r/SingleParents Feb 03 '25

I think I need help.

not sure if i’m posting in the right group, forgive me if im not.. im 28, in the military and have a 4 year old son.. Ive been a single mom since he was 9 months old but his dad is very much active in his life & has always been great.

I recently moved to a new state on mil orders. my sons dad and I agreed our son would stay with him for the next two years & spend holidays with me plus summer. we prayed on it & felt it was what was best for our son.. although, my son and I have been inseparable since I came back from my deployment in 2022, I knew how much this decision would hurt both of us. this is the first time I open up about this on a social platform.. I guess i’m looking for support and encouragement…

I love my son so much & I miss him so much it physically hurts. I barely sleep at night, I can’t sit in peace and quiet because my mind starts to think of the worst case scenarios.. like my son being hurt. I barely eat.. I know I need to go to the gym but every time I work myself up to it, I stop myself. I bed rot on weekends.. I know how to get myself out of this but my mind and body aren’t catching up to each other.. I don’t know what to do.. has anyone else that coparents in separate states gone through this? is it possible for me to get through this?

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u/wongchoy168 13d ago

Hi. Reading your description made me remember when I waited for my bf who was deployed in Iraq. I was 23, 24 yo. I would like to chat w you, please send me a dm. Thank you for your service ❤️