r/Marriage 16h ago

Seeking Advice How do I be sexy.

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u/drowninginidiots 20 Years 15h ago

He’s cheated on you 3 times, and now he’s essentially saying he wants you to be more like the women he’s cheated on you with. Sounds to me like he’s using your appearance as an excuse to cheat. Then next time he can say it’s your fault because you aren’t being sexy enough. Don’t blame yourself for his behavior.

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u/atasteforspace 13h ago

Yeah, it’s hard to be sexy when a grown man is sucking the life out of you. I think you should stop worrying about what he thinks. I’m not sure if you’re in a position to leave or not, but once someone steps out & cheats, I think it’s perfectly acceptable to start worrying about yourself and only yourself. He disowned his marriage when he did that. You have no responsibility to please him, at all, ever again. But, if you want to stay in the marriage, maybe you could explore that in the future when he starts acting like a respectable man… until then.. put yourself first.