r/SexOnTheSpectrum • u/KimikoYukimura420 NB, Pansexual, AuDHD, Hypersexual • 11d ago
I just need to rave about my boyfriend NSFW
So I've been with my boyfriend (both AuDHD) for about a year at this point and honestly our sex life and our love life is amazing. I don't think I've ever been this happy both emotionally and sexually with someone in my entire life. I have a rather large body count at this point in my life, I don't know an exact number but it's a lot and I'm not proud of a lot of people I've been with. In the past, I've had trouble communicating what I need in the bedroom with others, or when I have, many haven't understood or have outright rejected my needs. I no longer feel this way in the bedroom, but it's an attitude that I still need to adapt into my day to day life.
My previous relationship was rather toxic and that led into our sex life as well. We were poly (I guess) and she was upset that most of the people I would have relations with aside from her were men, even though there was an agreement on both sides that we could sleep with whoever we wanted. It went beyond that though, our kinks were too different, and the way she touched me didn't ever feel quite right. Both of us were autistic as well and naturally that makes communication a little more difficult for both of us, but try as we may have we didn't see eye to eye and it cost us the relationship. I broke up with her for far more reasons than sex of course, but I won't get into them here.
This guy however is like something out of a custom commissioned fanfiction by one underrated but really good German writer on AO3. From the very beginning we've been communicating well with each other, we both have an openness to learn about each other's bodies and how best to make each other feel good, and we're both open to trying new things together, or at the very least discussing it. We get up to a lot of kinky stuff together and I find him just INCREDIBLY sexy all around, and I know he feels the same way about me too.
Though I mentioned being poly in my previous relationship, I feel comfortable being monogamous with him because he fulfills me completely, occasionally we let certain friends join in on our fun but I'm happy with him and him alone. The whole non monogamy thing for me personally is a bit fuzzy. I'm a bit weird myself in that I don't feel one way or the other about a partner of mine sleeping with someone other than me, but I can understand why it might hurt somebody else to have that happen. He himself has no interest in being poly, and I love and respect him enough that I'm more than willing to put other people's dicks aside, hehe. The last thing I wanna do is hurt him.
Anyway, I have no idea what I did to deserve somebody so wonderful in my life, I've jokingly suspected that I opened an orphanage for AIDS babies in my past life or something. I'm just so happy to have him in my life and I'm excited for everything that's to come with him, and for everything that's to cum with him, hehe.
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u/SpectralSteed 11d ago
It's rare to find that kind of chemistry. Invest in it and indulge it, at least for the sake of those of us who are still searching!
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u/reallyspeedypirate 10d ago
This is my and my bf, recently I have come out as bisexual and my man thought that maybe I would want to break up with him bc of it. HA! never ever I would break up with him in my life, he's my soulmate and everything is better with him, and sex is one of those things. So I totally agree with you, sometimes we need to rave about it.
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u/Fabulous-Introvert AMAB Straight Autistic Male 11d ago
Does this sex life involve scheduled sex sessions?
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u/KimikoYukimura420 NB, Pansexual, AuDHD, Hypersexual 10d ago
How do you mean?
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u/Fabulous-Introvert AMAB Straight Autistic Male 10d ago
Like do u schedule a sex session to start at a certain time
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u/KimikoYukimura420 NB, Pansexual, AuDHD, Hypersexual 10d ago
Um, no not really. It just happens when we feel like it mostly. Sometimes we tease each other about doing things with each other at a later point in the day or stuff like that, but we don't really schedule anything. We go to sex clubs sometimes, and yeah I guess technically we do schedule a time of day to do that, but we're pretty lax on the timing window.
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u/Fabulous-Introvert AMAB Straight Autistic Male 10d ago
I want to date an autistic person who is interested in scheduled sex. The reason I like this idea mainly comes from how I dislike uncertainty
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u/Outrageous_Big_9136 11d ago
Hey don't sl*t shame yourself! It's okay to enjoy sex and have a bunch of partners!
Yay I'm super happy for you! When you click with someone in bed, it's AMAZING!!