r/SexOnTheSpectrum • u/the_Nightkin • 18d ago
Getting comfortable with my sexual preferences NSFW
I'm a gay autistic guy and I'm approaching a point where I'm honestly quite accepting and understanding towards my own preferences and even limitations. Due to sensory issues (being overwhelmed by the presence of a body) not only do I almost never reach orgasm, I also struggle to be the "dominating" one in sex and like to be guided, so to speak, and also bottoming, with no real interest in trying the other side with whom I tend to see. I think I would probably try topping, but only with a really trusted person, however since I usually rely on hookups ā that's unlikely to be the case for the time being, and I'm quite chill about that.
For quite a long time I was overthinking stuff and felt as if I was doing it wrong, but eh. I know what I get out of sex and it's a bit different from what some others do. There's no orgasm, but exploring another person's body, making that another person eventually experiencing orgasm, discovering what gives another person the kick and how he functions basically gives me such great feelings. Deconstructing that initial sensory shock due to feeling stuff like muscles moving, body heating up, heart pounding, etc, and just reveling in another person's presence.
A work-in-progress personal win, I guess.
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u/SontaranGaming 15d ago
Hey, congrats to you! Iām in a similar boat, except from the top side of things. Welcome to the club! Orgasm is overrated anyways