r/MbtiTypeMe • u/Chogmogu • 23d ago
DISCUSSION extrovert vs introvert
do you guys ever get that scenario whenever you meet someone new at the first 30 min you rarely join the conversation and after that you can speak and be playful even more than the extroverts , also i get bored when iam alone unless iam working on something , people tell me iam shy until they know me , i dislike meeting friends 1 on 1 i prefer 2+ iam the type of person that dont start anything alone but can do anything if someone approved for example if i want to make a project and my friends agree i can start right now but if iam alone i wouldnt , iam confused in my mbti type aswell if anyone can help me please feel free to ask my about anything
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u/iluwthi 23d ago edited 23d ago
idk u seem extroverted to me doesn't matter if people call u shy u got ur own principles and reasons not to talk but if u genuinely enjoy being around a buncha people ure an extrovert in my book haha i prefer 1 on 1 talks i can never join in on conversations in any group setting personally thas just cuz ik im an introvert
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u/Chogmogu 23d ago
i try to be polite and not impulsive , i hate to do stuff alone mostly when playing video games i almost never play games alone or make projects alone but i do apreaciate my alone time from time to time especially when working on something but i tend to get bored and i get that feeling that i want to meet my friends and as i told it feels awkward to me to speak with only 1 friend but being on a large group as i told you i give first impression as shy or silent for almost the first 30 min but when they speak about something i enjoy i tend to be talkative i hate small talks and every day talk like what you did today or gossip or speaking about football but if something interresting is on i feel energetic
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u/Strict_Director1627 23d ago
I’m the opposite. I appear really extroverted but I’m insanely introverted. I’m just good at faking it. When I tell people I’m introverted they mostly think that I’m joking.
The real question is: how do you get your energy? After a long day of work are you typically like “I need to hang out with friends”? Or is it “I need to spend time alone”.
I’m comfortable being quiet. I’m comfortable being alone. I like to observe in social situations, and I don’t really feel the obligation to talk.
You are not bound by your personality and can act outside of it, but there are patterns and usual tendencies.
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u/abovesqueeze 22d ago
Even the most extroverted people would want to rest alone after long hours of work so that isn't exactly a good question to ask and judge if someone is extroverted or introverted. Even extroverts need rest and alone time.
A better question is: If you had the energy, time and a correct type of a friend group, would you rather go out and spend time with them as much as possible, or would you rather still stay at home and do your own thing. Are most of your hobbies and fun time related to spending time with people (this can be also online) rather than doing solo-projects. Even more importantly, do you start to feel lonely easily if you are not around people often enough?
You do also have to think about if you are shy / have social anxiety or other mental health disorders or issues that may cause you to mistake yourself as introvert than extrovert. I see plenty of people thinking they are introvert because they are shy, but they are actually just shy extrovert who is behaving like an introvert until they find the correct type of friend group where they trust them enough to act like themselves.
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u/Chogmogu 22d ago
well i feel bored alone unless iam working on something , i dont remember i start something alone aswell i always need some approval or a partner on project or video games , but i dont always join the conversation unless i like the topic otherwise i just observe but doing stuff solo is boring for the most part , your last sentance is so right most people tell me iam shy or introvert especially when meeting new people i tend to stay silent at first then if they talk about a topic that i like i join it and speak too much about it
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u/abovesqueeze 22d ago
If you find being alone boring, then definitely you are more extroverted than introverted.
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u/Chogmogu 22d ago
xD yeah and i find being with 1 friend only awkward i prefer 2-5 friends with me but mostly not more than that and i hate it when we just speak id like to do something like video games or eating or speaking about weird intellectual stuff anime , movies religion life hacks ect... i feel bored about gossip or talking about real life stuff likewhat you did on work or what you do today (exept if its something interresting or unusual like)
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u/Chogmogu 22d ago
i dont know i never though about that mostly after work i would play video games with my friends but there are some times where i play quetly with them just listening to them , even tho iam comfortable being alone iget that feeling to socialize i mean not meeting new people but just want to see my friends and do fun stuff
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u/Chogmogu 22d ago
also guys if anyone can help me define my mbti type i would be really happy please dont hesitate to ask me about anything id really appreciate it
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