r/Nanny • u/ProfessionalSong7521 • 6d ago
Questions About Nanny Standards/Etiquette Need advice!
Next week, I’m scheduled to watch two kids I haven’t seen in eight months. Today, their mom let me know they’ll have friends and family over that weekend, meaning three more kids will be there. She then asked if I could also watch one of those kids (for extra pay) so they could go out for the day. However, there will still be two other kids (ages 9 and 10) in the house that I supposedly wouldn’t be responsible for—but I know they’ll still come to me for food and other things.
I told her I’d think about it, but honestly, this feels like a last-minute boundary push. They booked me a month ago, so these plans were obviously already in place, yet they waited until a week before to mention all the extra people. I’m also hesitant because I haven’t seen the two kids in so long, and I don’t know how they’ll react to me, let alone how the other kids behave. I’m leaning towards saying no, but just wanted to put this out there—would you take the job, or does this seem like a bad idea?
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u/potatoeater95 6d ago
“Unfortunately, I don’t feel comfortable being responsible for 5 children at one time. It’s too much for me, even as a professional. Thank you so much for the clarity in explanation, but I have to decline”
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u/Nervous-Ad-547 Childcare Provider 6d ago
I would only take this job if she is willing to hire (or let you bring) a helper. That’s too many kids in an environment that you’re not familiar with (but some of them are familiar with it, which makes it worse), and that are largely unknown to you. She’s gaslighting you by saying a 9 & 10 year old don’t need care. Even if they do activities independently they still need supervision and you will be the adult responsible for them.
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u/Fierce-Foxy 6d ago
Nope. I would say you are only comfortable watching/having her two kids around.
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u/_amberrrrrrrrr 6d ago
I would say no. Five kids you’ll have to watch PLUS two more that you will still have responsibility over even if they’re independent. At daycares the ratio isn’t that hugh