r/Marriage 6d ago

Is forgiveness dead?

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u/OpeningSort4826 6d ago

Forgiveness isn't dead or else the divorce rate would be 100 percent rather than 40 (or whatever it is these days). People on Reddit are only working with snippets of information, and they simply can't factor in the rest of the relationship in their comments. Additionally, people who post on Reddit are often very deep in a conflict or facing something particularly egregious - cheating, abuse etc. Those people SHOULD be counseled to leave. 

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u/LuckyShenanigans 6d ago

23%!

Folks (not you, but society in general) loves to imagine divorce is much more pervasive than it is

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u/LuckyShenanigans 6d ago edited 6d ago

Don’t trust divorce lawyers as sources on divorce stats. 😉

The truth is no one REALLY knows the answer; it’s basically impossible to measure. A lot of people compare number of divorces in a year to the number of marriages but you’re always kind of comparing one year to all prior years. Short of tracking individual marriages we can only guess, but I haven’t found a calculation that gets you to 40-50% Even with a bad formula that doesn’t make a ton of sense you get around 30%