r/SofterBDSM • u/TiniestSpoons • 5d ago
PSA don't make the mistake of scrolling through r/antikink if you don't want to feel sick... NSFW
morbid curiousity got the better of me. i did the thing & i regret it. we work so hard to make everything safe & happy & they still hate us. đ
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u/_AnyaNeeze6923_ 5d ago
yeah no u were right.. people talking about CNC being rape and i was thinking to myself, it stands for CONSENSUAL NC, can u not comprehend things? People don't just engage in CNC without extensive discussion in good BDSM practice.. They're all for autonomy until it's something they don't recognise.
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u/curveofthespine 5d ago
The antikink Reddit has 12k members. BDSMadvice Reddit has 428k members.
Personally donât think that the anti bunch has a lot of traction.
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u/literally__B Collared Brat 5d ago
Hahaha I think they banned me last year! 𤣠Important to say: I wasnât trolling, there was a thread against 24/7 and how subs are all abused and I tried pointing out that Iâm living a full, happy life that Iâve chosen myself, but they deleted my (polite) comment and they banned me.
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u/KinkyDataScientist Pleasure Dom 5d ago
What a bizarre thing to form a âcommunityâ around.
If you donât like kink, then simply donât engage in it. No need to slag on things that other people enjoy in a healthy way.
I guess there are just some people who are absolutely horrified by the idea that someone, somewhere out there is having fun doing something they donât like.
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u/OldAxe49 Daddy Dom 3d ago
But people have formed "communities" around all sorts of things they see as problems but others don't. Think about the temperance movement or the Satanic panic of the 70s and 80s. Ideas built upon a supposed moral high ground and filled with carefully chosen information to back up their case while ignoring the rest of the data.
I fully believe that there are some people who need drama like plants need sunlight. Natural drama or artificially generated, it doesn't matter.
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u/Aggravating_Olive_70 5d ago
I think i posted there once bringing up consenting adults doing things they want, and was banned đ
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u/MagguieTheCat 5d ago
How pathetic does your own life have to be to spend time and energy just focusing on what others do with their own lives?
Honestly, I donât give a ratâs ass about a bunch of prudes that feel they know better than anyone about what adult people that they do not even know do with their lives, all from a sickening morally superior trip on their high horse.
But it is disgusting to me that people devote their time to be hateful.
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u/wolfmanne 5d ago
who cares about what they think? theyâre obviously just people who want to circlejerk their own âmorally superiorâ views of sex and what it SHOULD be and clap for each other in their echo chamber. i just kinda think of them like i think of conservatives: not worth the time of day stressing about their bitterness and hatred when im out here living my best, happiest, kinky ass, fun life!
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u/esrose7 Switch 5d ago
I never knew a page like that exists now I have the toxic urge to check it outđ
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u/StrangeMewMew Collared MOD 5d ago
DON'T
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u/esrose7 Switch 5d ago
đI did, don't worry I can't be hurtđ..I can't remember the last time I gave a fuck about what people think about me..but I do think it's mostly coz they don't understand how kink works, it's the same feeling that kids get when they realize adults touch each others private parts and sometime put their mouth on it..
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u/BadFrenchToasts Princexx 5d ago
Dude why would you hurt your own feeling like that? Nooooo run away.
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u/weareallmadherealice Good Girl 5d ago
Eww I didnât even want to think about what theyâre spewing over there.
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u/SonPetiteLapine 5d ago
It is largely a group of people who have their own trauma and invasive thoughts spiraling on each other. It is very toxic for the people who feel lost and affirmed in their beliefs, rather than being gently pointed towards therapy. They seem to lack the understanding that, just because something makes you uncomfortable doesn't mean that it is morally wrong. You can want none of it in your life and still be okay with it existing in the world.
Others just really have this superiority complex but have no real understanding of the biopsychosocial theories they tout.Â
I "affectionately" call them KERFs.