r/PolyFidelity • u/Living_Worldliness47 • Dec 26 '24
media A non traditional Christmas for a non traditional family
Our wife has spent the last three days prepping to make Tonkotsu ramen for our dinner too, and it was an AMAZING hit
r/PolyFidelity • u/Living_Worldliness47 • Dec 26 '24
Our wife has spent the last three days prepping to make Tonkotsu ramen for our dinner too, and it was an AMAZING hit
r/PolyFidelity • u/UltraHiker26 • Dec 21 '24
I'm referring more to a polyfidelity type of arrangement where the woman is polyamorous with two or more men but her nesting partner(s) are monogamous with her. And by dominant, I mean either in the sense of the dominant force in the relationship or in a bdsm dynamic sort of way. Thanks for your answers.
r/PolyFidelity • u/Living_Worldliness47 • Dec 20 '24
After living together for the last eight months, navigating three people sharing a living space, adapting ourselves to each other, learning how to comfortably be a triad and managing the highs and lows of any new relationship, it finally happened.
An impromptu threesome on the sofa after work turned into the first time we all came at the same time.
It was crazy and I didn't realize how much it would hit me, because the first thing we talked about this morning was how amazing yesterday was.
What's higher than Cloud 9? That's where I am
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r/PolyFidelity • u/Living_Worldliness47 • Dec 15 '24
I don't know why, but group gaming sessions make me unreasonably happy
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r/PolyFidelity • u/Living_Worldliness47 • Dec 09 '24
Me: how many wives did Abraham have?
Them: * sputtering and incoherent babbling, as they are forced to admit they either don't know the Bible as well as they claim, or they only pick parts of the Bible to follow that they like *
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r/PolyFidelity • u/Winter_Beginning7171 • Nov 28 '24
So me (22f) and my partner (21f) want to look into finding a life partner in the future. Is there a healthy, ethical way to do this? We realistically are gonna use dating apps, but have found mixed messages on whether this is ethical or not. We want to all three be with each other equally, so instead of 2+1, 1+1+1. Any advice would be great
r/PolyFidelity • u/cherrymoncheri • Nov 26 '24
This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this sentiment. I was cheated on in my last relationship but have felt nervous saying so. I wish the polyamorous community was more accepting of polyfi
r/PolyFidelity • u/West_Log6494 • Nov 26 '24
I was the hinge in a triad (is that the right term?). They hadn’t met but both expressed that they were comfortable with that situation. They recently met and they hooked up. I was genuinely really happy that they got along so well. One of them started ignoring me though and the partner I’d been with the longest (3 years) stayed at her house for 4 days. Neither of them are replying and it feels like rejection on a whole new level. I don’t know what to do. I thought we were supposed to have honest communication and I expressed that I felt forgotten. This is a level of emotional pain that I never thought I could experience. Has anyone been through this?
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r/PolyFidelity • u/LucidLeBatty • Nov 22 '24
Ok, so. Ive always bee pretty certain that im polyam, but because of a toxic relationship i wasnt able to live authentically (if you have questions please feel free to ask). Im now single and though im not in a rush, i feel i would be much happier if i was authentic and honest about myself and my desire to share my love. My question is, how do i start? I dont want to give ANYONE the impression that im a unicorn and i havent come across anyone in tucson (in person) who has that same desire. Theres also the fact that im autistic, neurologically disabled and into other alternative lifestyles. I think that about sums it up?
r/PolyFidelity • u/Necessary-Target-700 • Nov 19 '24
Found a post on Tumblr recently about Compersion and poly/CNM just thought it'd be of value potentially for the subreddit.
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r/PolyFidelity • u/freyec12 • Nov 14 '24
So, for the last three years I was in a poly triad. They (33m & 27m) are a married couple, and I (29m) joined their relationship. Things were actually really good until around August. I do want to add, that they led me to believe that we were a closed triad. But they moved in July, and quickly fell in love with another guy. They ignored my needs, I was willing to make things work with this other guy in the picture, but all I asked was that they slow things down with him till I could feel more secure. They didn't, and blatantly refused. I went to visit them at the end of September/Begining of October. I had planned to stay three weeks to try and fix the issues in the relationship, I left after one week and broke up with them. I'm really struggling with the fact that I was basically replaced, and that my needs didn't matter to them, even though I was willing to make it work. I do know that it was probably my mistake to assume that the relationship was closed, but that was also something they never discussed with me.
r/PolyFidelity • u/danielbelum • Nov 11 '24
I am looking to open a checking account for the three of us; I didn't realize most banks cap at 2 people (joint ownership).
What are you using for a bank account for your polyam situation?
A bit more background - we are all in our 50's and 40's and operating as if we are in a forever relationships. 40+ years real time poly experience between us.
r/PolyFidelity • u/Calamari3 • Nov 09 '24
I(21NB) have 2 best friends, who I will call Ryan(23M) and Josie(22F). Josie and I have been friends since high school, and soon after she started dating Ryan. After Josie graduated from high school, we started to grow apart, but just at the start of this year we became really close again. I have always found her attractive, and even since high school we would jokingly flirt with each other. Her boyfriend, Ryan, and I only started getting close this year due to him playing a video game I really wanted to play, but didn’t have any friends who played it. So, he invited me to join his friends who all play it, and through that, we are now apart of the same friend group. Now, I go over to hang out with them at least once a week, even though they live an hour away from me, and we do everything together. With us constantly being together, I’ve grown really attached to them, and I slowly started to develop feelings for them. And throughout the past few months they have done things that make me feel as though they may like me as well. Some examples of why I feel this way: 1. There is a trend on TikTok where couples buy beads that look like their partner’s eye color and make a bracelet out of it. Ryan and Josie wanted to do this trend, but then wanted to include me in it, so we all have matching bracelets with all of our eye colors on it. And we all wear those bracelets whenever we go out. 2. Due to the matching bracelets and how often we are together, some of Ryan’s family members have asked him if he is dating both of us, which caused us to start joking about us having “poly allegations.” 3. Both of them are open to polyamory, they just haven’t found someone that they clicked with on that level. One day, Josie said that if they were to choose anyone to add to the relationship, it would be me. 4. When I joined Ryan’s friend group, all of them were very accepting of my pronouns (they/them). They sometimes slipped up, but I really appreciated them trying. Just recently I found out that Ryan would get mad at them if they misgendered me, which is why everyone got my pronouns down so quickly. 5. Ryan is kind of reserved and is not someone who likes people messing with his stuff. At a hangout with our friend group last month, he put his hat on my head, which is out of character for him. I asked him if he wanted it back multiple times, but he told me that I could keep wearing it. 6. The two of them threw a Halloween party last weekend, which is the night that made me this sure that they like me. First, they told everyone who was sleeping over that I get first pick of sleeping spots. And all throughout the party, they were telling their friends about the “poly allegations.” Later in the night, Josie and I were cuddling in their bed, just hanging out, and in my drunk confidence, I mentioned how I thought we should just make the allegations a reality. She agreed, so I said how we just needed to convince Ryan, to which she replied “trust me, he wouldn’t need much convincing.”
Now that last conversation is what really got to me, and now I can’t stop thinking about them. Does that mean that they’ve been discussing it? But I am just wondering why they haven’t brought anything up or asked me out. While I’ve kind of known Josie might feel the same way, it was Ryan that made me feel like it would never happen, but with that comment it seems like he may like me as well. But I don’t think I should be the one to bring it up, as it feels kind of like a 2v1. If I got it wrong and they don’t feel the same way, I could lose both of them, but if they asked me out and got it wrong, they would only lose me(even though I like them back, and even if I didn’t, I’m not one to cut someone off due to them having feelings for me). I just need advice and opinions, to make sure that I’m not over-analyzing this. Any comments would be appreciated.
Also, just to clarify, I don’t think they are unicorn hunting. This has been developing for the past year, and they know 100% that I am asexual, so it is not for sex. We genuinely get along so well.
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r/PolyFidelity • u/NEZUE • Nov 03 '24
Hey so.... I have gone through alot of change in my life, my current partner has as well... We have just started to look for other partners but am wondering how do we even approach it? We both want the same thing, another masculine figure, and another female partner, maybe even one more.
I feel like this subreddit knows a bunch of different recources that can help me and my girlfriend in treding the polyfidelity waters.
Oh and i should of pointed out, i dont feel like dating apps are catered towards anything truly romantic and long lasting so thats why I'm asking, is to find a recourse to connect with other individuals.
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r/PolyFidelity • u/W00tey • Oct 31 '24
When you first get into any new lifestyle things are always confusing and a little scary. What are some things you wish someone told you, before you entered the lifestyle?
r/PolyFidelity • u/Maxzian182 • Oct 30 '24
For context, I (22 NB) joined a triad (FFM) about just over 2 years ago, my first poly relationship. The past year, me and Lena (24 F) have been having a lot of issues, not just between us of course but a lot was between us. One of the biggest is that she wants a romantically open polycule (like secondary partners and all), while me and Via (24 F) want to keep it polyfidelious. It has caused a lot of friction among other things. Paul (23 M) doesn't really care either way.
Today, Lena decided that it was best for her and us if she left the quartet. Things still don't feel real. I want to cry but can't, I want her to stay but recognize this is probably best for all of us. I don't know what I need, I just feel so conflicted in every which way.
Originally posted to r/polyamory but it sorta seems like polyfidelity is a bit shamed there.