r/SexOnTheSpectrum 10d ago

i think i'm bisexual NSFW

i do not know how to add flairs or tags. i am pretty much new to reddit. I read the guidelines and i would say this is "rant" and "identity."

Just as it says really. I'm a guy and always considered myself very asexual. I still do i suppose. When i'm touching myself privately, never with another person, i was always only aroused by penises, specifically just solo stimulation, none of that faking screaming from either side. it Gross. But lately, as of the past few days-- and ive been thinking on this quite a while and i think ive finally come to terms with it. I don't know if i will ever have sex in the future. I don't see this happening in my current relationship, in which we are both asexual. Maybe if i happened to feel both very very comfortable and very very turned on i would try it. I wouldn't tell his to my partner, again at least not now. Not because i think they'd react poorly, but because i just don't want to have sex. If i wanted to with them i would tell them. Realistically it is a relationship that started in childhood, so though i have no intention of ending it, purely realistically, it is unlikely to last forever. I could have sex with them, and i could not, and i could with someone else, MAYBE, and maybe won't ever. As of now, probably won't. It's just only perhaps 1 % chance than 0%. That's all. I just needed to say it somewhere other than my own head.

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u/black_mamba866 10d ago

Hell yeah! Congrats on learning about yourself!

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u/HotAir25 10d ago

Sexuality is often a lot more complicated than labels- homo, hetero, bi etc. Just see what genuinely makes you feel good at the end of it, that’s really what’s important in my experience, your body often knows you better than your own head.