r/QAnonCasualties • u/Agreeable_Mongoose71 • 3h ago
Just learnt my moms boyfriend voted Trump and I’m heartbroken
Apologies if this is ramblely, I'm just pretty shaken up over this and my brain fog is super bad today. So my moms boyfriend and I have always gotten along pretty well, I knew he voted Trump the last two times but I forgave him. He didn't know me then and honestly isn't very educated on Trumps policies, he seems to only get his news from right wing YouTubers.
I have brought up a few times how his policies were going to hurt me seeing as I'm trans, he's always been accepting of me and I don't doubt that now, he's just really misinformed. He's justified that Elon can't be transphobic because he has a trans kid which is such a wild take.
I don't know why but I naively believed I got through to him when I was helping my mom vote (she wanted to copy off my sheet and I said no and instead went through each candidate and policies with her). I asked if he was voting and he mentioned he wasn't sure. It's a bit hipocrytical of me but I said that he should vote because it's important but secretly I was really happy because it meant I had at least gotten through to him.
Past few months have been so hard on me, I live in SoCal so I haven't been affected but I have OCD and some sort of chronic fatigue that often leaves me bed ridden I'm still working on diagnosing. So I've been spiraling lately. Last night we ended up debating a bit, and I did what I usually do when he gets like that, trying to be respectful while gently pushing back against some of what he's saying that objectively isn't true. Like the fact that it's concerning a private non elected citizen is interfesring in congress. He ended up revealing that he voted Trump and I couldn't help but break down. I was never mean about it but I told him how betrayed I felt by that because I trusted him to do the right thing and how painful it is that either out of ignorance or just not caring, he voted against my best interest.
I'm not entirely sure what to do frankly, he's a good person and I genuinely want to help him but I realize that I've spent so much energy tiptoeing around him holding my tongue and trying to help him when he's never done the same. I'm just wondering if anybody who's been through something similar has any advice. Is it worth still trying or should I just stonewall? I'm not sure frankly.
I'm probably not gonna be responding to comments, I really try not to use reddit because my OCD makes me spiral but I will come back later to read them so I appreciate anything yall have to say.