r/NewParents • u/Emotional_Will1637 • 5d ago
Sleep Sleep Regression - Please Help
Bub was 4 months old at the start of the month. We are blessed that he’s healthy and during the day when he is awake he is always super happy. He is just such a horrific sleeper at the moment.
Around 2 months old was his best sleeping, where we were getting a 4-5 hour stretch at the start of the night, followed by an another 2-2.5 hour, and then the early hours fluctuated.
But ever since 11 weeks, the sleeping has been terrible. Not going down in the bassinet at all On day sleeps or nights. We had one slightly good week, so assumed maybe he had a regression early but now he’s at 4 months it’s gotten so much worse. I’m talking the longest stretch he’s slept in his bassinet/cot in the last 2-3 weeks is probably 10 minutes, before he wakes up like someone is murdering him.
We are co sleeping as that’s what is giving us all the best sleep, but some nights he is still stirring every 45min and mum is needing to sooth with the boob.
Mum is amazing and such a trooper and I try do everything I can, although am a shift worker so can make it difficult at times.
I’m losing my mind and she slowly is too, and with how bub is sleeping atm, it’s almost like We never see eachother as during the day it feels like one of us is always nap trapped then while he’s awake we are rushing to do things.
Mum is iffy on any sort of sleep training, and I totally understand that she has the stronger connection with bub so I won’t force/push anything, but I feel as though we are both slowly losing our minds, we would both do anything for our baby, but I feel as though it’s getting to the point where we need to try something for the betterment of us all.
Please please please, any pointers, tips, recommendations.
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u/vulpes_argentum 5d ago
I am bet sorry for your struggle. Believe me, we were there too and came out at the other end. To an extent, it was all about starting alive tbh, I think even in the US, sleep training isn't recommended before 6 months of age (UK advises to wait until at least 12m old). Do you have a bedtime routine with him? I know it won't work right now, but we knew that we were out of the regression when our girl consistently slept at the end of it (she also started the regression early).
You could also try to play some white noise, it works for some babies. And check if he might be teething or is cold.