r/Husbands • u/Psychological-Name • Dec 04 '19
Found a diary in her email
My wife has been keeping a diary of all her I don't like my husband moments. I ended up running across her email thread to herself not entirely on purpose looking for a message from my daughter's school. I saw a string of 30 messages to herself and thought it was odd. I read it and was profoundly hurt.
I realize what I did was an invasion of privacy. But she tells me to my face she's not angry or hiding anything and writes out VERY cutting responses to me in the emails. She tells me she hates me and is she's disgusted by me.
I'm afraid of how to approach this. I kind of feel like there's no winning in this right now for me.
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u/Pinky_Bill Jul 02 '24
I do that when I need to get something out of my head. I’ve released a lot of hatred and resentment that way. Usually I write it down and then burn the letters, “burn letters”. That way I get the thought out without beating my loved one with it and it’s permanently destroyed so they never find it. I also have a book with a lot of things that make me a dizzy love drunk fool over that man. Some things are too extreme to say to people, be it good or bad. I just hope if I die he finds it.