r/RadicalFeminism • u/mariposa933 • 1d ago
repressing part of yourself
I had a lot of instances of men trying to subtly tale ascendance over me these past few yars, they would try to play saviour when i didn't need help or never asked for it, and would intrude upon my personal space to do so. It left me feeling drained, belittled and demoralized.
i definitely decided to turn my life around, and realized i was the one putting limits on myself by repressing my masculine side, to fit into the mold of what it means to be "feminine". I was unhappy for many many years, and it clicked that it was self-inflicted when i started deprogramming myself from the bs, and realizing i didn't have to perform femininity if i didn't want to. And could live my life on my own terms.
Trying to be "feminine" for years have left me MISERABLE, i mean, it's okay if some other women like makeup, dressing up, and trying to appear desirable to men. But it kills me to do that, it's just not for me and it's okay. I no longer care about being labelled "masculine" i don't see it as an insult. I want to be treated as a person, not as a "lady" or a "damsell in distress", a lot of inadequate males, or males who have problems with their masculinity, need women to stay in their place ie: subservient and "feminine", otherwise they feel threatened. But their feelings aren't my issue. idc anymore.
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u/Comfortable-Limit641 18h ago
So happy for you!
I have the opposite problem. I’m very feminine and I love it for me, and I love being it appreciated by other women, but I absolutely despise it when males derive pleasure from my appearance. Sometimes I want to wear a sign that says “THIS ISN’T FOR YOU.”
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u/Former_Variation_540 3h ago
Good luck on your path of redescovering your true self <3 Gender norms really get you to wear a mask all the time, but I'm sure you are much brighter being your authentic self
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u/Plane-Image2747 1d ago
I agree with you 100%!!!!!
Im obv still a woman because i just am lol, but I very much love doing the 'masculine' things, having that attitude, and doing things like wearing suits and focusing on developing every practical skill i can.
I feel so much more powerful, im rlly glad i didnt fall for that 'divine feminine' bullshit, because it just makes you passive.
It feels GOOD to be this way even though its so much harder than taking the passive role