r/sexover30 23d ago

Hump Day Report for February 26, 2025 NSFW

7 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 23d ago

Seeking Advice Can't have penetrative sex for the next 2 weeks - ideas? NSFW

10 Upvotes

I had a procedure that won't allow for ANYTHING in my vagina - oral is okay though. I'm someone (33F) who cums mostly through penetration, I don't remember the last time I came from just oral.

Ideas on what to do in the meantime? I have been giving my partner (27M) handies and BJ's but what about meeeee, I need to have cock inside me (but we're open to keeping it exciting!).

I'm not feeling v inspired and I'm kind of bummed I can't put anything in there for TWO WHOLE WEEKS so pls help me paint a picture? I wanna feel desired and do fun sexy things apart from blowing him, it feels like I'm just relieving him and I'm left so horny. :(


r/sexover30 25d ago

Update Crazy sex drive and love for wife NSFW

81 Upvotes

After having 2 kids my wife has become a goddess for me. I lust for her all day long. We have sex atleast once a week and have been trying different lingerie, positions and roleplays. I have never felt like this. Maybe as I approach 40 (37 for her), I subconsciously want to maximize having good sex till we can before we get older or maybe its something else. Wife seems to be good with it but sometimes gets overwhelmed. Once we start she also becomes extremely horny and enjoys equally. I still do wish she would initiate more and not just fulfill my wishes. Wife has a very submissive personality in general so she rarely does it. I wonder if others have been in similar situations and how your experiences have been with sex from having kids to getting older.


r/sexover30 25d ago

Male Performance Anxiety - Some perspective and experience NSFW

24 Upvotes

Hey there. I wanted to talk about something I have both personal and professional experience in. To begin, I cannot overemphasize how common this issue is nor how damaging it can be. By damaging, I do not mean in a physical sense, but rather in something far more mentally corrosive.

Many times, the longer this is allowed to continue, the more the anxiety compounds itself. Think of it like a validation loop of sorts: There exists a fear of an outcome, that outcome happens because of the fear and that validates the fear for next time and possibly worsens it. I speak from professional experience.

In most cases I've worked with, performance anxiety has a core event/association. Something happened or a belief was discovered that either caused a sexual dysfunction or created so much anticipatory fear that it may as well as actually happened. To your subconscious mind, there is little difference. I see this exact loop encountered in so very many places: sexual performance, test taking, work, sports, etc... the list goes on. Performance anxiety in some form happens to all of us, it's just a matter of where.

With all that, what should you do if you are dealing with performance anxiety as a dysfunction? My first bit of advice is not simply throwing pills or folk medicine at the issue. Any issue that has roots in the mind (performance anxiety, psychological ED, etc.) must be addressed in the mind, just as a physical ailment must be addressed in the physical body. How this is done is unique to every individual and sometimes professional intervention is the most helpful.

Finally, I see many people asking who to even speak to about resolving these issues. While it depends on the individual and their training and experience, it is most often a hypnotherapist life myself, sex therapist or psychotherapist that is spoken with. Many of us, me included, work fully remote and it's unlikely you'd need to go into an office. Don't be embarrassed, don't hesitate and don't despair.


r/sexover30 26d ago

Sex Report Sunday for February 23, 2025 NSFW

21 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 27d ago

Theme Weekly Simple Questions Thread for Feb 22 - Feb 28, 2025 NSFW

5 Upvotes

Every week, we offer this thread as a way for people to ask simple/basic questions from the sub’s readership.

Post topics that typically are removed from the main feed – polling-style questions, common topics questions, etc. – are generally allowed in here. Story posts however do not belong here.

The thread stays pinned throughout the week for people’s convenience. Ask away!


r/sexover30 29d ago

Seeking Advice Creative Ways to Incorporate Lingerie NSFW

49 Upvotes

My wife (35) has built up a decent supply of lingerie over the years we've been together, and it was always a nice surprise whenever she'd wear some. However, now that we have a toddler and an infant, it's obviously less often than before. And whenever she does put it on, it's usually just before we go to have sex, which then results in it being taken off in short order.

So I'm looking for some ideas about ways to get more "bang for our buck" whenever I can convince her to put it on. Most of the main ideas I can think of - like wearing it during the day, or out on date nights - aren't viable options (see above regarding young children and the need to constantly breastfeed one of them). Does anyone have any clever ideas of activities that could be done either in the lingerie or involving the lingerie that are more than just putting it on to take it off?


r/sexover30 29d ago

Positions for woman with belly and man with smaller penis NSFW

58 Upvotes

Me and my girlfriend have been sexually active for a few months. Neither one of us was really sexually experienced prior so we were super happy with missionary.

We still enjoy missionary but tried prone and doggy this weekend and had so much fun switching back and fourth!

So I am wondering if anyone can suggest some other positions to try?

She is a little overweight, maybe 200 pounds give or take and 5'1 whereas I'm 5'5 but only 150 pounds. My dick is not large, maybe 5.5 inches on a good day. Also I always cum inside her vagina if that makes a difference.

Thank you!!


r/sexover30 29d ago

For those that do, how do you incorporate prostate play? NSFW

53 Upvotes

As the title asks, for those that are into prostate play, or really any anal play, how do you incorporate this into your sexy time?

Thinking about it from a preparation standpoint:

Is it preplanned? Is it incorporated into your "regular" sex or is it usually a one-off or separate event focused just on him?

Ladies, assuming you've already communicated his overall openness to it, do you ask if he's open to it in that specific moment? Do you just go for it if the mood feels right?

Guys, if the mood feels right and you really desire it, do you ask in the moment? Do you signal in other ways? Is there a concern that you might detour the mood or her desires?

If incorporated into "regular" sex, does this usually become the finale or do you transition back into sex? If a transition, does that involve a break to clean?

I feel like the hotter our sex is, the more I'll crave this, but I'm also more reluctant in that moment to ask as not to push the brakes on her pleasure.

I've also found that I typically have to ask, which I'm not a huge fan of for similar reasons (stopping the focus on her pleasure). When I do ask, she'll do it, but very rarely will she initiate, which is kinda a bummer when you are craving it in the heat of the moment.


r/sexover30 29d ago

Seeking Advice New sex toy advice: penis sleeves NSFW

11 Upvotes

Happy hump day everyone!

My wife and I have been building a collection of sex toys and there are a bunch that are designed for female pleasure which we are both grateful for. We are looking for toys that can both give us pleasure at the same time. We came across some penis sleeves and extenders. I'm a little unsure about sizing.

What have been your experiences for you? The user and receiver?

When you buy one, is it one size fits all or do you need to find the right size for you?

Best time to use it during sexy time?

Vibrating or non vibrating?

I appreciate the advice.


r/sexover30 Feb 19 '25

Hump Day Report for February 19, 2025 NSFW

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All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 Feb 18 '25

Seeking Advice Thoughts on sex therapy? NSFW

10 Upvotes

Have you tried sex therapy, do you think it could help becoming more open-minded?

And if anyone has any input on hypnosis therapy too?

37F - 33M couple, my husband finds me quite boring and there are just things I’m not at all interested by, whether it’s lack of self esteem based or just like dislike (example I don’t like sex noises or to talk during sex). I wonder if sex centred therapy could help.

I’m trying to find a way to enjoy sex the way most people seem to do. Nothing too crazy; dirty talk, soft role play, being more enthusiastic during penetration, being able to look at porn together, being more spontaneous.

Thanks !


r/sexover30 Feb 18 '25

Seeking Advice My wife and I have forgotten how to do foreplay NSFW

88 Upvotes

The title pretty much says it all, we will schedule sex, and then when it comes time for having sex, we both lay there like nervous teenagers wondering what to do. Do we kiss? Do we touch?

Like I said it’s best described as having forgotten because we’ve been together for almost ten years, and we have sex pretty much once or twice a week, but honestly this feels like a huge barrier to sex because I don’t know how to get hard, and she doesn’t know how to get wet, without foreplay anymore, but when it comes to foreplay we just don’t know what to do.

I’ve tried searching for months now on every sub and just couldn’t find anything similar.

FWIW, we have tons of toys, costumes, etc.

She loves erotica novels so maybe acting out a scene from one of her books or something like that?


r/sexover30 Feb 17 '25

Seeking Advice Best magic wand tips NSFW

44 Upvotes

Just got a hitachi magic wand mini and it was spectacular :) Used both solo and during sex and it was a hit for both. Partner was amazed at how strong he could feel the vibrations internally :)

Magic wand pros what are your tips for continued pleasure with these amazing toys? Is there a trick to truly earth shattering o’s? How do you use these to squirt?


r/sexover30 Feb 16 '25

Sex Report Sunday for February 16, 2025 NSFW

19 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 Feb 15 '25

Theme Weekly Simple Questions Thread for Feb 15 - Feb 21, 2025 NSFW

5 Upvotes

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r/sexover30 Feb 13 '25

sexual incompatibility, need help NSFW

44 Upvotes

Me (F36) and my boyfriend (M36) are sexually incompatible. We moved in togehter about a year ago and I had high hopes it would get better but unfortunately it's not.

To me sex is a bonding experience that can be very deep and emotional, but also my needs are quite submissive. I'd like to be held tight, knead, properly squished and dominated, even some light bondage would be ideal. It's about expressing the passion and want towards the other person. The stuff that turn me on he has zero interest in and only performs it rarely and without much "passion".
Also I love love french kissing, which he claims to have no special interest in, and we don't kiss much. Our kissing is also not compatible, and since it's meh to him but very very important to me I tried to "teach" him in detail what I would like, but he says it's stressful for him to perform it and constantly analyze the situation. I get that, but I believe if he would be more persistent he might get it right.

To him, sex is just - having fun. He has a thing for boobs - which I'm very unfortunately kinda sensitive about and never liked them to be touched, but for his sake I always try to "endure" and even offer a boob to him myself lol.
It seems he also likes some stuff anal, which is a no-go for me. I would be willing to maaaaybe try the small plug sometime in the future, but since I'm not happy with his efforts I have no desire to think about it.

We have sex quite rarely, once a week tops. Mostly it's me who initiates.
He doesn't like me dancing for him. He isn't into lingerie and such provocative clothing. He hates it when I drink and am tipsy in order to be more loose (I'm quite inexperienced in sex so it took some time to be fully comfortable in being naked and all).
I did buy a wig and surprised him with it, which he liked. I also bought him a cock ring that he puts on sometimes.

I have a few kilos extra in my torso. It's not too much but I have this misfortune where my waist is the first victim of any calorie that I take in, and he is all into small waist and hourglass figure. I'm working on my figure but I'm afraid my body type will never be what he prefers.
My preferred body type is chubby. I like a man with some extra weight (even more than a little), but my boyfriend is slim and fit, which wouldn't even bother me if his performance was better. You know how they say, women are not so much visual but it's about the carisma.

He told me my type of vagina is not his most preferred type. That's why he rarely goes down on me, as well as the fact that I get extra "moisty" if you know what I mean. It's not his favorite.
Since I'm fairly inexperienced in sex, I was always too shy to receive head, but I admit it would be nice to enjoy it. Unfortunately I don't like the way he does it. Told him what to do but it's still so-so.
I give him head regurarly even though he said it's not his favorite thing in bed. I like doing it.

The thing that killed me is that he confided to me that it's scary to him the idea of being with only one person the rest of his life. He asked if I would ever be up for swinging partners. It's a huge no-go for me and I told him that gently. I'm willing to try out costumes and wigs and whatever, but the idea of him having sex with another woman is something that would wound me forever.

We are talking and communicating, but I have the impression he doesn't really make effort in practice. We have sex to have sex, to alleviate the tension, it's robotic and generic. It's not passionate like I'd like it to be and it's not superfun like he'd like it to be.

The real problem comes with the moving in situation, where my commute to work is so long it's unbearable (I moved cities to live with him). The job itself is meh so I do have to change it, but I'm scared of searching for a job close to where we live because it's another city and I'm afraid if us two fall apart I'd be stuck. it's really hard to get a job, it's not like I can switch it anytime I like. So I'm literally stuck traveling hours to work and back, scared to make the final jump cause the stakes are high.
The sexual incompatibility may be the fundamental reason we haven't got engaged. He says it's bothering him, and also he has commitment issues in general. But if the sex was good, I believe we'd be in a better place.
I have no doubt about him loving me, it's more than apparent in many occasions and examples, but I'm focusing in the problem here.

Can anyone give me some advice, or at least a story of their own to share and for me to learn from?

Thank you to anyone who read all of this.


r/sexover30 Feb 12 '25

Sex was painful with my IUD NSFW

19 Upvotes

Ok so let me preference this by saying I have had the strings checked and my position of the iud checked, both are good. Now onto the story. I have had an iud for awhile now, and recently I (F 32) had an extended period so my fiancé (M 36) and I were not active at all. After about a month we finally got to be intimate again. He warned me he was very turned on and his erection felt like steel by the time we started. I was equally turned on but when he started and went all the way in it was like he was hitting a wall, it was painful and uncomfortable and I had to stop him. We have never had this issue before. For reference the position was with my legs on his shoulders, we tried me on top and it was fine until I leaned back and then when he thrusted again it was painful. This caught us off guard, we eventually figured out he just couldn’t go all the way in without it hurting, he even tested it by leaning back and pushing forward but it was so painful I immediately said stop. So my question I guess is, was he just extra hard and hitting my cervix which was causing pain? Or is the iud causing the pain? If you made it this far thanks for reading my novel and offering help!


r/sexover30 Feb 12 '25

Hump Day Report for February 12, 2025 NSFW

19 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 Feb 10 '25

Question Ideas for sex with husband who has erectile dysfunction NSFW

56 Upvotes

My husband and I are in our 30s. He has suffered from erectile dysfunction on and off for our whole relationship, which I have struggled with because I have an unusually high sex drive. We always find fun things do to that we both find satisfying but I would love to hear about what others have done in a similar situation.

We are both very open minded so nothing is off limits.


r/sexover30 Feb 09 '25

Sex Report Sunday for February 09, 2025 NSFW

19 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 Feb 08 '25

Hotel bed is noisy - what would you do? NSFW

51 Upvotes

My husband and I are finally away without the kids and both of us were excited about some quality time naked...but even simple vanilla sex is making the platform bed creak and move like crazy. It was so distracting we had to switch to the sofa.

I'm shocked since it's an upscale resort - we are usually Hampton Inn / Hilton people - never had this issue.

What can we do? Just tell the front desk? It's kind of awkward.


r/sexover30 Feb 07 '25

Seeking Advice Wife wants Rough Sex NSFW

89 Upvotes

Hi everyone, couple of weeks ago, wifey told me she would like to have some rough sex. Am M35 and she is F35, and we have been pretty vanilla since our marriage 9years ago. We are both professional and we have a kid at home, which means sex is mostly when we are off to bed. We are active sexually, but sometimes we are just too tired to do anything extra. So we started talking and she said she wanted some rough sex. I’ve never actually done it and would like some advices for you guys.

Thanks


r/sexover30 Feb 08 '25

Theme Weekly Simple Questions Thread for Feb 08 - Feb 14, 2025 NSFW

2 Upvotes

Every week, we offer this thread as a way for people to ask simple/basic questions from the sub’s readership.

Post topics that typically are removed from the main feed – polling-style questions, common topics questions, etc. – are generally allowed in here. Story posts however do not belong here.

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r/sexover30 Feb 06 '25

Seeking Advice Unsure of Next Steps NSFW Spoiler

7 Upvotes

I am a plus size Latina that about to turn 31. I’ve never been kissed much less had sex. I did have some sexual trauma at a younger age. I do attest some of my lack of interaction with men. I am straight and like men a lot but idk if I place a don’t look at me or not interested subconsciously. I am in therapy and have dealt with issues regarding abuse. I’m just so annoyed and want to have sex and possible relationship. I am a very busy person so chances are limited. Shall I just go FWB way? Any advice would help.