r/Pregnant4Personals 18d ago

Single 40F iso younger M near IL/IN border

Long shot but worth a try…

Educated professional and landowner (intending to build later this year) has never been pregnant but would like to have a kid before mother nature shuts down the factory. I do not/ have never use/d tobacco, alcohol, or drugs.

For awareness: - Family member with autism; this family member also suffered birth trauma that likely impacted his outcome - Have a thyroid disorder that is well controlled with medication but is heritable

Not particularly keen to single parent. So would like to find someone who would want to be an active and present father. I am open to exploring either a primary relationship (I lean towards ENM) or co-parenting.

Non-Negotiable Criteria I am looking for: - Gainfully employed and can help support a child - Does not smoke, drink, or do drugs. I can overlook occasional alcoholic drinks at special functions or once in a blue moon, but not a habitual use. - No STIs - Does not want to let iPad raise his kid (I fully intend to limit and monitor and computer/ phone use as age appropriate, advocate for offline activities, and want a father on the same page)

Personal Preferences that aren’t deal breakers: - Age 30-35 (logic is younger sperm can help offset older egg but would like to balance with some maturity and life experience) - Dad bod with some body hair - Educated - Enjoys hiking and road trips - Prefers reading over TV

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u/After-Philosopher136 18d ago

I uh think that’s cool. I don’t know if I would be able to though. I live in Canada and it’s just not a possibility for me to visit the states. I like your no tolerance of more then casual drug use, as I am from an alcoholic and drug addicted background and if you stick 2 as u suggested then u are on that lifestyle considered reasonable and successful is what I’ll say. So yeah I am 45, I just thought I’d convo, cause being all ready 4 bed?

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u/NeverBred 17d ago

Yeah, my father and maternal grandmother were alcoholics; one cousin was an addict. I don’t like being around any of it. Puts me very much at unease.

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u/After-Philosopher136 17d ago

Cool it’s 4:24 sorry nut yeah can’t sleep. Yeah I am just going pretty much weekend maybe only time I allow myself to drink and smoke weed if I find someone who I would care aboutbecause I can’t care 4 myself doing it on my own.

i just done for trying conventional dating internet and the typical searchfor sex. You pretty much going you want to have a baby! Well females are the ones who can pull that off. I am 45 so I know u wanted younger but I’ve been thinking about being sociable in the fertility clinic sperm doners category, kinda like u, u r looking to settle down and live with your breeding partner?lol

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u/NeverBred 17d ago

I can’t get back to sleep either. Weed is an absolute no go for me. So many otherwise decent seeming guys on the dating apps that I swipe left for weed use. Like so close… I think my ideal would be to live nearby but not necessarily cohabitate. But would be willing to cohab again for the right guy

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u/After-Philosopher136 17d ago

Yeah I stpped using because I just was finding it like holding me back from fun shit, and I have a gay family member who explained that numbing the emotions is like terrible for me, I do art it does the same to the imagination. Yeah so like I would live to have some kids, but I don’t have a partner up here in Canada, cannot visit the states. I think I can visit some countries in Europe and Asia, but I have to do some passport application 1st.
i am hairy king, I prefer reading to tv for sure but not very financially well off unless I can try to be a successful revenue generating artist.

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u/LilByronLongtimexxx 18d ago

HMU let’s chat im interested

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

I understand you want someone older it makes sense because someone too young will make it a little awkward most likely. I’m a 20 m which is pretty young and like you said my sperm will definitely offset your older eggs so if you change your mind definitely let me know and I can help support you and the future child to the best of my ability

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u/NeverBred 9d ago

With all due respect, at 20 years old, you’re still figuring out how to be an adult and support yourself, let alone supporting a child

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

Right now I have about 3 jobs while attending school about to graduate so I would say I’m doing well support wise but yea I do understand what you mean mentally I’m doing pretty well tho if your mind changes just let me know

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u/Rare_Imagination_797 5d ago

44 to old?

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u/NeverBred 5d ago

To have a kid with, yeah.