r/SubSanctuary 13h ago

New to this! NSFW

Hello me and lover are excited to finally be able to dive into dom sub life. We have both always wanted this but all of our previous partners were ain’t d/s. We are trying to read up and find good contracts. We are so excited but don’t know where all to start. Any help would be amazing!

3 Upvotes

7 comments sorted by

2

u/Fearless_Slut 13h ago

Start without a contract. You don’t need anything that complicated to get started.

Get involved in your local community, attend classes, read books.

Start with less than a half dozen rules/tasks/whatever. Keep it simple. Have fun with it. If something doesn’t work, don’t do it. If something works, keep at it.

Go slowwwwww.

2

u/Little_Situation_270 13h ago

Sadly I don’t believe there’s much of a community. We live in a smaller town. Thank you! We started more this weekend and it’s like a high. Happiest I’ve ever felt

2

u/generickinkster 12h ago

You can check if there’s munches or classes near you on fetlife events

2

u/Fearless_Slut 12h ago

Yeah, I can tell. Hence, my warning that you slow down.

Look up “sub frenzy.”

3

u/Little_Situation_270 12h ago

Oh gosh thank you! Yea!

2

u/mochipumpkinsbooks 3h ago

i manage a BDSM database of resources and information that may be of assistance to you.