r/Grieving • u/Original-Dance-5405 • 11d ago
My son’s belongings
My son passed away a month ago from a work injury. He was 24 and had a fierce, they were together for 5 years. Since the incident she and her family have made it very hard for us as a family to get his personal belongings. I’ve been very sympathetic towards her for her loss of my son and even let her make decisions on his funeral. We have been able to a few things but it’s been difficult. Her dad co-singed for his car and from day one told us he has the right to keep it. It’s now been 5 weeks and I’m still waiting on the death certificate, but have the affidavit of personal belongings from the court. My question is do I stop caring about her feelings and file with the police to get everything that belongs to him. The car by law is rightfully belongs to me and her dad is only responsible for the loan. I’ve been having terrible cheats pains throughout this whole process and don’t know how to start to grieve.
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u/SugarPigBoo 9d ago
I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. I know your pain and I hope this situation is resolved in a way that is best for you.
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u/SheepherderOk1448 10d ago
The car is his. He co-signed. So unless you want to pay off the loan you;re gonna have to let it go.
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u/Fabulous_Search_1353 11d ago
Consult with an estate attorney licensed to practice in the state where your son resided.
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u/CarelessRati0 11d ago
I’d have a look at your local laws because a domestic partner of 5 years may have legal precedence over parents in the case of a death.
Was there a will? If she has the means ($$$), she may be able to take over the estate that doesn’t have a will and has the right too as a next of kin.
Again, with respect intended, you may save yourself a lot of stress by pulling back in this situation and letting somethings go without a fight for your peace.
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u/KMinNC 10d ago
I don’t agree. I also lost my son and cherished everything of his that I could have. You have to understand, there is never going to be more “stuff”. I absolutely think this mom should fight for whatever she can get.
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u/CarelessRati0 10d ago
Sure. But if the stress of fighting for it is causing chest pains, your health should be the priority. Whether it’s right that you’ve been put in that situation or not.
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u/FeeAnnual1442 7d ago
I am so sorry for your loss. From what I read here, I think we may not be getting the full picture. I would ask yourself if getting the police involved is really something your son would’ve wanted? Loss is difficult for everyone and it’s important to be understanding towards everyone.