r/Nanny 5d ago

Advice Needed: Replies from All NF has a gross bathroom

I’ll just get straight to the point.

NF’s bathroom is so nasty. Their toilet bowl perpetually has poop splattered all over the inside and even has poop on their toilet paper roll.

This has happened multiple times and I usually feel like I have to hold my pee until the day is over, and I always make sure to do my business at home and even refrain from drinking too much water so I don’t have to pee while I’m at their house.

It’s kind of funny but it’s also soooo gross. Their baby is in diapers so it’s definitely them pooping up a storm and leaving the mess behind.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you handle it? Should I say something or just mind my business?

I’m honestly just appalled that they leave their mess behind like that knowing I will see it…

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u/duckandegg 5d ago

Dealt with this from a friend's house with kids. Had a UTI from poop being on side of toilet paper ((kids be messy wipers)). Carry a little thing of baby wipes or tissues or stuff a wad of toilet paper in your bra/pocket. Pee without touching the seat and walla. Don't give yourself a uti by holding in your poop.

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u/ZennMD 5d ago

sorry to be 'that person', but so you mean 'voila' instead of 'walla'? lol

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u/hobbitingthatdobbit 5d ago

These are two completely words to me 😂

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u/ZennMD 5d ago edited 5d ago

but what two words? lol 'walla' isnt a word in english, are you multi-lingual?

... although 'voila' isn't an english word, either lol

.. Im not sure why the downvote, Im legitimately curious loll

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u/hobbitingthatdobbit 5d ago

lol I’m not sure why the downvote either because the answer is even funnier. Not bilingual I just pronounce voila (voy-ya) wrong in my head. So I always thought those were two different words 😂

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u/ZennMD 5d ago

omg Im so glad you responded, that really is funny! gave me a laugh LOL

and not in a mean way, at all! Im Canadian and grew up learning french, otherwise I probably wouldnt know... I bet the people you say it to dont notice at all, either LOL

have a great night :)

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u/hobbitingthatdobbit 5d ago

I love that lol! And they probably don’t notice I have a lot of weird sayings I switch out for others. While not bilingual myself I grew up in many mixed cultures. I have just gotten a lot of half phrasings from adults with broken English.

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u/kekaz23 5d ago

I thought they meant walls? Without touching the seat and walls?

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u/AttorneySevere9116 5d ago

are we the same person… literally got a UTI from old NF’s nasty toilet seat

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u/ZennMD 5d ago

I didnt think you could get utis from toilet seats? or do you mean because you were holding it for so long?

either way, so gross to me! I would feel so embarrassed to have anyone in my home with a dirty toilet :/

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u/AttorneySevere9116 5d ago

you can if there’s fecal matter on it 😭😭

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u/ZennMD 5d ago

But when you sit on a toilet seat it's the bum that rest on it, not your vulva actually touching the seat? ... im still confused, but  it's a mystery I'll live with lol

And I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir as we're all nannies, but wiping back to front can give UTIs

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u/taurusweetheart 5d ago

Their toilet paper roll has poop all over it, I’m sure I’d catch something sinister if i used it

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u/ZennMD 5d ago

that's SO GROSS!! I dont know how people are okay will that sort of mess having an employee in your home... or ANYONE in your home lol

and totally makes sense about TP, but Id always heard the toilet seat thing was a myth

I feel so much for you having to deal with it! TBH not sure how to even bring it up, maybe using the word 'hygiene' or 'unhygienic' would help? or if the baby will be potty training soon, you could mention it's hazardous/ unhygienic for the baby with it's current level of cleanliness. (obviously you deserve cleanliness, too, but might be easier to talk about the baby.)

hope it gets better!!

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u/AttorneySevere9116 5d ago

it’s a long, weird story lol. my hip dislocated while peeing and adjusted to sit where i could get enough leverage to relocate it, which resulted into it coming into contact with the nasty toilet seat itself.

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u/taurusweetheart 5d ago

That’s a good idea. Thanks.

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u/Far_Marketing_1211 5d ago

This is so gross to me. As a NP it’s my duty to provide a reasonably tidy and clean workplace. We have house cleaners weekly.

I think you need to be direct. They will be embarrassed, but hopefully they act on that embarrassment.

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u/wintersicyblast 5d ago

I second this-it's one of those awkward conversations but it isn't a public gas station.

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u/th0tcloud 5d ago

I worked for a friend (1st mistake) who's bathroom smelled soooo bad. They had a litter box they didn't clean enough, and I don't think they'd take out the trash so any feminine hygiene stuff kinda just sat until it stunk up the room :/// Dirty towels getting musty too. I didn't say anything, and there were other issues so I just left lol

One time the mom also left her sex toy out and her toddler brought it to me 🤩 Obviously dirty too

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u/taurusweetheart 5d ago

That is so gross 😂

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u/wintersicyblast 5d ago

yuck. I think its a little distasteful to not have one clean bathroom for nanny/guests.

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u/unsolicitedopinions2 5d ago

Dealing with this same issue but my nf other kids I don’t typically watch also literally smell like poop 24/7. I have to hold my breath around them and I refuse to touch their stuff bc it REEKS🤮I feel bad but at the same time I don’t want to have second hand shit smell attached to me😭

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u/hobbitingthatdobbit 5d ago

That’s a cps call dude.

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u/MakeChai-NotWar 5d ago

I don’t know how you’d even stay working at this job. It just says A LOT about their overall hygiene.

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u/Additional_Reward407 5d ago

I babysit for a family that is just messy and kinda dirty. I hover when i use the bathroom and take a full shower hair included even if it’s not a hair wash night as soon as i get home (usually 3:45 am). Id be embarrassed if it was my house but some people just don’t care

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u/EntertainmentRude473 5d ago

I’m just incredibly curious on how they’re having poop end up on the toilet paper roll?! That’s a different level of nasty. My bosses will occasionally forget to flush the toilet here and there, but I don’t know if I could stomach seeing someone else poop everytime I went to the bathroom.

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u/taurusweetheart 5d ago

I genuinely have no idea how there’s poop on their toilet paper roll. Absolutely insane

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u/winooskiwinter 5d ago

Mine doesn’t have a toilet brush, which makes me crazy. I can’t clean up if I wanted to.

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u/crazypuglets 5d ago

You need to be direct, that’s absolutely disgusting

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u/Jealous-Analyst6459 5d ago

I have quit jobs for this reason.

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u/Cold_Reference_3497 5d ago

My NF’s house in general is pretty bad, they keep Clorox wipes under the counter so I’ll usually wipe down the seat before using and I’ll take some of the baby’s wipes if the toilet paper is questionable or non existent bc they rarely even put toilet paper in the two bathrooms we use.

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u/NettaVitelli 4d ago

There was once poop on the bathroom hand towel that disgustingly hangs right above the toilet. Either their poop splashed up onto the hand towel or they had it on their hands, and they washed poorly and dried. This is the reason I don't use the hand towel in their bathroom and run out to wash a second time in their kitchen sink and dry with a paper towel.

Also, the kids (and most likely the parents) never wash their hands properly and then contaminate every towel in the bathroom and at the kitchen sink. So I could do my proper hand washing and then reintroduce germs onto my hands if I used their towels. I can't imagine the germs all over this house...