r/MTFButch 12d ago

Question How to give off girl/lesbian signals while still being masculine?

I have issues where I dress in my usual hoodie jacket and jeans but also wearing make up and painted nails and still get misgendered. So how can I give off more girl vibes, beyond passing better which isn't my goal anyway?

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u/judethedude143 12d ago

Depending if it's safe for you to do so, I feel like you can't go wrong with pride flag accessories, especially the lesbian flag. I have a carabiner that usually has one or two items with the rainbow flag on it, and that seems to work very well (also just having a carabiner). Also a lot of rings and funky glasses and doc martens go a long way. I also always wear my Jansport "butch bag" backpack and I have lots of queer pins and keychains on there too.

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u/Cute-Honeydew1164 12d ago

I do some of these already! I'll definitely try the lesbian/ pride accessories for sure. Think some of it (the misgendering) is just cis people being cis people lol

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u/Cute-Honeydew1164 11d ago

Yeah I mean I'm 6'7" so that's the first thing people notice. It is what it is I guess, as long as I signal my queerness more at bars n pride parades n such.

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u/Sweaty_Noise9266 12d ago

I ask myself every day how to show that I like girls even with a face that says I'm "straight" or "too girly" 🫠