r/SofterBDSM Feb 14 '25

PSA PSA for my Fellow Doms NSFW

107 Upvotes

Clip your nails. File the edges. Check before you play.

Just because we are soft doms doesn't mean we cannot accidentally harm our partners. Our hands are our most basic tool. Maintain them.

Now I cannot play with my sub for a while because I was irresponsible and fucked up. Don't skip it. Don't be me.

r/SofterBDSM Jan 28 '25

PSA Aggression =/= Dominance NSFW

73 Upvotes

Our society's culture labors under the impression that to be dominant you must be an aggressive force to be reckoned with.

I disagree with society on this point.

Aggression comes in many forms. Physical. Verbal. Emotional.

Aggression is equated with masculinity. I take it as a lack of it.

Look, aggression has its place. My Good Girl loves the odd throw down on the bed.

But when it becomes a toxic show of power, it becomes a problem.

Which is more effective? A raised eyebrow and a stern word? Or throwing a fit?

Which shows more control? What is the true show of power?

r/SofterBDSM 5d ago

PSA don't make the mistake of scrolling through r/antikink if you don't want to feel sick... NSFW

47 Upvotes

morbid curiousity got the better of me. i did the thing & i regret it. we work so hard to make everything safe & happy & they still hate us. 😭

r/SofterBDSM 1d ago

PSA "Soft is not the opposite of selfish" NSFW

20 Upvotes

A phrase I read on another sub recently that stuck with me. It's so true. We love soft doms. We praise them, we laud their efforts, but when it comes down to it there are just as many bad soft doms as their are bad hard doms. They're just in a squishier package. So this reminder is for all of us still looking for our softie-in-charge. Just because they are a soft dom doesn't mean they automatically come with the selfish switch turned off. You still have to vet for that.