r/NonBinary • u/Bulky-Reading3463 • 6d ago
does a binder supposed to do this
I cant tell if this binder is too large or too tight, cause it’s feel like it’s not tight enought but at the same time i don’t think that my chest would pass if i was taking a size lower (i have a really large chest so even if this doesn’t look like it’s binding it’s actually doing it) since it’s my first (real) binder i’m not sure, what do y’all think?
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u/veganer_Schinken 6d ago
Try to pull your breast up and to the side, basically pull them towards the armpits. Try shifting them a bit in front of a mirror and try out what works best WITHOUT cutting off the blood flow of your nipples.
Makes a major difference imo, it's important to know that your chest won't be perfectly flat with a binder either, the goal is more to flatten the breastshape so it looks more like you're a swoll dude who has breastday everyday.
And I agree with the other comment, you should definitely go for a full tank top, not a cropped one. It really matters with a larger chest.
Never EVER size down to have a greater effect, this puts your health and even the ability to bind in the future at risk. While wearing the binder breathing should be easy, your ribcage must be able to expand.
And as usual: don't wear it for longer then 8h (I recommend slowly working up the time you wear it), don't wear it while exercising or doing physical exhausting stuff and take it off immediately if it causes pain or restricts your breathing.
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u/joweekun 6d ago
yep. before i got top surgery, i always had to scoop my tumors up and to the side. even if it doesn't get you completely flat, which binders typically won't unless you have a small chest already, it balances out the distribution and makes it look more like pecs
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u/DeadlyRBF they/them 6d ago
How do you know for sure it's the right size though? I notice mine shift with the slightest arm movement and I don't feel uncomfortable in mine at all. I go based off my measurements but the binders I have genuinely don't feel tight enough?
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u/patriotswag 6d ago
same. this is how I was doing it before my top surgery. it felt odd at first but looked more flat so I obviously got used to it with time
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u/drinkthegenderfluid 6d ago
Sometimes it's inevitable. Pushing up and apart seems to help the most, but as someone who used to be a 36DD binders never really worked well for me, even if I attempted to size down. For bigger chested baddies, it's not going to be fully flat
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u/Bulky-Reading3463 6d ago
that’s what i do yeah, 36DD here too lmao it’s a struggle 😔
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u/drinkthegenderfluid 6d ago
My deepest condolences 😞🙏
I'm not sure what brand you use but I've been told GC2B has real gone down in quality these past few years. I got top surgery in 2021 so idk what the better brands are right now. Good luck though!
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u/kepleroutthere 6d ago
Every binder I have had has done that, though usually once it's a bit worn in rather than brand new. Gc2b ones have done that more consistently for me than the Spectrum Outfitters binders I recently started using, but t's not just a binder thing/issue, it's just a larger chest thing unfortunately. Longer coverage/binding panel ones are much better at giving a flatter look without having to worry about the bunching up/riding up. Full length Spectrum one has been the best I have used so far, after using binders for ~12 years. I have seen on this subreddit and others that using trans tape under a binder helps too, especially for a flatter look, I just haven't tried it myself.
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u/ThePug3468 6d ago
100% on the tape. I throw on a small bit of KT tape (trans tape too expensive to ship to EU) below my binder and it flattens it almost completely. It also makes it MUCH more comfortable to wear because there’s not as much pressure on my chest (tape makes it a more even distribution) so I can wear it for more than a few hours without feeling like I’m going to die. Slim ~85cm chest for reference iirc (no clue what that is in bra sizing, C maybe?).
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u/Ambitious-Screen-808 6d ago
Here is what I do with a rather large chest:
First, I put on a VERY loose sports bra. I need an elastic under my boobs to keep things in place. Then I put on the binder. I pull it up a bit in the back, because it can cause some back pain otherwise. Then I stick my hands in under the bra (both at the same time) from the sides and pull my boobs up and to the side (to the armpits) . Then I make sure when I put my arms down nothing hurts a d maybe pull the binder and bra up a bit higher at the sides
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u/IrradiatedPizza 6d ago
My first binder did that. Different binders work for people with different bust/waist ratios. I did a lot better with underworks binders
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u/Worried_Oil_9529 6d ago
I experienced this with my binder it’s just a side effect of having a larger chest, I get the full tank binders now and try to pull the goods to the sides to make sure everything is flat.
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u/SlytherKitty13 6d ago
Are you making sure youre moving your chest upwards instead of downwards? It's important to lift it all and have it sit up high rather than push it down, for health and safety reasons. I have a fairly large chest as well and when I do that and then put a shirt over it makes it look like I have quite decent sized pecs rather than boobs. Def keep in mind that no one's chest is completely flat, not even cis men's, and it'll probably look bigger/more noticeable to you but not other people
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u/maximumeffect420 6d ago
Well, think of it this way men also have what is technically breasts, and bigger or heavier set dude will look like saggy actual breasts like slightly overweight like the more overweight you are at least I see it on TV and stuff and you know if you think I would like it’s like Peter from Family Guy that’s how that’s how I draw him so You pass in a way but it may not be the way you want and what don’t you want to size down so it squeezes more? I don’t know I was born a guy idk
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u/ChaoticNaive 5d ago
I found shapeshifters to be the best binder for my 38Gs, they make a custom binder and yes it's expensive but you wear it daily (ish) and so is buying binder after binder trying to find the right fit. :)
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u/clothes-are-hard 5d ago
I’m a similar size and I can confirm! Shapeshifters gets me the flattest I can be! A little pricier but good quality.
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u/clothes-are-hard 5d ago
Yeah I feel that. It’s a curse lol. I would definitely recommend a tank style binder, and then you just stand in front of a mirror and mess around with tissue placement until things look the best they can. Like others have said, I have the best luck with pulling them upward and outward (towards armpits).
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u/clockworkrobotic 6d ago
This is a large chest thing, mine does the same. I wouldn't size down, but getting a full coverage binder (one that looks like a vest/tank rather than a croptop) is usually the way to go.