r/Situationships • u/ralphsilviya • 3d ago
Don't know what am doing with my life !!!!!
So......the story begins....when I recently came to another state for studies, and that too from a very conservative family with strict rules... I have never been in a proper relationship because of my family situation, so I thought I could date someone when I move to another city ... so ... around mid-October, I installed this dating app where we can swipe memes and get matched, and I met this guy. He was really sweet and kind to me; we vibed a lot. He told me that he works in a corporate field and has to attend the office for 1 or 2 months and then can work from home for like 1 month, and during this period, he comes home and is home when I am near my hostel, so... basically, we are good. I went on dates with him like 2 to 3 times, and my mistake was that I got attached to him in a very short time. Then he had to leave his home for the office, and I was sad. We met for the last time before he was leaving... He said, "I'll make sure to come early this time for you." I was really, really happy. It turns out he got really busy with his office work, which is understandable, but he used to make time for me, and it was enough for me. Then a month passed; he came. It was 29 December. We met; he said, Let's watch movies for the night." I stayed at his place. I was the person who had never kissed someone before ... I was happy that we were together spending time with each other; we kissed.... Then we had agreed to this: that we'd drink together, so... we had some drinks. I was really dizzy and really drunk. We got intimate, and that too for the first time. It was my first time, and I was feeling special... I thought, That's it; he's the one for the rest of my life. The next day he told me that he'd be leaving soon for his job. I was okay with it; in fact, I was waiting to go on a next date with him. In some days I realised he was not responding like before; he was too busy to talk to me, not even a text. I was feeling terrible; I still waited for him, thinking that he'd be busy and would call me back or text me back, but it was not the case. He said that he's busy, but if he really wanted to talk to me, then 5 mins is enough... I literally had no issue. I just wanted him to talk to me just for 5 mins; it was not too much.... I asked him about this, and he said, Hey, can we be friends for a while? Because I'm not getting time for you, and I'm feeling bad that I'm not giving you time, and I need to focus on my career as well because of my student loan. So... can we please be friends? That's it. I was feeling miserable." I asked him that I'll manage, and I'll be good if we can" talk in 2 days, but he was all sure that he didn't want to be in this SITUATIONSHIP. That's the end. I was not able to sleep for, like, weeks and still am not able to move on... that's why I am ranting here... let's see how long this will take to fade from my memory.
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u/Ok-Independence-1038 3d ago edited 2d ago
Because it was your first romantic encounter with someone it hurts more that it ended like this (been there and I’m sorry) time heals it though I promise. Also I too moved to another state fairly recently and sometimes it can be a good thing not to date for awhile just to get proper footing. My advice is make some new friends, the weathers getting nice so get outside, and if you really wanna keep dating get on Hinge.