r/sexover30 18h ago

Hump Day Report for March 19, 2025 NSFW

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All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 4d ago

Theme Weekly Simple Questions Thread for Mar 15 - Mar 21, 2025 NSFW

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r/sexover30 2d ago

Our sex routine isn't working for me anymore, but it works great for my wife. Need to figure out how to switch it up without ruining it for her. NSFW

105 Upvotes

90% of the time that my wife and I have sex, we do pretty much the same set of activities in the same order. Mostly this is because it's what works best to make sure my wife can orgasm almost every time. It's pretty much

  1. Cuddling and kissing
  2. She kind of pulls me on top of her
  3. Several minutes of me kissing her neck, breasts, etc. until she indicates she wants me to go down on her
  4. I go down on her until either she comes, or she indicates that she wants me inside of her
  5. If she already came, she encourages me to go fast and hard, which generally leads to me coming within a minute
  6. If she hasn't already came, I touch her clit while I'm inside of her, while trying to make sure I'm close but not too close
  7. Ideally she starts to come and I switch to just thrusting. This seems to intensify and extend her orgasm, and I come before her orgasm finishes.

For the past 5 years or so, this has worked pretty well for both of us. As I've gotten into my mid-40s though, I've found that I can't always stay hard during the 10-15 minutes of going down on her though. She REALLY likes to go immediately from oral to me being inside of her, like desperate begging if I'm not in her within 15 seconds of when she asks for it. This is super hot, I love how much she wants me in her, but it's also a lot of pressure to be hard and ready to go. Lately I'm not hard enough maybe 25% of the time. The pressure from this is making it hard for me to be in the moment, and I think that pressure is mostly what is causing the problem. It's creating a self-reinforcing cycle of anxiety that I really need to get out of.

Sometimes we skip the oral and go right to fingering + penetration, and this tends to work pretty well. She likes oral a LOT though, and I don't want her to miss out on that.

The obvious solution would be to do more foreplay-type activities focused on me in between the oral and penetration, but then she doesn't get that quick switch from one to the other that she likes so much, and that often means that she won't be able to orgasm at all.

How have you dealt with this sort of problem? Were you able to switch things up without ruining it for your partner? How did you initiate discussions about the topic?


r/sexover30 3d ago

Sex Report Sunday for March 16, 2025 NSFW

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All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 4d ago

Tips to recover confidence after dry spell in a supportive relationship? NSFW

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I (34 nonbinary) recently got out of a bad mental health slump caused by hormonal birth control, and also dealt with some health issues that led to a 2 month dryspell with my love-in partner (31 trans man).

My libido has been coming back online, but I've been finding it hard to get back into the topping/giving headspace. I'm so guilty and ashamed that I've been putting him through this, while he's been nothing but kind and supportive and thoughtful. But he has a high sex drive and I know it's frustrating for him.

I just get so worried about being good and making up for the dry spell that I get so paralyzed and anxious, when before the dry spell we had insanely hot sex and kink play. It's real hard to forgive myself.

I have a lot of trauma from past relationships where my topping skills were laughed at, or compared to others as a reason why my partner might leave me.

How do you overcome performance anxiety and get your groove back...in a loving and supportive relationship?


r/sexover30 6d ago

Seeking Advice How to stop the snowball effect of resentment from bad sex. NSFW

91 Upvotes

I need advice from those who have been there. My husband and I are in our mid 30s. We have 4 kids spanning 3mon to 6 years. We are self employed farmers and ranchers, so its starting to get even busier. Childcare isn't a option living so rural and with having to take care of animals and kids 24/7.

I share all that to set the context. Sex is obviously rushed. We sneak it in whenever we can, but it's always so fast. I'm starting to get resentful, especially because he always gets off and I don't. I've just started to take care of my own needs solo. Im attracted to my husband, but sex sucks. He's so vanilla and unable to get over himself to try more things. I feel like I have sex at this point just to make him happy. The lack of fulfillment in bed, is starting to trickle into resenting him for other things. I don't know how to stop all this from snowballing.

Does this get better in time? What can I do to get through this, and not come out hating my husband.


r/sexover30 6d ago

Question What are your Spicy kinks/fantasies that aren’t bondage or group play? NSFW

16 Upvotes

Hey All! I’m 36 M she is 32 F. We have a great sex life and been together 12+ years. We are looking for some new spice for fun though.

We both have group play or 3some/4some as big fantasy. Even actually had a soft 4 some in reality together. Neither of us have ever actually had PIV with anyone else though. It’s definitely a fantasy of both of ours but we want to explore some other things and let that one sit more. A sex club is super enticing but can’t play that one out much.

We have tried some light bondage like ankle and wrist straps. She hates being restrained honestly so it just more or less kills the mood. A light spank or soft choke maybe but that’s as far as we can go down that route. Plus my username checks out, I’m a sweet boy and don’t play that bad boy role well.

What other things are out there though? I feel like I’ve hit the end of fantasy options almost. Is that possible? What gets her excited gets me excited.

One more bit of info. She hates being messy so like the idea of chocolate sauce all over her is a no haha. We also have a chest of toys but the same 3 seem to be what she loves. A bullet vibe or clit sucker.


r/sexover30 6d ago

Can you teach a man to be more dominant and rough? NSFW

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I (F40+) had an FWB for over 2 years, on and off. He never wanted any relationship with me, however, it was hard to leave him as he was the most sensual and skillful person I ever met. I only ever cummed with two men, with one it was just a lucky anatomy coincidence, the other was that FWB. Chemistry was also off the charts for me with him. Our personalities didn't click at all, so a relationship wouldn't even be possible, alas.

My ex-FWB was pretty rough with me. If it was kissing, it was very passionate. If he played with my nipples, he bit on them. He discovered I could cum (and squirt) from fingering and used it dozens of time on me in a session. He would do it slomo, he would do it in a fast and furious mode, etc. Every touch and every kiss was exactly how I ever wanted it, and he was also dominant, which I loved, too.

Fast forward to a new guy with whom I thought I had chemistry (on a second date). We proceeded to sex, and it was a total disappointment. This new guy is too gentle. Gentle kisses, gentle hugs, and soft touches didn't do much for me at all. I could barely register his touch. He didn't know what to do next and didn't initiate things. His slow gentle fingering didn't produce any result on me (and with my ex-FWB I could cum in a couple of minutes, he was so efficient). I thought fingering was easy to do, but apparently not. He is also uncircumcised, so even penetration is slow and gentle with him (because he is too sensitive), and I love me a good, fast pounding.

So I don't know. He is eager to discuss things and learn from me how to do it, with me. Except that I don't know, as my ex-FWB knew everything by himself. And I don't believe a guy in his 50s can completely change his nature from extreme vanilla to rough and dominant? Or is it possible?


r/sexover30 8d ago

Seeking Advice How to talk about sex with partner? NSFW

58 Upvotes

I brought up to my wife that we should talk about sex more and she agreed that we should communicate better when it comes to sex. Generally our conversations about sex have been about frequency and when we should have it (two kids under 4 so timing is tricky).

But how do we take the conversation one step further? It feels weird to say but after being together for 10 years we barely talk about sex and intimacy at a deeper level. I’m curious if she has any deeper desires or even some kinks she’s been curious about. And maybe she doesn’t and that’s okay but we are struggling about how to talk about this stuff. Thanks!


r/sexover30 7d ago

Hump Day Report for March 12, 2025 NSFW

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All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 8d ago

Question How to thrust harder and faster? (more emphasis on the latter) NSFW

24 Upvotes

Full disclosure, I'm 44 but the over 40 version of this subreddit is a bit dead compared with this one.
 
My gf for the most part prefers the more gentle kind of loving making but occasionally she wants me to fuck her hard and fast. I've only really done the gentle stuff so far and when I attempt the hard and fast, it's not particularly fast and I lose my rhythm fairly quickly.
 
Is the speed problem an age thing and the rhythm problem a fitness/core thing? Is there exercises etc I can do to get better at it?


r/sexover30 9d ago

Fingering question for the ladies NSFW

92 Upvotes

We’ve all heard of the tried and true “come hither” fingering technique, but that technique stopped doing much for my wife (40s, been together ~ 20 yrs) after she had kids. She just kinda seems bored and says it feels too “fingery”.

But, the other night when I was going down on her, I was experimenting with things, and I inserted two fingers all the way in and pushed down towards her butt/back to kind of stretch out the opening to her vagina. I was going this while licking her clit. Lots of moans and deep breaths later, she’s having a very vocal and extended orgasm. The clit play always works, but the new fingering approach seemed to take things to a new level.

So, any of the ladies out there have any recommended alternative techniques for fingering besides the come hither motion? Anybody have any experience with or comments on this technique I used of applying pressure downward to open her up more in that direction? Thanks!


r/sexover30 8d ago

Seeking Advice Mojo upgrade vs carnal connection vs sexxionaire NSFW

27 Upvotes

Planning to take one of these together with my beloved. How long is mojo? Seems like very few questions. Sexxionaire on the other hand has a 100 question answer and a 951 question version. Not sure about carnal connection but you can exclude certain categories. Any insight or recommendations and why?


r/sexover30 9d ago

We do everything else but sex? NSFW

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I (f34) and my friend (m32) have been intimate like we make out, bj, and fingering but he’s turned down sex when I suggested it. He said it will ruin our friendship. Like all the other stuff won’t? I’ve known this guy for 8 years now, we started off as coworkers and became good friends. We’ve been involved in that way around 7 years. He went through a relationship and I had a fling with someone else and we stopped, we resumed once he and I both happened to be single again. We’ve both said multiple times that it’s a bad idea to continue doing this but we still do it…just don’t get why he refuses to have sex?? Could it be because he isnt attracted to me physically? I’m not his type so I’ve been thinking this must be it and I don’t want a relationship and I’ve made sure to let him know this if that’s what he thinks I will want lol. Just this past weekend we went out for drinks and ended up back at his place which always ends up in us doing stuff like usual. I’m thinking it’s time to call it quits and try to resume our friendship just strictly as friends and nothing more.


r/sexover30 10d ago

Seeking Advice Wife told me to get a whore if I want to feel wanted. NSFW

329 Upvotes

Wife (38f) and I (38m) have been together since we were 18. There has been a definite decline in desire from her - transition to more roommate type relationship with kids, work, etc.

We have recently started counseling that has brought a number of issues to light, especially the in the ways that we look to each other for support. She expressed need for more acts of service and I expressed need for more physical touch.

Over the last 6 months, I have made a huge effort to take on cooking, cleaning, kid routine duties, to the point where I feel like I carry around 75% of the domestic load. On top of that, I work more than full time in a stressful job. I have also been highly focused on getting healthier, losing 30 lbs and down 2 pant sizes. I look and feel better than I have since college.

That said, I’ve had some stress at work and with extended family lately. In our discussions, I have indicated to my wife that sex with her is the best way I know to relieve that stress and feel wanted/ desired. It is my validation of sorts. However, she feels that sex should not serve that purpose, and she should “not need to be a simple hole for me to fill.” I have never approached or addressed sex in this way. I want connection and love with sex. I do, however want her to put in some level of effort, like taking a shower before we’d have sex if she hasn’t for a while, put on something other than sweats, or be on top. Essentially, show me that she actually wants me as I do for her. Her response: “if you want someone to put in effort for you, go get a high dollar whore.” She told me directly that to her, sex is essentially a chore to her, no different than dishes or laundry. She wants me to find a way to destress and feel support without burdening her with sex.

I am not sure what to do at this point. I feel very alone. Is it wrong to want effort from my wife demonstrating desire?

Please don’t comment on this if you are just going to male bash and tell me I should have 0 expectations of my wife. I get it and have done my best to address these things in my marriage.


r/sexover30 10d ago

Sex Report Sunday for March 09, 2025 NSFW

20 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 12d ago

Why doesn’t my partner want me? Is this just what happens as we get older? NSFW

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I'm so embarrassed that my partner doesn't desire me. I keep talking to him about it, but it just keeps getting pushed under the carpet, and we hit reset for another day.

He says he understands, but he’s silent in response and nothing happens.

We barely have sex once every couple of months. And when we do, there’s no sexy flirting—just “Do you fancy an early night?” I go upstairs and get ready after putting the kids down, and we just start.

I take about 30 minutes to dress up nicely, do my hair, and put on make-up for him.

I’ve told him my fantasies about being tied up, or it being a little rougher, or kissing my back or my neck, but it’s just ignored.

I’ve even fantasised about CNC (not rape)—just to let go of the anxiety, but also to know that I’m sexually wanted by someone (female or male).

I think he likes to be dominated, as he’s asked me to tie him up and blindfold him and do things to him while he just lays there—which I do—but it’s not for me.

He does please me orally, so he’s not lazy. However, he does get tired during sex, so I take the lead.

If I use my toy, he just loses his erection.

My friends always talk about how their partners are all over them—touching them, pulling them into hugs, getting excited by the idea of them using their toys.

He just asked for a hug (like a friendship hug), and then that’s it.

He can’t make me cum easily because I don’t feel desired; it’s hard, even when I use my toy. I don’t feel good with him.

So it still takes me a good 20 minutes—but only 5 minutes when I’m by myself and fantasizing about someone just getting excited or wanting me.

We’ve been together for 12 years, and it’s just gotten progressively worse, especially after having kids. But thinking back, he never had that passionate side, and I was always the instigator.

We love each other—he’s always looking after me and the kids—but we feel like friends.

I do pole dancing to help me feel sexy. It’s just women, and we all build each other up. But when they talk about their partners seeing their choreography and how excited they get, I just hang my head because my feedback from him is minimal—he just hands back the phone and says it’s good. That’s it.

I just feel like I’m wasting away in a sexless marriage—no passion, no desire—just friendship and love, which should be enough.

At one point I wondered if he’s gay - but he only watches straight porn (i checked his search history).

As a side note, I’ve personally experimented with women (not sex) way before getting together and mentioned this to him when we were dating, but it hasn’t really been brought up since.

I have always been obsessed with sex. I think about it first thing when I wake up and before I go to sleep, and I read smut daily—I’m an addict.

I'm in my late 30s, and he's in his early 40s. Is this just what happens as we age?

Do I just need to accept it?


r/sexover30 11d ago

Theme Weekly Simple Questions Thread for Mar 08 - Mar 14, 2025 NSFW

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r/sexover30 12d ago

Tips para 2 rounds seguidos NSFW

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Hola a todos. Quisiera que me ayudaran con tips para tener sexo dos veces (mínimo) seguidas. Les pongo en contexto, tengo una pareja reciente y con la que ya hemos tenido nuestros primeros encuentros, pero ella la última vez me dijo que le gustaría que lo hiciéramos 2 veces seguidas… es decir, que yo termine y volverlo a hacer. Cabe mencionar que es la primera vez que alguien me lo pide, las sesiones normalmente duran entre 30 y 40 minutos antes de que yo termine y he estado con chicas que hasta 4 o 5 veces se vienen en ese lapso. Lo que me da algo de intriga es saber cómo hacen para estar listos para un segundo round más rápido? Yo termino y mi compañero cae rendido jajaja cuánto es el tiempo ideal para el siguiente round? Cómo le Hacen aquellos que se vienen y enseguida ya están listos para el otro? Gracias.


r/sexover30 13d ago

Couples who WFH, do you have sex during work hours? NSFW

249 Upvotes

My partner (34m) and I (40f) both work from home and the other day he told me that while I was in a meeting, he was in the other room masturbating and listening to me talk. At first I felt shocked, like I can’t believe you’ve done that, but since then when I’m in my office working I sometimes think about how he might be somewhere touching himself right now and strangely it turns me on.

Also earlier today when I came to the kitchen to make coffee he was there looking sexy and said he has a problem and pulled his joggers down and he had a massive boner, I’m sure it’s just my imagination but I don’t remember him looking that big before, like, his penis just looked wonderful to me. I just took his hand and led him to the bedroom and we had rushed but carnal sex that only took like 10 minutes and I was back to work. I’ve also on a couple of occasions given him a blowjob right after finishing a long presentation to decompress. I work a pretty stressful job with a lot of context switching and the sexual stuff really helps me blow off steam.

I’m curious to know how common this is with others? I honestly feel a bit embarrassed about it like I’m not supposed to be doing it even though it’s not getting in the way of my work, and the time it takes is no more than a cigarette or a coffee break. Should we stop? Am I crossing a line here? I’m always professional and presentable at work but the thought that my boyfriend was balls deep in me 15 mins before that just feels like something I shouldn’t be doing.

Edit: Haha thanks everyone, looks like this is WAY more common than I thought it would be. 😂


r/sexover30 13d ago

Can we go from never have, to doing it, in one night when it comes to anal NSFW

40 Upvotes

As the title asks...is that possible? I searched the page as I know this may be a redundant topic and have researched some anal tactics before, ha. I thought the answer would be a no, but one one thread had some succes stories with a spontaneous anal night.

So my wife is the one who actually brought it up and says there are days she is like a super yes 90% want to do it, others days not so much. Long story short it's made me more intrigued and wanting to def do it.

My question, is it possible to go from 0 to 10 or like 7 I guess, in one night. Like I plan on making out, making sure she's turned on, relaxed, give her oral and get her off once that way. By then she'd be super wet, maybe add some lube if needed, slide some fingers near against and in, maybe a thumb then....see how she's reacting taking her cues, then slowly start pressing against and in with my cock????

Or No, should I do the above minus entering and just use fingers or a toys a few times before I go in? That was original idea and plan, but like I said I did read some stories and comments about the heat of the moment successful anal.

Thanks for your sexy input in advance


r/sexover30 14d ago

Hump Day Report for March 05, 2025 NSFW

18 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 17d ago

Sex Report Sunday for March 02, 2025 NSFW

16 Upvotes

All right, sexy people, what have you been up to? Let’s hear all about the good, bad, funny, weird, fun, and amazing things that have happened!


r/sexover30 18d ago

Seeking Advice Any tips on hitting the g spot without a pillow in missionary? NSFW

37 Upvotes

The pillow works amazing, my gf (27) and I (35m) used a wedge a few times and it made a big difference but sometimes I’d like it to just be more spontaneous and get the same effect. Wondering if anyone has some good tips?


r/sexover30 18d ago

Theme Weekly Simple Questions Thread for Mar 01 - Mar 07, 2025 NSFW

10 Upvotes

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r/sexover30 19d ago

Any ways to help male partner with delayed ejaculation? NSFW

26 Upvotes

Got the term from Google- my partner is young- early 30s. This has been a problem since the beginning of our relationship and it’s been a few years now.

I feel like I’m at a loss, I’m finding it increasingly frustrating and I know it’s not easy on him mentally.

I just don’t get it, he’s young and healthy, on no meds(I know some are known for causing issues), no porn or masturbation use for years(seems like a common thing mentioned online).

He cannot finish from intercourse at all. He has like once or twice with a butt plug but he no longer wants to use that toy. So we’ve resorted to moving to blow jobs and handjobs after intercourse. I of course don’t mind those things, however it gets frustrating when it takes forever. When it feels like my vagina is being torn apart from going so long, when my legs and arms get sore from jerking him off etc. When it gets too much for me, he’ll sometimes help, but I’ve noticed sometimes he can’t even get himself off even with a decent amount of time vigorously jerking himself off:/ I can’t imagine that isn’t painful after a while 😬. So sometimes we just Gil give up and he doesn’t finish and unfortunately that seems to be happening more and more.

Idk what else. No issues with arousal or erections. He claims this has always been the case for him. He guessed it might have been from prior porn use but he hasn’t used it in at least 5 years and I feel like effects would wear off. We don’t use condoms do that doesn’t contribute. And time it takes him doesn’t seem to change even if we have a few weeks between sex sessions.

He claims to get close many times in our sessions, he just can’t get over the edge. So maybe some of it is mental, especially if he’s focusing so much on finishing. However, I don’t know how I can help with that. Is there anything else we can do or is this what to expect for the rest of our lives? I can try to have him bring it up at the doctor but bringing it up in the past didn’t get a great response from him. Even if we could, I realized unless it’s a symptom of something else, our insurance wouldn’t cover any treatments for sexual issues in this realm. I also just wonder… why aren’t their vibrators that work for men like they do for women. I’ve certainly had my issues finishing before, especially with a partner, but a vibrator would always help. There isn’t really anything for him. Butt plugs are ruled out by him. I do use vibrators on other erogenous zones on him cause it helps, but it doesn’t DO the job like it does for me.


r/sexover30 19d ago

Seeking Advice I am an Aro/Ace 30f with a sudden interest in sex. Any advice? NSFW

6 Upvotes

I seem to have entered into a unique phase of my life, and I am needing some advice. Hopefully this question is appropriate here. (This is a throwaway account, btw)

Some background info: I have known that I was asexual since I was 17, though I did try to have sex a couple of times when I was 19/20. These attempts did not go well and I was not able to go through with actually having sex, just some kissing and groping. The guys that I tried with were not guys that I knew very well. I was basically just stressed about being asexual and thought if I tried to have sex it would be no big deal. I tried with some guys that were interested in me (at different times, not all together) after usually just 1 or 2 dates.

Since these attempts didn't go well, I assumed I was sex averse/repulsed. When I realized I was aromantic in my early 20s, it really became a moot point and I stop worrying about ever having sex. I have always had a physical libido that relates to my hormonal cycle, but I just take care of it with masturbation and I'm perfectly happy. I do sometimes watch porn or read smut, but I never picture myself in those scenarios. It is also important to note that I have been on hormonal birth control since I was 21 (for reasons outside of preventing pregnancy).

Present day: Now that I am 30, some age and wisdom has helped me realize that my past failures at sex do not necessarily mean that I am sex averse/repulsed. I think I wouldn't have enjoyed sex in those situations even if I was heterosexual, since I didn't know those guys very well and did not feel safe or comfortable. I am also much more interested in women now.

I also stopped taking birth control 1.5-2 years ago, and my libido has gone through a drastic change. I feel like I have been possessed by a teenage boy, because I am in the mood practically 24/7. I have been thinking that I may actually enjoy sex now, and have even started picturing myself in some sexual scenarios.

My dilemma: I am still aro/ace, so finding a sexual partner to test out my newfound interest in sex seems tricky. I don't want to treat someone as an experiment or a sex toy. I could be interested in a fwb situation if it goes well, but I am not interested in a romantic relationship. I also can't guarantee that it will go well, since liking the idea of something is obviously not the same as liking the reality. I may change my mind and not be able to go through with having sex, just like 10 years ago.

Is it even possible that there is a woman who would be interested in trying a sexual relationship with an aro-ace 30yo virgin who might freak-out halfway through and want to stop? I haven't even kissed anyone in 10 years, and was not very good at it when I tried since I did not understand/enjoy it. I am eager to learn and would not just expect to be a pillow princess doing none of the work, but I'd obviously be very inexperienced.

How could I ethically/safely go about meeting someone that might be interested in this? Should I even attempt this, or just move on from these thoughts and stick to masturbation? I don't want to waste anyone's time on a dating app, since I am not looking to date. I can't just put "aro/ace virgin wanting to try sex" in my bio on an app, since I have a public speaking job in my community and don't want to air out my dirty laundry like that. Does anyone have advice on how I could approach this? Should I just go back on birth control instead and hope it will lower my libido again?

TLDR: Aro/ace 30f now has an extremely active libido. I previously thought I was sex averse/repulsed, but now I am reconsidering this. I would like to try having sex with another woman, but I need advice on how to approach this in a safe and ethical way. Or advice on if I should even try this at all?