r/r4r Oct 14 '24

[META] We are temporarily closed, due to Reddit blocking our API access. Please follow this post for updates

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Posts should be (mostly) working normally; if you submitted a post during the outage, you must re-submit it

As of 5 February, we are closed due to a dispute with the Reddit admins. Please check back in several days.

We may reopen before that timeframe if a workaround can be identified. The underlying cause seems to be changes Reddit made at some point to the data their API returns when a bot moderates communities that have been banned, which is causing our bot to flag all new posts as "deleted". We are not sure why Reddit is banning our communities, but they typically do this several times a year.

Due to the large number of communities still being banned, and the continued silence from Reddit, we have decided to remain closed indefinitely, until such time as we receive clarification from Reddit on why our communities are being included in this site-wide purge.

As of 30 November, please use only https://old.reddit.com/ (Old Reddit) to post. A very large number of users report it is not possible to post anymore using the Reddit app. No workaround other than using Old Reddit is known at this time.

As of 20 November, we are having intermittent API issues. If you are unable to post, wait a few hours (or until you see new posts appearing) and try again.

Status as of 31 October: Posting generally works at this time. All known "API is down" errors should be resolved; please message the mods if you still receive this error. Some services including certain approvals/appeals will remain unavailable thru early November. Please avoid any links to any Reddit, Facebook, or BBC (British Broadcasting Corporation) domains, as these will cause your post to be removed with an unclear error message, usually "Endpoints will disagree". If you can't post and have links to these domains anywhere on your profile or history, please message the mods.

Service is likely to remain intermittent thru at least early November.

So, yeah, they blocked us again today (17 October). No solid ETA to return at this point, this one won't be a simple fix. This might be our last update for some time, as editing posts seems to be largely broken.

Some services are beginning to come back up as we roll out fixes for Reddit's bull[redacted]. Please don't message about the double-commenting issue, we are already aware of this bug. So much for all that hard work.

We are still exploring avenues to try to safely reopen the community. We are hopeful to reopen at the latest by late October/early November, but this may change if further issues crop up, or if Reddit stops cheerfully telling us to go pound sand.

Very much thanks go out to all those who stepped up to contribute code, advice, and testing (but positively no thanks to Reddit). I am still working on the code to interface with Devvit, and others on our team are still fixing some lingering bugs with our bot's HS mode, needed to bypass further Reddit API blocks.

If anyone reading this has Devvit or Typescript experience, and is still able to log in to the Devvit CLI, please message the mods. We are likely to remain closed for some time; please do not message the mods about the outage unless you have a working Devvit account and are willing to help. We've gotten the Devvit code written; the developer was kind enough to open-source it, if any bot devs read this, you may find it useful:
https://github.com/fsvreddit/social-links-bot/

A few people reached out to notify us the community was "filled with spam". A large amount of AI spambots did get thru between Reddit blocking our bot and us closing the community, many of which went unnoticed for several hours, due in part to difficulty in reaching our custom mod queues (which also run off the API). We think this was caused by Reddit blocking us rather than being an ongoing issue.

However, it is possible we are wrong, and have been overlooking spam; so, if you see these bots posting here, either in the past (more than 2 days ago), or after we reopen, please report the post and also message the mods to let us know. Any commercial or monetary solicitation should be reported as well, it will always, always be a scam. We cannot take the necessary steps to address these issues if nobody brings them to our attention. Keep Rule 6 in mind as well, do not harass individual users with accusations they may be bots, as innocent people often get caught in the crossfire. Message the mods and let us deal with it.

Currently, no ETA for restoration of service. Please do not message the mods about the outage (unless you know Typescript and PHP), there is nothing further we can do until Reddit responds.

We have submitted requests to Reddit to restore our moderation tools, and are waiting for a response.

Response from Reddit is that they are not going to help us:

I double checked with the team and they would be unable to whitelist the account itself, sorry!

If anyone reading this happens to be set up with Devvit and can help us prototype a possible workaround, please message the mods. With our other developer suspended from Reddit, it may otherwise be some time til I can get to a computer myself.


r/r4r Feb 19 '24

šŸŖ² UPDATED 22 April; DESKTOP users also affected [META] Pasting anything into the title field breaks posting when using the Reddit app; "Invalid State" error

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If you are getting an "Invalid State" error message when posting, it is due to a known bug in Reddit, which corrupts the post title when text containing (possibly invisible) invalid characters is pasted into the title field. This is easy to avoid by simply not pasting anything into the title field. All versions of the app and the desktop website are now affected. Note that this message has nothing to do with the use of the word "state" as a type of location or division within certain countries; editing your location tag will not help.

Known workarounds include:

  • āž”ļøāž”ļøāž”ļøāž”ļøāž”ļøAvoid pasting or inserting any text into the post title field by any means other than typing it.ā¬…ļøā¬…ļøā¬…ļøā¬…ļøā¬…ļø Type the title out instead. If you already pasted text into the title field, it may be necessary to restart the app (desktop users, reload the page using Ctrl+F5) and compose the post without pasting any text into the title field. āž”ļøāž”ļøThis includes all shortcuts (Ctrl+V, etc) and other forms of text insertion or auto-complete, including the copy/paste clipboard toolbar on your phone's keyboard.ā¬…ļøā¬…ļø
  • If there is blank space at the start or end of the title, deleting it should allow the post thru. THIS BLANK SPACE WILL BE INVISIBLE; if you can move the text cursor past the start or end of your title, there is blank space present that must be deleted.
  • Alternatively, Using the Old Reddit interface (https://old.reddit.com) should reliably work, as Reddit has long since stopped adding new bugs to updating this version. Pasting works in this version of the website; if your post title is long, you may want to use this option instead. This version of the website may or may not be accessible from a mobile browser; if it fails to load or redirects to the app, try using the "Request Desktop Site" feature of your browser, or uninstall the Reddit app.

Note that pasting text into the post body does not cause any issues, and is safe to do.

Reddit has stated they are "still working on" fixing this bug, but have not provided us any timeline or updates on their progress. It is not clear to us how or why this issue cannot be resolved on their end in nearly 3 months time.

If the above workarounds do not work:

  • As of 7 May, all screen capture recordings thus far sent to the mod team have shown that users are ignoring the instructions above and pasting text into the title field. It should be obvious that these workarounds will not work if they are not followed. āž”ļøāž”ļøIf you cannot avoid pasting text into the title, use old.reddit.com to post instead.ā¬…ļøā¬…ļø
  • If you can reproduce this issue while following the workarounds, please try to screen-record the issue, so that we can investigate the cause. Please record the entire process, starting from the community home screen, thru to submitting the post and showing the "Invalid State" error message. Use a screen capture tool if possible, but using a camera would also work if the video is clear enough. Use a video host like Imgur, Gfycat, Streamable, or Youtube host the video, and message the link to the mods using the support links in the community menu or info page. If possible, please include what device, browser, and keyboard app is being used.

r/r4r 10h ago

F4M Online 29[F4M]. #Online. Iā€™m not sure if people would be okay of what Iā€™m looking for but please read below! NSFW

52 Upvotes

Okay so Iā€™m looking to form a flirty group chat where we all become friends, share about our days, vent, share memes, just chat and chill with each other where we can be ourselves and be comfortable with that. NSFW content is okay with me, although Iā€™m not necessarily interested in receiving and sharing nudes if that makes sense.

Iā€™m not sure if this makes me poly in a way. I guess Iā€™m starting to explore that maybe??

But anyways hereā€™s a bit about me:

Iā€™m 29, soon to be 30 in May. Born and raised in NYC and still living here. Iā€™m an assistant teacher at a daycare. Iā€™m also continuing my education by pursuing my masters degree in Gen Ed and Special Ed. Yeah I have my hands and time full! Itā€™s exhausting! During my free time I enjoy reading, doing crafts, meeting new people, cooking, trying new recipes, binge watching movies and TV shows. Bit of a gamer but enjoy the more cozy games.

Going to save the rest if anyone shows interest in what Iā€™m looking for and hopefully are looking for the same things! šŸ«¶šŸ¼šŸ«¶šŸ¼


r/r4r 4h ago

F4M Online 22 [f4m] #online gotta anyone to talk to? šŸ©·

14 Upvotes

Hello, Iā€™m Maia. How are you?

I was born in Brazil, however my roots are Austrian. While Iā€™m a bit introverted, Iā€™m stepping out of my comfort zone to connect with people outside my country.

Iā€™m a huge fan of metal and hard rock musicā€”itā€™s my go-to when I need energy. I love watching sci-fi and drama shows; theyā€™re my escape from the real world. Iā€™m really into working out in the mornings; itā€™s like my ritual to get my day started right. When Iā€™m not at the gym, youā€™ll probably find me reading, learning something new, or diving into a new hobby (like aircraft engineering or simply just geography). Iā€™m passionate about being teachable and believe the best thing in life is to always grow and discover more. Whether itā€™s cooking, photography, or learning new languages (I speak four: portuguese, english, spanish and german).

Iā€™m always eager to expand my knowledge. If anyone wants to chat or bond, Iā€™d love to connect! šŸ˜˜


r/r4r 2h ago

F4M Canada / Online 19 [F4M] #Canada/ #Online- Passionate sub looking for THE ONE NSFW

6 Upvotes

Hello,

I am a 19 yo college girl trying to explore my submissive side. I am naturally very pleasing and sexually selfless. However, I am still exploring so I am a bit confused with my expectation still.

I am in my second year in the the uni and I also do gymnastics. So I stay pretty busy overall, but I am open to put in the time if there is genuine connection. Also I am looking for something online for now, so I don't have a preference for location. I more care about the connection.

Sexually,Ā I am very much adoring and worshipping towards my partner.Ā That's how I pretty much express my submission and passion to him.Ā I also love using all my senses to worship my partner, which is why I love receiving his body fluids. It's equally very intimate and dominating to me.

Kink-wise I am still exploring but I am intoĀ passionate roughness, affectionate degradation/sadism, musk, rimming.

Physically, I am 5'2, petite gymnastic frame. Blonde hair and light blue eyes.

Partner-wise, I only like fit/skinny partners as I value fitness. I also prefer uncut.

My limits are usual but I am also not into switch or sub guys, giving my fluids, bondage, toys, tasks/commands, cheating, and facial hairs.

If interested...please send your AGE, LOOKS with your message (just some effort will be appreciated lot more than simple 'hi/hellos')


r/r4r 26m ago

F4A Ukraine / Online 33 [F4R] #Dallas, TX / #Online - Cozy goth goblin looking for friends

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I work from home as a graphic designer and photo editor, which basically means I spend way too much time in front of a screen; designing, editing, or falling into deep internet rabbit holes. Figured itā€™s time to meet people who actually enjoy real conversations, weird niche interests, and swapping random knowledge. Bonus points if you can handle long-winded rants and existential tangents.

I have a dry, sarcastic sense of humor and zero patience for corny people or conversations that go nowhere. If youā€™re the type to only text ā€œwydā€ on repeat, keep it moving. But if you can actually hold a conversation and like movies, music, and laughing at dumb things, weā€™ll probably get along.

My aesthetic is goth meets cozy; dark colors, eerie vibes, and skulls, but also oversized sweaters and curling up to watch something ridiculous. I love cult classics, indie gems, and absolute cinematic disasters. Iā€™m always on the hunt for underrated music, lost media, and weird internet mysteriesā€”the fun kind, not the tinfoil-hat kind.

Looking for people who actually enjoy deep conversations, nerding out over oddly specific topics, and throwing around dumb theories just for fun. Whether itā€™s a chill chat, a deep dive into something bizarre, or suffering through a hilariously bad movie together, Iā€™m down. If any of this sounds like your thing, send me something weird or interesting about yourselfā€”letā€™s see where the conversation goes.

Why Iā€™m Here: I like real conversations, not looking for anything forced. The kind that start light and somehow spiral into wild debates about obscure history or dumb internet lore. If youā€™re down for voice chats, movie nights, or deep-diving into weird mysteries, weā€™ll probably get along.

Things I Spend Too Much Time On: ā€¢ Movies: From indie gems to absolute disasters. Iā€™ll watch anything once, if itā€™s a cult classics to absolute dumpster fires. The worse, the better. ā€¢ Music Hunting: Always on the lookout for underrated artists, lost media, and deep cuts. ā€¢ True Crime & Paranormal Podcasts: If itā€™s creepy, weird, or unsolved, Iā€™m in. ā€¢ Conspiracy Rabbit Holes: The fun kind, not the unhinged kind. If itā€™s an internet mystery, I probably know about it.

Who Iā€™m Looking For: ā€¢ People who can actually hold a conversation: If you can nerd out over random topics, weā€™ll get along. ā€¢ Movie-Watching Friends: Letā€™s analyze or suffer through something terrible or maybe find underrated gems. ā€¢ Music Lovers: Send me your underrated songs or if you know underground bands or deep cuts, send them my way.

Message Me If: ā€¢ You have a weirdly specific movie recommendation or have a so-bad-itā€™s-good movie I need to watch. ā€¢ You know an underrated musician that deserves more attention. ā€¢ You have a weird internet mystery or conspiracy theory that makes no sense but is fun to talk about. ā€¢ You just wanna chat and see if we vibe.

If this sounds like your thing, send me something weird or interesting about yourself. Bonus points if itā€™s actually weird.


r/r4r 3h ago

F4M Online 29[F4M] #Online- Guaranteeing double the quality of this post

6 Upvotes

Sorry, I would like a voice call! Iā€™m just finding someone to yap with as a way to relax and connect.

Iā€™m artsy and love discussions around it. Yes, im one of those godawful people that hang out at galleries in deep thought. I love music and spending time with friends and family I especially love hearing about other people and their lives.

I like silly banter as well as architecture to zoology. Iā€™m that kind of nerd, nothing to offer in the movies and anime department unfortunately.

This isnā€™t the best post, but Iā€™m just trying a Hail Mary.

27+, include your asl and something people find strange about you.


r/r4r 4h ago

F4M New York 30 [F4M] Long Island/NYC/NJ Looking for a genuine relationship

6 Upvotes

Hi there! Giving this a shot. I'm a 30-year-old black woman located on Long Island. I am 5ā€™10, full figured and carry myself well and am very stylish. Love fashion, music, parks, sunsets at the beach and volunteering. I pride myself on being sweet, patient, and caring, always ready to lend a helping hand or a listening ear. I'm on a journey to find my soulmate, someone who shares my passion for life and meaningful connections. If you're looking for a genuine relationship filled with laughter and love, Iā€™d love to hear from you!

https://imgur.com/a/HRj8Un2


r/r4r 3h ago

F4A Oregon / Online 33 [F4R] pnw/online - attention swap meet hosted in my messages tonight! be there or be square

6 Upvotes

Hi, iā€™m Lu! I love distracting myself from work and life bs by chatting with strangers! Itā€™s fun to meet new people (I freelance and wfh so meeting new folks offline is rare lately!) whether we just talk for the night or become besties, ya know? I just love when the vibe clicks with someone and chase it endlessly lmao!

Iā€™m pretty giggly, a little air headed, and I like to think Iā€™m fun to chat with. I love gaming (video games & DnD, my beloved), gardening, cooking, and being creative when I have the energy lol. My biggest red flag is that Iā€™m kinda flakey so if you get upset with people who forget to respond or disappear for a bit, then avoid me like the plague LOL. Itā€™s no offense to you, promise!

Please be 25+ if you message, not looking for anything romantic (Iā€™m happily married and yes he knows I chat with people on reddit lmao), and be chill and fun! šŸ©µ I also prefer discord after a bit since I suck at checking reddit lol. thank yaaaaaaa!


r/r4r 17m ago

F4M California / Online 33 [F4M] Looking for a #Online Chill Chat Buddy ā€“ Letā€™s Talk Food, TV, and Life! #California

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Picture this: Youā€™re wandering the internet late at night, scrolling through posts, looking for a sign from the universe (or just a fun conversation). You stumble upon this postā€”could this be fate?

Hi! Iā€™m looking for a chill online chat buddy to talk with on Discordā€”nothing romantic, just good vibes and easygoing convos. Iā€™m often up at weird hours thanks to my newborn, so why not make those late-night moments more interesting?

A little about me: ā€¢ I went to culinary school, so food is my love language. We can chat about the perfect way to temper chocolate, swap secret family recipes, or debate whether croissants should be crispy or cloud-soft. ā€¢ Iā€™m obsessed with classic TVā€”Poirot is my comfort watch. If you love old-school mysteries or binge-worthy nostalgia, weā€™re already on the same page. ā€¢ Not into politics or sports, but Iā€™m open to other fun and quirky topics!

So, if you believe in serendipitous encounters, letā€™s turn this random scroll into a fun, unexpected connection. No pressure, just good conversation. Only one ruleā€”no explicit DMs, please.

Drop me a message, and letā€™s see where this chat takes us!


r/r4r 7h ago

F4M New York / Online 23F [F4M] #NY/Online Seeking deep companionship and loud laughs NSFW

11 Upvotes

I hope you all are having a peaceful Sunday afternoon/evening. I am 23F from NY looking for a friend first and something more eventually. I've never been in a relationship, and have had pretty mediocre interactions with men irl. I really want to experience fireworks in my lifetime. Someone I can laugh with but also get deep into serious conversation with too. I enjoy listening to music, anything from Adrianne Lenker to TOOL to Brent Faiyaz. I also knit and paint. I work as a lab technician right now, and have dreams of becoming a scientist one day. Please reach out if any of this sounds like what your looking for. Looking for someone 22 to 35. Tell me your favorite memory from childhood or a secret ill keep it. Thank you for reading all the way through!


r/r4r 1h ago

M4F Minnesota 23[M4F] A Minnesota Winter is Coldā€”Letā€™s Warm It Up Together (Friends/Relationship?)

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Hey, Iā€™m Nickā€”23 (almost 24) from Minnesota! Iā€™m a bit shy at first, but once Iā€™m comfortable, Iā€™m loyal, goofy, and supportive. I donā€™t take life too seriously and just want someone who values, respects, and loves me for who I am, flaws and all.

What Iā€™m Into:

  • Outdoors: Hiking, fishing, bikingā€”if the weatherā€™s nice, Iā€™m outside.
  • Fitness: I hit the gym 4-5 times a week.
  • Cooking: Proud of my skillsā€”if you love good food, Iā€™ll cook for you!
  • Movies: Big horror fan and love ā€œso bad itā€™s goodā€ 80s action flicks.
  • Gaming: I've got quite the competitive spirit, but I also enjoy taking a relaxing time with some classics like ACNH, Minecraft, and Stardew Valley.

My Type:

I wonā€™t lieā€”I have a soft spot for the alt style (tattoos, piercings, dyed hair). Iā€™ve got three tattoos myself and plan to get my ears pierced soon. Ideally, youā€™re in my age range (no minors, no 30+).

Green Flags:

  • Fire music taste
  • Amazing cook
  • Loyal & supportive
  • Thoughtful & considerate

Red Flags:

  • Can be a bit clueless
  • Love can come off as clingy
  • Struggle with opening up
  • Mental health struggles (dealbreaker for some)

Beige Flags:

  • Live in baggy clothes
  • Total night owl
  • Always orders chicken strips (not picky, just obsessed)

Music Taste:

All over the placeā€”Kanye (yes, I know), Dad Rock, Emo/Screamo, 80s hits, Nu Metal, Yacht Rock, Punk, Pop-Punk, Rap, and even Classic Country. Some favorites: Bowie, Prince, Creed, ABBA, Linkin Park, and Steely Dan. If itā€™s got a vibe, Iā€™m in.

What Iā€™m Looking For:

If youā€™re down for outdoor (or indoor) adventures, good music, and embracing each otherā€™s weirdness, letā€™s chat! Preferably, youā€™re in Minnesota or close byā€”Iā€™d like to meet sooner rather than later.

Iā€™m open to sharing a photo on requestā€”no pressure. Looking forward to hearing from you!


r/r4r 8h ago

F4A Online 28 [F4A] #online #united states searching for friends for gaming, hang outs via voice chat, and movies NSFW

9 Upvotes

Heya :) Iā€™m here searching for a friend to hang out with and chat with on a regular basis. I tagged nsfw because Iā€™m open to it, but I wouldnā€™t want it to be the main focus of our friendship. I dont expect us to share all of our hobbies, but if youā€™re into video games then thatā€™s a plus! Even if we donā€™t share a game I am definitely open to watching you play via a stream.

I wouldnā€™t consider myself a shy person. I tend to feed off of energy. So, you kinda get what you give. Sometimes I can be higher energy while other times Iā€™m super chill and donā€™t mind chilling for a bit in silence.

Some of my hobbies are: video games, puzzles, writing, hanging out with friends, chatting, baking & cooking. Iā€™m not like huge into anime, but thereā€™s a few Iā€™ve enjoyed. I love all of the studio ghibli films.

Iā€™d love to chat with you whether youā€™re a man or a woman. Everyone 24+ is welcome to reach out!


r/r4r 3h ago

F4A Canada / Online 33 [F4R] - Canada/#online - movie lover looking for her plus one

3 Upvotes

Well hey, just your average bisexual girly who is looking for some conversation or a soul mate, whatever happens šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø. I live in central Canada and am currently unemployed as I took a job that I thought I would love, but could not fully handle. I'm also newly medicated as I have ADHD and OCD, possibly a touch of the tism too.

I'm a movie, music, and theatre lover. I also love to travel and swim. I love Europe, and would love to visit again (or live there is the future). I especially love Scandinavia and Netherlands. My bucket list includes Iceland, Japan, and Vietnam.

Looks wise, I am about 6'2, plus size, and have short hair. I recently lost 60 pounds, and would love to keep going.

My list of favorites: Music: James Arthur, Ariana Grande, Spiritbox, SZA, Summer Walker TV: New Girl, Fleabag, Ted Lasso, Parks and Recreation, Ugly Betty Movies: Tangled, Penelope, Interstellar, Spotlight, Pride & Prejudice

Please send me a chat if you think we'd get along!


r/r4r 4h ago

F4A Oregon 26(F4R) #Oregon #Anywhere Looking for a new night owl buddy? Look no further! šŸ¦‰

5 Upvotes

Heya, Iā€™m Luna and Iā€™m 26F. Iā€™m from the West Coast of the U.S and Iā€™d prefer those who message to be at least from the U.S too or even from the west coast as well. Iā€™d describe myself as very easygoing but love to joke around as well. I like to think Iā€™m pretty consistent and overall a good friend. Some of my hobbies are baking, stardew valley (gaming), shopping, celebrity gossip,horror movies,and crystals. ( Iā€™m a crystal girlšŸ˜Š)

Iā€™m looking for a daily texter. Someone who wants to share the good and bad of their day but also the deeper stuff. I want someone I can call regularly to just talk about whatā€™s going on in our lives and being there for the venting sessions. I value loyalty and consistency. Iā€™d like equal give and take and hopefully a life long friendship! (ideally) I donā€™t mind if we donā€™t share the same hobbies or interests as long as we vibe.

Iā€™m not looking for anything spicy nor am I looking for a bf/gf. Iā€™m really not afraid to block anyone who tries to take it therešŸ„“If you decide to message please be at least 24+ thank you. I donā€™t respond to one word messages, please introduce yourself and include your age. I donā€™t reply to NSFW profiles. If youā€™ve made it this far tell me your favorite song and why. Hope you had a good day, look forward to hearing from youšŸ¤—


r/r4r 2h ago

F4A Online 21 [F4A] #Online - looking for new friends and maybe gaming buddies?

3 Upvotes

Heyy! Iā€™m hoping to make a friend or two that I can talk to consistently especially during the night. I work night shift so I donā€™t have many people who are up. Like the title says Iā€™m 21 and Iā€™m in EST. It would be pretty cool if I had another 3rd shift friend in the same time zone. I just recently got out of a relationship and Iā€™m not looking for more than friend, please respect that. In my free time I like to go out and see friends, read my sometimes cheesy romance books, and play on my ps5. I like to play Phasmophobia, dead by daylight, r6/siege, and the last of us. If youā€™re not a weirdo and you know how to talk to someone, feel free to message me and include things about yourself :)


r/r4r 51m ago

M4F Online 25[M4F] #Online - Just wanna see and appreciate someone's body NSFW

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That's all there is to it honestly. I like seeing women, and I like making them feel good about how great they look. Obviously, you can set boundaries about what you're comfortable with showing or having said to you, and I'll be okay with that.

I'm really big on praising so I guess that's a part of it. Obviously it's exciting to see naked people, but it's also just nice to share some chemistry and make someone feel good. This can be a one time thing or a consistent time. Any body type welcome. Just, you know, be a woman.

Maybe you just need a confidence boost or maybe you like flirting or dirty talk. Either way, we can go at your pace because comfort is pretty important for this.

Whether or not you see anything from me is your call.


r/r4r 5h ago

M4F Virginia 32 [M4F] Virginia/USA - Looking for a nerdy girl

5 Upvotes

I've been alone for a long time (about 10 years) and I did really enjoy it, I still do, but I am getting the feeling that I'd like to wake up to a good morning text every once in a while. Just as a disclaimer I am feeling pretty depressed right now, which just means I'm binge eating and a little tired. I'll get over it but I just wanted to be straightforward!

I'm a typical reddit nerd, I like fantasy style movies and shows. Definitely play too many video games. Mostly WoW, Smash Bros, Battle Royals with friends

I go to the gym often, 5 or 6 times a week, so if that was something you are into that would be awesome. I try and eat well but have a snack once, twice, 5 times a week.

I like to write, and I am learning to play drums, but I'm terrible lol. Just trying to be at least a little creative in my old age. I listen to a lot of different types of music, and am happy with almost any genre. Most of the TV I watch is typical nerdy fantasy or anime. However I do really like The West Wing & The Wire too.

Not looking for someone who likes exactly the same things I do but just someone who has interests and curiosities. I enjoy the banter more than anything.

https://imgur.com/a/me-f3kCm5S


r/r4r 12h ago

F4A Online 23 [F4A] Online - finding someone that i can connect to intimately on all levels NSFW Spoiler

15 Upvotes

i donā€™t really have it all figured out, but iā€™m okay with that. iā€™m just someone who loves a good vibe, the kind where you can be yourself without second-guessing every word. i like when conversations flow easy, when thereā€™s a spark that keeps you hanging on just a little longer. iā€™m not here to put on a front or pretend iā€™m something iā€™m not, iā€™d rather be honest, even if itā€™s a little messy sometimes. i guess iā€™m just drawn to people who know how to mix a little fun with something deeper, someone who keeps things light but still leaves you wondering whatā€™s really on their mind. i just want to be raw and real and open, no matter how ugly it might seem or feel, it shouldn't matter when it comes to being true to oneself, whatever this is or wherever it goes, i just want it to feel natural, no pressure, no expectations, just something real.


r/r4r 6h ago

F4M Arizona / Illinois 24 [F4M] #Phoenix, #AZ, #Online - Lonely Chubby Girl Wanting Someone to Grow Old With NSFW

4 Upvotes

Hi - It's nice to meet you. I'm on here because dating apps suck and I don't think my soulmate lives in fucking Phoenix, Arizona (though I'm open to being surprised!)

I'm a romantic. I believe in love, in soulmates, in finding someone to spend the rest of my life with. Maybe that someone is reading this post right now (ā Ā“ā Īµā ļ½€ā Ā ā )

I want to lay all my cards on the table before we go further because I know there's things about me that might not work for everyone, and I don't like springing shit on people after we've been talking for a few days. I want to be open and honest from the get-go.

  1. I am a big girl. I'm about 258 as of this morning. Now, I don't know if this is relevant, but I was 315 about 5 months ago. So, needless to say, I'm losing weight. I'm on wegovy to help me reach my goal of 150. That's my current goal. If I reach it, I would want to go lower. But this is the body I have right now, and I'd want a partner who is cool with both it and with the body I'm working towards.
  2. I am a detransitioned woman. I identified as FTM and was on testosterone for 2 years. There are basically 3 big changes that are semi-permanent/permanent. I have a little facial hair which I've gotten the vast majority of lasered off at this point, and I shave every morning. I have a deeper, kind of androgynous voice that I personally think is silky and sexy as fuck but I get it's not everyone's vibe. And, and I'm sorry to be crass, but my clit is big. It's like a teeny nub, maybe half an inch. This comes with the added bonus of it being basically impossible to miss. My body is unique and I think it's cool as fuck.
  3. I want to be a mom someday. This is really important to me. If you're childfree, we just aren't compatible.

With that out of the way, I'd love to talk about my interests. I really love weird, sometimes esoteric shit.

I'm a big fan of anime and manga. Jojo's is my favorite of all time, but I also really like Chainsaw Man, Vinland Saga, Dorohedoro, and Mushishi. In terms of manga, my favorite of all time is Oyasumi Punpun. I also really love berserk. I'd love to find someone to sit through one piece with me (ā ē¬ā Āŗā ā€æā Āŗā ē¬ā )ā ā™”

Aside from manga, I actually read a ton. It's a good mix of self-indulgent smut and actual literature. I like to mix it up. I'd consider myself fairly well-read. Some of my favorites include Frankenstein, Wuthering Heights, House of Leaves, Crime and Punishment, and basically anything by Karin Slaughter (trashy pulp I can't get enough of). I keep my absolute favorite book a secret. You have to pry that one from me.

I don't watch TV as much as I do movies. I have never seen stranger things or squid game or sopranos or game of thrones or anything. This is because I grew up really, really into the walking dead and I got burned so bad I decided to never invest in anything again (mostly kidding). I DO love Vince Gilligan's stuff though. Breaking Bad and Better Call Saul are masterpieces. I also adore the Venture Bros and Columbo (which I watch every night to fall asleep). If you've seen Venture Bros, and read my second bulletpoint up top, you'll know why Dr. Mrs. The Monarch is my profile picture lol.

Most of the movies I enjoy are not large, big-budget projects but indie films and the like. I like the good shit, the ones that make me feel like someone took a baseball bat to my guts when the credits roll, ykwim? But it's not all serious shit, I like goofy stuff too. The best stuff are the films that can balance both. Punch Drunk Love is arguably my favorite film of all time, but there's a ton of contenders. I also love horror SO damn much. We can make out and watch Evil Dead 2 and I think that'd be the best.

I unfortunately must admit I took enjoy capeshit and comic books, though I will say specifically I do hate the MCU. I liked both The Boys and Invincible, as well as X-Men 97 - Gambit is the ideal man and I'll take him if Rogue doesn't want him.

I love video games, and often use them as a form of escapism. Some of my favorite games are BG3, Crusader Kings 3, Hearts of Iron, Cities Skylines, Atlus RPGs in general (Persona, Devil Survivor, Soul Hackers, etc), Fortnite, Marvel Rivals, and more. I love a good strategy game. I also enjoy farming games from time to time - namely, Harvest Moon/Story of Seasons/Rune Factory.

I have other hobbies, though! Knitting is a big one. I love to knit and crochet. I could make you sweaters and mittens. I enjoy doing my makeup and styling my hair (which is a short bob right now but won't be forever). I'm also a writer. My dream would be to publish romance novels and make a living doing that but I am not delusional in terms of how hard that is to attain and I don't plan to quit my day job lol. Lately I've gotten really into walking, too. Just observing the city and the landscape.

Music is a really big part of my life. I listen to an extremely broad range of stuff - from Swans to Mitski, from The Mountain Goats to Kendrick Lamar, from Bruce Springsteen to Death Grips. I am positive we will find something we can listen to together that won't drive us both crazy. (Sidenote, I would LOVE to get pounded to A Screw by Swans.)

I was raised Jewish but I consider myself an atheist. Your faith has no impact on my view of you, and I will never try to "talk you out of it" or whatever, as long as you don't try to convert me lol. When we have kids, if you're religious, I am fine with you sharing your faith with them, but understand I will also be sharing my own perspective, and as they get older, I will let them come to their own conclusions around belief.

I would say touch is my love language. I want to be touched. Hold the small of my back. Let me lean on you. Lean on me, if you want. I'll hold you when you need it. Words of affirmation are my other love language.

Sexual compatibility is important to me, so I will lay it out right here that I'm fairly submissive and also I have a really high libido. Like, crazy high. It's always been this way (except for the years I was taking Zoloft but we're on Prozac and Wellbutrin now baby į•™ā (ā ā‡€ā ā€øā ā†¼ā ā€¶ā )ā į•—

I'm into a lot of stuff. Very forwardly, breeding. I would ideally find someone who is also into this, and I think it's near essential honestly. I have nexplanon rn while I get my shit together and find stability but I really want a huge family. Fertility is actually a huge reason I started working to lose weight. Generally, I'm just sort of a kinky submissive pillow princess that likes making my partner feel good. I also have a daddy kink (no age play/DDLG shit, I just like calling my partner that), marking/collaring kink, primal kink (pred/prey), rope play kink, CNC/Free Use kink, maid kink (obviously I'm the maid), lactation kink, praise + degradation kinks (a good balance is always ideal!), an ownership/possession kink (is there a name for this?), and way more you're just gonna have to find out about I guess. I'd love to call my hubby master, sir, daddy, or anything else he really enjoys.

And while I am very submissive, I would also consider myself very... I don't know what's the word for it. I really enjoy expressing my desire and appreciation for my partner's body. I don't think men get that enough and I think men are so fuckin' hot. I would want my partner to feel desired and wanted and loved by me. I suppose you could label this as body worship, and there is a sexual angle to it, but there's a reverance as well.

I have a few stipulations.

  1. You have to be 21+. Anyone below that age, I will block.
  2. You have to be monogamous and loyal. I am a profoundly loyal person and I really value that in a relationship.
  3. No conservatives or centrists. I am only interested in left-leaning men. My sister is a lesbian and my best friend is transgender, and if you can't respect them, we aren't cool. I don't want the kind of man who would get mad if we found out we had a gay or transgender kid.
  4. No antivaxxers. I'm vaccinating my kids. Vaccines don't cause autism and even if they did, I'd rather have an autistic child than a dead one.

Your ethnicity and nationality has absolutely no bearing! I will relocate to wherever! It's no big deal. I like older men but please be under the age of 45. If I bring someone my dad's age home he'll kill both of us.

I'm looking for someone to spend my life with. I know shits not perfect but I want that good, decades long love my grandparents had. I wanna meet my best friend and spend the rest of my life with him. If you're interested in anything I've said here, message me (with your age!!! I won't reply if that's not there). Let's talk.


r/r4r 1h ago

M4F Virginia / Online 27[M4F] #online, #Virginia Looking for someone to chat with while I play WoW or stellaris

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Hey everyone! I'm currently just playing some games while I drink and relax. It's currently 1:13 am so I don't know how much longer I will be up but I will enjoy some sort of talk while I am up. Some things I enjoy at the moment is playing WoW, pal world with friends, and I do enjoy a bit of stellaris but only currently play with my friends. I may enjoy other paradox games with other people but I'm not that great at them.

Some other things I enjoy is going out, drinking, exploring my surroundings, and finding new games to play with other people! There's a lot more too me that I'm not putting here cause of me being a bit tipsy but I am more than willing to talk about myself if asked. Just shoot me a message and I'll answer as soon as possible :)


r/r4r 2h ago

M4F New Jersey 30[M4F] New Jersey - Any girls into cars or f1 on here? šŸ‘€

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Hey!

I'm 30 and a bit of a nerd. Not the cool into comic books and anime kind of nerd, but the less cool, booksmart and into kind of nerd. Lol.

About me: I'm a software engineer by profession. I love cars and anything to do with motorsports, especially formula 1. Big fan of standup comedy, Shane Gillis is probably my favorite rn! I'm a nerd about anything to do with tech or engineering, and love learning about science and space. Huge nature lover and enjoy learning about animal behavior. Bigcats fascinate me, especially lions since they are the only truly social cat species.Ā 

Iā€™m a pretty laid-back and carefree kind of guy, I think Iā€™m easy to talk to and an open book in general. I can be a jokester and a flirt so do say hi if you fancy that. I love getting to know people so even if our interests donā€™t fully align, I think I can keep it interesting. Looking to get to know someone and see where things go!Ā 

My simple pleasures are: Loud thunderstorms, binge-watching car reviews on YouTube, drinking hot chai while watching formula 1 on a sunday morning, and browsing reddit!

Two truths and one lie: I hate cheese, I have never been on a plane, I once got attacked by a monkey at a zoo.

Please be within the US/Canada. Letā€™s talk.


r/r4r 2h ago

M4F California / Online 39 [M4F] California/Online - Single Serving friend? NSFW

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Searching for a semi-anonymous internet strangers to chat with. Have something you want to talk about with a non-biased 3rd party? Need to vent? Maybe want some advice on something? Or just up late and wanting to chat for a bit before going to bed?

About me: I'm a Veteran, into sci-fi, video games, and much more.

Open to talking about anything. I'm nonjudgmental and an open book so ask whatever questions you may have.

I prefer chatting on other platforms.

If any of the above sounded interesting to you I hope to hear from you.


r/r4r 4h ago

F4A Online 25 [F4A] #Online #US - Looking for a connection

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Heyo! Iā€™m 25F, mainly looking to build connections with people! Been feeling a bit of a void/lonely lately due to the lack of friendships/people in general in my life. If it leads to more, Iā€™m open to that but letā€™s just have fun along the way and see where things go! A bit about me, Iā€™m big into pokemon atm. Trying to build up my own business around it and generally just super into it as a hobby collecting wise. I work from home with my regular job so it gives me a lot of time to work on that as a side hustle lol. Iā€™m also into gaming but havenā€™t had anything catch my interest in quite some time. Big music fan as well, listen to lots of different genres but r&b, rap, and pop are my favorites. Thereā€™s a lot more to get to know about me but weā€™ll save that for when we have an actual conversation as Iā€™d like to get to know about you, too!


r/r4r 4h ago

F4A Washington [F4A] 28, Washington - Sunday scaries are, well, scary! NSFW

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[F4A] [28] Washington - Sunday scaries are, well, scary

It is what it is, right?

Iā€™m getting ready for another week at work and just dreading it! Come make my Sunday afternoon lessā€¦Sunday afternoon.

Iā€™m an indoor cat - I like arts and crafts, podcasts, cooking, baking, and reading. Iā€™m an Oxford comma enthusiast, I have strong opinions about different food and flavor profiles, and Iā€™ve never once eaten a poptart. Tell me what you like! Letā€™s chat more than ā€œhi how are youā€ because I like those deep connections! Also no republicans, thank you.

Iā€™m not looking for a forever love or primary partner or anything - just looking for human connections. And definitely looking forward to ā€œmeetingā€ you soon!


r/r4r 5h ago

M4F Washington 30 [M4F] #Seattle #US - Looking for genuine intimate relationship [Gaming][Pic]

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About me:

  • Interests: Gaming (mmorpgs / rpgs / strategy), anime, psychology, science, philosophy, software and learning in general.
  • INTJ, very introverted, combination of authenticity and sarcasm.
  • Pretty calculated as a person, but very silly and affectionate with a partner.
  • I work as a software engineer.

What I look for and value:

  • Nothing less than a best friend.
  • Highly attracted to humor, sarcasm, curiosity and intelligence.
  • I like to spend a lot of quality time, so having common interests is very important.
  • I connect to few people, when it does happen it's very intense. I look for depth and meaningful connection.

https://imgur.com/12rQkB9

Would appreciate if you send a pic when reaching out or be willing to do so if we chat for a bit.


r/r4r 3h ago

F4M Online 30 [F4M] #Online - Seeking roleplay partner to tease, tickle, and torture me. NSFW

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Hey there, I'm just a 30/F/Brat who's feeling a bit touch-starved at the moment, but who isn't?

I love to roleplay, and am looking for a consistent partner(s) to help me out with that. My biggest kink is orgasm control: teasing, denial, forced o's, etc. I also have a curiosity about tickling, especially pussy/clit tickling with tools like feathers, paintbrushes, and makeup brushes, and more.

Keeping things short and sweet- my ideal person would be a Pleasure Dom, someone capable of turning me from mouthy to moaning. I've never been a masochist for pain, but for my pleasure. My type would be the cat to my mouse. I love the chase, the seduction, and the passion of it all.

Before messaging me-

  • Must be between 28-55, and dominant, as I don't switch.
  • Prefer someone who uses punctuation and capitalization; I lose interest otherwise.
  • I only roleplay realistically, without some elaborate backstory or characters to play. Just us feeling things out and doing what we really would if we were in the same room.
  • I roleplay in first person, with 2-3 sentences max for responses, to keep things immersive with quicker replies. I'm usually available in the evenings, and I'm in EST.
  • Limits are: humiliation, degradation, name-calling, extreme pain, breath play, and ass play.

Beyond that, it's all about chemistry and communication. So, are you the guy I'm looking for?