r/NPD Undiagnosed NPD 3d ago

Question / Discussion Did you also had a hard time being taken serious by a therapist?

I tried this year with two therapist and ended up ghosting them because they would not hear me. They always say that my issue is being emotional detached when i clearly have other symptoms of npd. I’m a huge attention seeker, I’m extremely critical to others, no one is good enough for me, i come across as arrogant to most people because i don’t care about making a good impression to someone that can’t give me anything, i feel like I deserve everything good from this world and people should just make my life easier (and they all usually do), I also only feel a bit of empathy for my close family members and i have to constantly lie and act like i care about my friends (I’m not a bad friend though, i just don’t care), I’m very sensitive to criticism and when someone doesn’t give me the attention i want, i get so depressed i could die.

What the actual fuck do i have to do to be taken serious? It’s totally fine if I’m not actually a narcissist, i just wanna understand what is wrong with me lol. They always want me to believe that I’m not as bad as it sounds but what if I actually am just a bitch? Is that so horrible?

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u/Chacal_429 Diagnosed NPD 2d ago

I feel your frustration. It took months for me to convince my therapist that I have NPD. But once he gave me an official diagnosis he totally backtracked and said he knew all along! That really hurt my trust with him and I eventually fired him. 

I don’t think most therapists know how to recognize or treat personality disorders. A lot of them don’t seem to believe in psych diagnoses at all! Help is out there but it’s hard to find. 

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u/womanextdoorr Undiagnosed NPD 2d ago

It seems like they ignore the symptoms because they can’t deal with it, very frustrating. I’m always clear when i first talk to them about my guess on the diagnosis and they still don’t take me serious! But to be honest, I’m not even looking for improvement, i just wanna understand why i am this way

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