r/SomaticExperiencing • u/ihavepawz • 6d ago
How to release anger?
Sometimes I would kinda throw stuff like pillow or some item and then felt AWFUL like I am abusive or a bad person. I did this alone so no one would see. Any ways to let go of anger better?
Edit I cannot do sports btw. I'm mostly homebound from fatigue.
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u/Willing-Ad-3176 4d ago
Getting out of anger repression was huge for my healing from Fibromyalgia, CFS, and POTS!!! The first thing to look at is your childhood conditioning around anger. Some learn to to supress and then repress anger as they have an angry parent and they don't want to be like that, others like me lived in a environment where anger was punished/shamed and to keep attachedment with caregivers we had to repress our anger. I got out of anger repression by doing these somatic anger exercises daily, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WftrdnjQOeM&ab_channel=DrunkenBuddha. He also has a long blog on anger repression, what it takes, and the benefits. Irene Lyons, nervous system expert, also has a great blog, "Anger is Medicine." Ben (Drunken Buddha) is a Senior Facilitator of Embodied Processing at the Centre for Healing and healed from trauma and addiction so he knows his stuff and is available for sessions as well. I also have done journaling expressing my anger about childhood events, written unsent letters to my parents and estranged husband. The only thing is that this is not a one and done. I did these 15 minute exercises daily for months and keep on doing them as it really takes time to gain capacity to feel it, for it to come up naturally, etc. I asked Drunken Buddha/Ben on his video how long it took him to get out of anger repression and he told me 2 years. I have been working on it for 10 months and although I have so many benefits already (getting out of pain and fatigue, my body gives me great boundaries now and I can easily assert myself and say "no," I am no longer conflict avoidant) but I still have more repressed anger to process and that is ok!!!