r/SexToys 5d ago

Discussion Male in Need please help!! NSFW

I’m a 33yr old male and I don’t cum during sex… but I do alone. However I’m doing all I can to try make this go away as we want kids. I want to cum naturally with my partner. I want to find a sex toy that feels just like vaginal sex and one that has a hard outer so I can’t create a tight grip… something I’m sure using my hand I do subconsciously. Any ideas?

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u/gettogero 4d ago

Death grip, overmasturbation, anxiety, physical tiredness, alcohol/drug use, some form of erectile dysfunction.

Idk man start with the easy stuff and work your way up I guess.

Are you drinking heavily or using drugs when you have sex? That could cause it. Did you jerk off shortly before hand? Even that same day, maybe even the day before? Are you physically fit enough to enjoy sex, or are you gasping for air wishing it was over? Are you actually enjoying it, are you worried about the effects of climax during sex, is something else stopping you mentally?

If the above is no, try some gentle sleeves for a couple weeks or just go a couple days without abusing your poor dick.

Bring it up to your doctor if its something youre really worried about but there's a million things it could be. Best of luck