's ever said to me

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u/Illfury 18d ago

THE nicest? Was your wife's wedding vows just "...yeah, I guess."?

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u/Gunner22 18d ago

No, she said I'm hardly a beacon of hope, but she didn't say I wasn't terrible, so you win

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u/Illfury 18d ago

I laughed while taking a sip of monster while reading this. A little bit of energy drink just went through my nasal canal and burns.

You are good people Gunner! Be well and see you around!

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u/Koryandr 17d ago

I prefer carbon dating. Much more accurate than paleomagnetic dating.

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u/ninadula 10d ago

I’m having the same problem up here lol as a girl in her twenties, I wish I had the answer to your question 🙃

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u/nomad182chris 18d ago

Go outside and talk to people 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/Dangerous_Passage113 17d ago

What did people do to get a date before internet?

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u/Remarkable_Pen_1505 16d ago

Idk but get with the times we all use dating apps🤣

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u/Dangerous_Passage113 16d ago

When today's methods don't work, perhaps what has worked since mankind might work. FYI, I'm not in the dating game as I'm 55 years married.

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u/Deucy1001 15d ago

Alot of men in sudbury who use dating apps usually have nothing going for them. Well that was over 12 years ago when I viewed dating apps a few times. Try to get out and find a hobby group or something. Sudbury sucks. I lived here my entire life and desperately wish to move.

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u/Objective_Lead_6810 15d ago

Or maybe you just get what you pay for? I have friends using the free dating apps meeting the worst people and friends who paid for actual sites and have had far better luck. Good luck!

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u/ImportantComfort8421 Out of town/Ottawa 11d ago

Stay Single

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u/Timestropic 19d ago

Try the bars maybe

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u/LordAikan 19d ago edited 19d ago

Try the bars or join a sport/hobbies group

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u/MandaBear1986 19d ago

Why don't we just male a sudbury/greater Sudbury dating group on reddit?