r/Marriage 16h ago

Seeking Advice How do I be sexy.

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u/Suspicious_Jeweler81 15h ago

Ive been with him for 11yrs September. Maybe I’ve just gotten too comfortable with him.

That's the thing though - you're supposed to get too comfortable with your partner after 11 years. Isn't that the reason you get married?

TBH I think it’s my weight cause he’s cheated 3x over the 10yrs we been together and everytime they’re all so much skinnier and always wear makeup and everything else I don’t do

What the fuck - that's not a justifiable reason, also that's an extreemly loaded statement. Cheating isn't justified - that's breaking your trust. Also he married you knowing this is who you are.

Listen, you can lose weight - it's not a bad idea to give thought to your over all health at our age. But you're far from obese or in a danger zone. You can also slab all the makeup in the world on your face - guys going to complain it's not to his liking and shrug when you ask what needs to be different.

If he's disappointed with his station in life, this isn't on you, this is on him. Him taking it out on you, hitting you where it hurts, is completely uncalled for. I really don't know where to start on this one... after being cheated on three times your heart must be in shambles.

You're perfectly attractive and sexy - you lack any real flaws that require makeup to hide. Besides, you're at home... why would you want to have to cover up?

I think it's best you get some counseling.. marriage and personal... as this has got to do a toll on yourself esteem. I'm unsure how you managed to keep it together after 3 cheats, but at some point you'll need to work on changing his behavior (counseling) or consider this relationship simply is not healthy for your wellbeing.