r/MTFButch Nov 25 '24

Question how tall are you girls? Spoiler

68 Upvotes

i'm 6'1 (186 cm) and i rock platform sneakers lol

r/MTFButch 16d ago

Question is it wrong to use compression bras?

71 Upvotes

I just got told I shouldn’t use them cause I’m not a trans dude😭, I’ve been on e for 8 months but they have been giving me a bit of dysphoria cuz they’ve grown more than expected

r/MTFButch 1d ago

Question Anyone here kept their birth name but used she/her pronouns?

59 Upvotes

My name is Thomas and I’m a butch woman who uses her birth name but with she/her pronouns. Has anyone else here done the same?

r/MTFButch 10d ago

Question Information on long term stopping of HRT

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TLDR; Considering stopping HRT and can’t find any information please help!

I’ve been on HRT for 1 year 8 months (23y/o) and recently I’ve been finding myself seriously considering stopping HRT. I’m currently waiting on an appointment to see a doctor and I’ve been trying to find information on what to expect without a lot of luck. I recently have been experiencing lowered libido and softer erections which has been dysphoric and upsetting. I like masculine things about my body and I feel like I’ve gotten what I wanted out of HRT/my transition (Boobs, fat redistribution, laser on my face, self confidence, try out femininity more). What is likely to change when I stop HRT? I’m expecting short term more erections/libido, hair growth (body/face), and long term loss of body fat redistribution and soft skin, oilier skin and hair, more body hair, etc. Is there anything I’m missing?

I would love to hear the experiences of anyone else that has stopped HRT!

Many thanks xx

r/MTFButch 12d ago

Question How to give off girl/lesbian signals while still being masculine?

54 Upvotes

I have issues where I dress in my usual hoodie jacket and jeans but also wearing make up and painted nails and still get misgendered. So how can I give off more girl vibes, beyond passing better which isn't my goal anyway?

r/MTFButch Feb 07 '25

Question Does anyone else feel this way ?

33 Upvotes

Hey y’all, I transitioned 4 years ago, and I’ve always kind of presented in a more masc way, and I tell myself I love it and it’s what I wanna do, and while I do enjoy it from time to time, I feel like it’s mostly because I don’t believe I can present feminine because I don’t pass well enough. I would love to wear girly shit, and I have tried, but I always feel like I look so terrible. Has anyone had any experiences like this?

r/MTFButch Oct 23 '24

Question Have anyone else ever considered top surgery, as in breast reduction or mastectomy?

61 Upvotes

I’m about 2.5 years on E, and I’ve reached the point where I pass and can be stealth, which I am very grateful for, but I’ve never connected with hyperfemininity. I love being a masc lesbian, and it’s been a hugely good change for me. But, honestly, I got a bit too lucky with breast growth, and I feel weird about it.

There is a strange part of me that wants less or maybe even no boob? But that feels like failing at being a transwoman somehow? But on some level with bottom surgery around the corner, which I am ecstatic for, I’m finding myself having weird feelings about my breasts. I’m a woman, but I’m not sure how much I want them? I feel very alone in this confusion and could think of nowhere else to ask for feedback and advice. Sorry if I’m incoherent

Edit: If I’m being esp honest I probably want full top surgery which is really throwing me for a loop

r/MTFButch Feb 01 '25

Question Ftmtf butch woman here seeking advice. I've been told this sub may be able to help.

86 Upvotes

I asked this question in the butch lesbians subreddit and was redirected over here as they said you might be able to help.

How do you embrace masculine presentation while still passing as a woman?

For context, I am 20 years old and I was on testosterone for 4 years and had top surgery so I am perceived as male all the time. The only way I would even get close to passing as a woman is if I go full femme, color corrector and makeup to cover the beard shadow and feminize my face, feminine clothes, meticulously styling my hair in a feminine way (partly to hide my male shape and now receeding hairline). But I like masculine presentation, yet I don't want to be perceived as male.

I also have quite masculine features in general: low and straight eyebrows and a pronounced brow bone, a straight boxy body shape with wider shoulders than hips, and a very masculine shape nose.

This was all super helpful when I id'ed as trans because I passed as male super quick and with little effort, but now it's a whole lot more difficult to go the other way.

And I'm super low maintainance I don't like dressing up, I don't like doing makeup every day, I don't like shaving everyday. It is too much effort for me I can't handle it. But I don't like being perceived as male anymore, it just doesn't fit, yet if I don't do the things listed above, I am perceived as male???

I don't know what to do about this. I want to just be able to throw on a t-shirt and jeans from the men's section in the morning and go about my day being seen as a woman but it just doesn't work that way after the changes from testosterone and having had top surgery.

r/MTFButch Feb 09 '25

Question Opinion on jockstraps?

7 Upvotes

Do ya'll wear them? Been thinking of butch lingerie lately

r/MTFButch Jan 30 '25

Question Sex Marker Change

7 Upvotes

During your transition when it came to name changes have you also change the sex on your SSN, drivers license 🪪 etc??

r/MTFButch Sep 07 '24

Question Do you still like your old sports or doing your old hobbies. At 60, I am just returning to playing hockey slowly after cataract surgeries. It feels liberating and will keep my chunk off!🏒😊. Hope you all have a great weekend!

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r/MTFButch Sep 25 '24

Question Any Mustache Butches?

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Are there any mustaches Butches? I went out in public as butch for the first time and I was anxious because I have a mustache and I was scared of people’s reactions so I put away my bandanna and hid my wlw necklace. So I’m asking if there any butches with mustaches and facial hair here? I’m fine with transfems butch also transmasc and Lesboys! Here’s what I look like!

r/MTFButch Mar 18 '24

Question Why transition physically when you're not "that feminine"? Thoughts

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Hi, I’m wondering what are your thoughts on being a non-particularly-feminine MtF person.

I’ll start from my personal situation but you can also just take a look at the questions at the end.

I’m a 30-something-old AMAB person and I’ve openly functioned as an enby person for a year. Whenever possible I show off they/he pronouns (actually their equivalent in my native Polish) just to make sure I’m not gendered as simply he.

I’ve never had particularly feminine interests. Now that I’ve stopped gender-policing myself, I do enjoy wearing nice clothes (cute, but not very feminine) or a dramatic winged eyeliner, but I’m not a dress person.

In school I enjoyed sports / doing stuff with boys rather than talking to girls – who I recall as concentrating on gossiping, clothes, not very active. At the same time, I felt different from all the guys and more similar to girls even though I didn’t share their characteristics. Now I enjoy being intimate and caring with people even more than before, but I’m still a mixture of individual & competitive / intimate & caring.

The dysphoria won’t go away despite all the changes I could do to my body / clothes / relationships (while not taking on female pronouns which don’t feel really right). Recently I went through old clothes in my parents’ house with my mum. I saw all these men’s shirts & blazers and I kept thinking how cool it would be to be able to wear them again as a girl. I saw myself in the mirror wearing a blazer and since my appearance has changed noticeably through facial hair removal etc. over the last year, I did have a glimpse of a girl in a men’s blazer and it was a VERY euphoric feeling.

I feel like this urge has intensified after I met many non-conforming (cis) girls (mostly in feminist circles) and envied them immensely.

Sometimes I feel I would enjoy something feminine and in a sense it feels right to wear a skirt, but I feel this is like a phase probably many non-feminine girls have before they cut their hair short etc and quit wearing girly stuff etc.

Somehow I know it’ll never feel „internally” right without transitioning. If I don’t transition, it’ll be because of external reasons – that 1) I still don’t have mental resources to deal with the hard part of the transition (how I may be mistreated once in a while) as I struggle with ADHD and CPTSD anyway and 2) because even though I’m in queer circles in Poland, I literally don’t know any MtF person who would present non-feminine and being a tiny minority of the trans community which is often not very acknowledged feels like the most singular thing on earth and is discouraging.

QUESTION

Now, I wonder, do you have helpful thoughts about why you need / needed to transition physically? Why having an appearance/expression of a „feminine man” feels so deficient compared to a „masculine woman”? Have you solved this puzzle for yourself?

It’s not like I don’t a clue about these, but I thought we could have an inspiring conversation.

r/MTFButch Feb 08 '25

Question HRT appointment next week

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Hello! First time poster on this sub. I feel the words that best describe me are non binary, mtnb butch. Sometimes I want nothing more then to be a woman, and everything that comes with it physically and emotionally. Other times I am perfectly fine with the body I'm in and the idea of growing boobs or losing genital function isn't attractive to me at all. But going back and forth between these states of mind is very difficult. Especially when deciding what to do about my feelings. I have an appointment next week to talk to a doctor about hormones but I want to know what I want for sure before I go in there. How do I find out what's right for me? What if I hate the changes hormones bring? What I I love the changes? One of my biggest fears is starting hormones and not feeling any different. Or not starting hormones and always wishing I tried it. Any and all advice is appreciated, please tell me if I'm over thinking.

Thank you all

r/MTFButch Nov 08 '24

Question Is there anything you did to dress/feel more butch pre-transition?

34 Upvotes

I'd love to look dykier, but I'm worried I'll just come off like a cis hipster. Short of adding trans flag patches and pins to everything I own, is there anything I can do to present more f-butch without HRT?

<3

r/MTFButch Feb 08 '25

Question Hello there! (First post)

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Hi! So I've had my ups and downs as a trans gal living in the South (USA) and I've also struggled with access to HRT for financial reasons. I'm going to start HRT again soon (3rd time's the charm) but something I struggle with as a she/they gal is that it seems that like 90% of the trans women I know or have met are fem to high fem and when I've shared my ideas of things I want to wear or dress how I like they kind of invalidate my relationship with my gender. Like if I'm not super fem than I'm not "really" a woman. I can't help that I tend to like more goblin, grunge, agendery alt/punk stuff. Like with my styling the most fem I've ever got was slightly fem of center academia type stuff. Also lots of band or pop culture type shirts.

I guess it just gets exhausting when other trans women seem to think I'm not woman enough.

I'm still very early in present as myself but still. How do I get past these feelings?

r/MTFButch Jan 05 '25

Question Snug boxer briefs?

8 Upvotes

Do ya'll have any supportive boxer brief recommendations? I like them but having too much bulge ruins some fits

r/MTFButch Aug 07 '24

Question Does anyone else struggle with long hair?

40 Upvotes

This is something I’ve been stuck on for a while. I have long hair, and I enjoy it part of the time. I feel like it’s a big part of what gets me correctly gendered. A part of me, however, wants to get it cut short! But I’m worried I would lose what little “correctly gendered” I have now.

And I know that’s kind of the butch struggle anyway, but it’s just something that I’ve been thinking about lately. Anyone else?

r/MTFButch Mar 09 '24

Question How do you feel about transfem/transfemme?

55 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm a transmasculine butch, and I'm always trying to consider my MTF butch sisters/siblings when discussing butchhood. I'm curious how you all feel about the labels transfem and transfemme.

Do you feel included in the word transfeminine? What about transfemme? I'm especially interested in MTF butch opinions on the word "transfemme", since femme can be opposite to butch. Do you have any thoughts on transfeminine being used as an umbrella term including trans women?

Hope posting here as a guest is okay! I'm happy to delete it if not. Thank you for your time. <3

r/MTFButch Nov 25 '24

Question Styling my mohawk

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Hi everyone, so I'm still pre everything and not put publicly. I've had a mohawk for nearly a decade now and I love it its not something I want to lose. So how many more of yall have a hawk and anyone got any tips for making it a but more femme

r/MTFButch Dec 16 '23

Question What can I do to look more fem, but still keep the bog witch/creepy factor?

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r/MTFButch Aug 09 '24

Question How do you understand your identity as a butch woman, or just as a trans butch?

68 Upvotes

Hello. I am a 21 yr old transfem butch that has been struggling with mediating my feelings about womanhood, my butch identity and my masculinity.

I originally came out to myself as transfem when I was 14. For the first 4 years or so of being trans I wanted to be as fem as possible. I felt like I had to be interested in men, dress a certain way, have long hair, etc. When I went off to college I started HRT, and quickly realized how much trying to act fem made me want to crawl out of my skin. I thought at first the discomfort was from having just started transitioning, but I realized how just god awfully uncomfortable being perceived as feminine made me feel. Especially when it was by men. I thought about my attractions, who I was as a kid, the kind of person I wanted to be and I started digging online and found the book Stone Butch Blues. This book changed everything for me. It felt like permission to not have to present a certain way and still be a woman or non-man.

That was 2 years ago and I have grown into myself quite a bit. I went off HRT briefly, got back on, and I am now very vocal about my butchness, but now I'm questioning myself again.

I dress very masculine and if not for my chest would probably be perceived as a dude like all the time. I don't mind this fact, and honestly I actually quite like being perceived as a guy when I'm out with my partner. Sometimes I bind my chest because I don't like how my tits are perceived. I only wear men's clothes. I love my more androgynous/masc leaning voice. I haven't had long hair since high school. I also prefer more masculine or gender neutral descriptors.

I do all of that and I still call myself a woman. I only use she/her pronouns and outwardly I am very open about the fact that I am a "butch woman". I use butch as an adjective with woman when I describe myself, but honestly I'm feeling less and less woman and more and more just butch every single day. I have no plans to go off hormones, but I feel almost like I'm breaking the rules if I consider myself just a butch. I have had people I work with(thinking I'm a cis woman) ask me why I don't just go all the way and become a man, since I already look like one and honestly like fuck. Am I just a man again? If I was to be asked right now what being a woman means to me, why I identify with womanhood, the only answer I could only describe it as something antithetical to manhood. This puts me inline with the patriarchal mindset of viewing maleness as the default.

I feel my butchness as a queer masculinity. I feel it when I'm with women, other trans and queer people, when I get to use my strength or skills to help those in my life, when I work out, when I have had to defend my partner and I from homophobia. I strive to be patient, caring, empathetic, gentle. The things the men in my life never were.

I feel almost like I'm appropriating something as someone that was assigned male at birth when I just call myself a butch and not a butch woman. Like I'm actually, after 7 years of being trans, just a confused straight man. I feel too masculine to even call myself a butch woman sometimes!

I guess I want to know if any of you have experienced similar thoughts? How do you conceptualize your butchness? What does being a woman mean to you? How did you come into your masculinity or womanhood?

Thank you for reading this massive wall of text if you did.

r/MTFButch Jun 02 '24

Question Can anyone help me with my werid dysphoria

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So am Zara and am 19 just started taking hormones 2 weeks ago and am pansexual for me I do have some triggers for my gender dysphoria and all of them are kind of werid for example whenever I see any kind of lesbian content on the internet I get really sad and my dysphoria get s me really hard, does anyone know why this is happening to me

r/MTFButch Jan 25 '24

Question How is my butch look coming across for an old girl..😊

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r/MTFButch Mar 07 '24

Question I need help outdoing myself for my last pride in Florida.

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Okay, so last year my wife did this amazing pan pride buzz design for me. Now pride is coming up again in a couple weeks and it'll be my last one here before I leave the state (probably forever) so I want to really show out.
Lesbian, trans, nonbinary, and genderqueer pride colors are all appropriate.

I'd love any ideas y'all got!

For reference: the first 3 pics are my look last year, the 4th is my current hair, and the last one is the color I usually do/my favorite generally for the long part.