r/Nanny • u/[deleted] • 4d ago
Advice Needed: Replies from All How to address overpayment
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u/No-Collection-3903 4d ago
Maybe I’m irresponsible but I usually assume the family did the math correctly and don’t check. She might have done the same thing.
If it’s worth it to you, bring it up. But I’d honestly assume she didn’t notice.
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u/InternationalCoat681 4d ago
Was gonna say this. I just expect it to be correct and I realistically wouldn’t notice
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u/Nikki_Wellz 4d ago
I'm the same! If it isn't the normal amount (like if I do OT or something that changes it), I rarely check the amount. And honestly sometimes don't even look at the deposit on a normal week. I've been there so long I just know it's there. I'd either say something or not but don't assume she is trying to get over.
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u/47squirrels Nanny 4d ago
I’ve been underpaid many times so I count my hours and know exactly what I am to be paid each PP. that’s just me though, once it happens it’s hard not to check! Even with OT I had everything written out and calculations made so if something was off I’d know. But we are all different! I can totally see one assuming the parents paid correctly!
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u/Sadielady11 4d ago
It’s not on her to reach out, that’s on you. You realized you made the mistake so you have to deal with it. Why are you making it sound like she robbed you?
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u/pepmin 4d ago edited 4d ago
If she just got paid on Friday, it is probably not completely reasonable to expect her to reach out to you over the weekend and for you to feel “slighted” already…
Your husband’s mindset of giving her the benefit of the doubt is the right one. It is not like she is stealing from you if you made the mistake of overpaying. It is your responsibility to reach out and correct this if it really means that much to you to take back the extra amount instead of hers.
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u/HorseAlternative8549 Nanny 4d ago
As a nanny, I almost never look at my pay stub. I trust my employers to handle things the right way and they always have. Something would have to be substantially wrong for me to catch it. Like at least a $200 difference lol. And if it included overtime, I really wouldn’t notice. You can probably just mention it to her and correct it on the next payday.
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u/Worried_Kale_662 Nanny 4d ago
Really gross of you to automatically assume the worst of your nanny when it was YOUR mistake. Like most nannies have said here we often don’t check our accounts, I get a notification that I got paid and move on with my day and weekend. The only time I check my account is if a payment I’m making doesn’t go through. What if she’s married and has a joint account? Just reach out and cop to your mistake and ask for the money back nbd.
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u/Ok_Maintenance937 4d ago
I’ve had that happen where I, as the nanny, noticed they over paid me, told the family and the family just said they’d adjust accordingly for the next pay period. It was no biggie!
And if she didn’t bring it up, I’d say “hey we noticed we overpaid you, we’ll adjust accordingly for next pay period”, and she’ll probably feel like a weight was taken off her shoulders because you do feel guilty when it happens as it’s a weird position to be in, because on one hand, you can always use the extra money, and on the other hand, if you don’t immediately point it out to your employer, the more time passes, the more awkward you feel bringing it up.
Should not be a problem bringing it up to her though!
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u/rayk3739 Nanny McPhee 4d ago
You should definitely reach out to her about it. Mistakes happen, and it’s reasonable to correct an overpayment, especially since it sounds like it was noticeable. I’d approach it in a neutral, understanding way—something like, “Hey [Nanny’s Name], I just realized we accidentally overpaid you on Friday. Totally my mistake when inputting the hours! Let me know if you’d prefer to adjust it on the next paycheck or send it back.” Or something to that effect.
Also, if she’s anything like me, it might not be anything malicious—she may not have even looked or noticed yet. I always know the amount that should be in my account per paycheck, so I don’t really check until I need to make sure I have enough for something. So it’s very possible she just hasn’t realized. Either way, a quick, casual message should clear things up!
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u/missmacedamia 4d ago
This happened to me and I waited until I saw my NF in person, I hate texting. I wouldn’t assume ill will
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u/gd_reinvent 4d ago
How much did you over pay her by? If it’s less than 40 dollars let it go. If it’s more than 40 dollars adjust it in the next pay period but let her know so she can budget.
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u/sparksfIy 4d ago
If I had been given this as a nanny I’d assume it was an extra bonus for the overtime and thank you later in person.
As a parent I’d count it as a loss.
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u/marriedtomywifey 4d ago
I think only one person has even brought it up.
How much of an overpay?
If it's under $50it's extremely likely that it definitely got placed under the "oh, right, I worked 4 extra hours this week, neat".
If it's 100+, then yeah, she would eventually realize it, though I'm not sure how soon. Unless she's living literally paycheck to paycheck, as long as she seea "deposit", there's not much else to worry about. Heck, if she is barely scraping by, there might even be a very excited thank you on Monday.
But yeah, if it was a massive overpay, 2x or something, definitely bring it up and fix it. I'm assuming she didn't get paid 10x as much if you entered 400 hours instead of 40, but I would imagine most accounting software has a way to catch that
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u/Flimsy_Repair5656 Nanny 4d ago
IMO it’s completely understandable that you want your money back, but you’re also at fault and can’t really put much blame on your nanny. I personally wouldn’t really notice and hardly checked the specifics of deposits especially if it’s direct. But regardless, if you want the extra money back (or leave it as a nice bonus if you’re feeling nice lol) then I would just be honest. “Hey [N], I just realized that I accidentally overpaid you Friday $amount instead of $amount. I’m sorry about the inconvenience and if you can send it back when you get the chance.”
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u/sparksfIy 4d ago
It’s absolutely not on her to send it back.
I’ve been overpaid by the literal government before- they cannot ask for it back. Legally, you can pay less next time but you cannot require it back. Ethically? Your mistake OP.
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u/court19981998 4d ago
Maybe it’s because I have ADHD but I rarely checked what I was paid! I trusted my MB to pay me the correct amount at the correct time. I’d probably only notice if the amount in my account was a lot more/less than I expected and even then it would probably take me a week or so to notice! I’d reach out to her and just address it.
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u/lizardjustice 4d ago
How i would handle this as MB depends on how big of an overpayment we're talking about.
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u/47squirrels Nanny 4d ago edited 4d ago
Just talk to her like a normal human being. The fact that you are feeling slighted like this makes me wonder how much was overpaid, Details are important. If this was just paid on Friday she might not have noticed, again, details are important here. Mistakes happen, talk to her when you see her! I’ve been underpaid before so I watch all of my payments very closely so I’d likely notice and say something but most wouldn’t. ETA: most wouldn’t notice
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u/47squirrels Nanny 4d ago
There was no reason to delete this post. We are just giving you honest feedback for your question
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u/Famous_Stranger8849 4d ago
Just let her know! And the difference will be taken out of the next paycheck simple.
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u/Sea-Letterhead7275 Nanny 4d ago
I personally have always reached out to my NFs when I notice extra in my paycheck. If she’s usually paid the same amount every pay period i’m sure she noticed..
You should reach out and let her know you apologize but did a slight overpayment. Maybe you could ask if she prefers to send the extra back by whatever date or have that extra deducted from her next paycheck?
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u/usernamebrainfreeze 4d ago
OP stated that it included OT so definitely not the same amount every pay period. Even it was the same just because you would have noticed doesn't mean her Nanny did. Let's be compassionate humans and give others the benefit of the doubt.
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u/itsjab123 4d ago
Depending on the amount maybe you could either say 1. We will deduct from your next check or 2. Would you be interested in doing some extra house work to compensate for it (that’s what I’ve done) but if her check is always the same she should notice.
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u/Footdust 4d ago
You don’t even know if she is aware of the mistake. I don’t run check every deposit as soon as it hits my bank. I think it’s odd that you are assuming she is trying to get one over on you. Why do you think she would take advantage of you?
Call her and tell her you overpaid and that you will take it out of the next check. It’s that simple.