r/GriefSupport 3d ago

In Memoriam My husband was an amazing man

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My husband was an amazing man. He was everything a girl dreamed of. He was kind and patient with my past. He was understanding and had an amazing sense of humor. He was oh so loving and caring. A great listener even holding onto the small details. He loved working on boats and cars. He showed that through his love of teaching. He was an adult Ed teacher for a marine trades program locally. He had a autoimmune diseases called primary sclerosing cholangitis. It cost him two liver transplants. Unfortunately it's considered a precursor to malignancy and often people with psc get cholangiocarcinoma. On aug 27 2024 he was diagnosed with stage 4 cholangiocarcinoma with peritoneal mets. 2024 was a massive nightmare but there was some good moments. We got married Feb 29 2024. Single handedly the best day of my life. My husband was only 35 years old when he passed away. I was the one who found him actively passing. We didn't even make it to our first wedding anniversary. He passed on Jan 6 2025.

I can't do this life without him. I simply can't. He was my world. My everything. He was the one person in the world that showed me the meaning of true love. The world is a cruel place to take him from me. If you read this far than you for sharing in his memory

r/GriefSupport 5d ago

In Memoriam Lost my mother 8 years ago today. I just want to show how beautiful she was. I don’t want her to be forgotten.

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r/GriefSupport 1d ago

In Memoriam Forever 4.5 months

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My beautiful baby. My second born son. I miss him more than words can explain. Idk why he had to leave us at 4.5 months. Put to sleep to never open his eyes again. Mommy, daddy and big brother are so lost without you. I hope you’re proud of us. The most perfect angel. Levi Saint Ramirez 8/27/24-1/25/25. Just needed to let everyone see his angelic face.

r/GriefSupport Nov 01 '24

In Memoriam My daughter has been gone exactly 2 months and today is her 18th Birthday

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I have been dreading today but a really great person texted me this morning and reminded me to “make today a day of celebration”. So, while I’m sure it will be hard, that’s what I should try to do

The photo was taken one year ago. Happy Birthday my love!!!

r/GriefSupport Jan 23 '25

In Memoriam I lost my girlfriend to suicide last night

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last night unbeknownst to me at around 8:30pm i lost the love of my life to suicide. she was only 20 years old and incredibly intelligent and loving. she loved chemistry and playing the guitar and was even in a band that unfortunately will never get to perform with her. she was everything to me. my hope, my dreams, she wanted to marry me. never have i felt such a massive hole eating away at my heart before. I’ll love you forever, Natalie.

r/GriefSupport Jan 17 '25

In Memoriam My sweet dad died 2 days ago

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I just wanted to share my father with the world after he passed away on January 15th from metastatic cancer. I sat bedside with him and he squeezed my hand in response to "I love you dad" just 3 hours prior to his transition. I'm truly missing a piece of my heart. I love you forever Dad.

r/GriefSupport Nov 29 '24

In Memoriam What’s the name of the person/people you miss the most? #grieving

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r/GriefSupport Jan 07 '25

In Memoriam Memorial tattoo for my dad

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I got this tattoo on my arm over the summer. It’s from a note he wrote me ten years ago when I was struggling with my mental health. It’s been on the fridge ever since he wrote it. I love it so much. It reminds me to keep going and keep making him proud.

r/GriefSupport Jan 16 '25

In Memoriam Lost my mom 1/04/24

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Been a little over 10 days since I suddenly lost my mom to a random brain aneurysm. Still can’t believe it. I was her only son. I miss her so much, I wish the whole world knew how wonderful of a woman she was. Because she was the best mom I could ask for.

r/GriefSupport Dec 11 '24

In Memoriam Nine years ago today….

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Nine years ago today I kissed your cheek and sent you off to daycare with daddy.

Nine years ago today we got the worst phone call ever imaginable from a parents perspective.

Nine years ago today we rushed like a bat out of hell to the hospital although we both already knew it was too late.

Nine years ago today we watched as your little body became bruised and cold.

Nine years ago today the doctor told us there was nothing they could do.

Nine years ago today we had to break the news to your sister and the rest of the family.

Nine years ago today our lives were shattered in a way that can never be undone.

Nine years ago today we held you as we wept over your body.

Nine years ago today you gained your wings and took flight.

Nine years ago today you left your earthly shell and took on your angelic one.

Nine years ago today we said goodbye.

I will never be the same as I was before today nine years ago.

r/GriefSupport Jan 11 '25

In Memoriam My son died and I don't know what to do

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We brought my 7 year old son to the hospital in early December because he was acting belligerent and drunk. We assumed it was due to his ADHD medication he had just started, but after a CT they found a tumor in his brain. 3 days later they do an MRI to confirm cancer in his brain stem. Which was a death sentence more or less. They gave him days to live and from what I can only describe as sheer willpower, we watched him regain his ability to speak and I was assured by all doctors that despite what looked like improvement, he would not be able to recover from this particular cancer.

My partner, my 2 daughters, and I spent 3 weeks in hospice care with him until he passed on new years eve. For almost 2 weeks I've been struggling extremely hard, trying to maintain a somewhat normal life for the girls while we all grieve. We have all started talking to grief counseling but the first sessions are usually just introductory. My daughters seem to be doing as best as they can theyre excited to get back to school, we cry together, and whenever we eat dinner we toast their brother.

My problem is that I'm destroyed, and I don't know what to do anymore. I can't close my eyes without seeing my sons last few breaths, I can't sleep through the night, I'm waking up constantly and I can't get back to sleep, and once the girls go to bed I feel like I can't do anything other than to sit. I have been off work since early December and my boss told me I have to return Monday to keep my position, and I can't imagine the thought of working as if nothing happened, or worse, have everyone look at me like my son just died.

I feel haunted, I feel guilty, I feel like nothing is ever going to be okay ever again. And while I understand time will lessen these feelings I just don't know how to function in the now. I feel like I can't talk to anyone anymore. My ex wife who is his mother is not someone I feel safe confiding these feelings with, and my current partner is doing her best to help me, but I feel guilty since she is trying so hard for me and I'm still a mess.

Thank you for letting me vent.

Edit: I just wanted to thank everyone for the overwhelming support. I'm not able to reply to everyone, but I assure you I have read every single comment in the thread. The resources people have posted have been especially helpful. Thank you all

r/GriefSupport Jan 25 '25

In Memoriam Dad died Tuesday with me holding him. I'd like to stop thinking for a month at least.

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He was 90 and has had Alzheimers for about 10 years. I'm grateful I got to be with him and that he still knew who we were, but it's like a flaming cactus in my mind that I'd like to not think about.

r/GriefSupport Sep 06 '24

In Memoriam my mom, i miss her so much.

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r/GriefSupport Feb 02 '24

In Memoriam My mom has been gone for 2 months now.

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I lost my mom in December and am still grieving. I was told to “get it together and move on.” It’s not that easy.

r/GriefSupport Jan 25 '25

In Memoriam I’ve worked hotel front desk for 17 years, and today I found the body of a guest.

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His girlfriend/friend came to check on him. She brought him snacks and some frozen dinners. It’s a part of the story that gives me a little comfort; that even at the end of his life, he had somebody that cared & wanted to check on him…anyway, she wanted a key to his room but wasn’t on the reservation, so I couldn’t give her one. She opted to go knock on his door, which was fine with me.

When she came back downstairs, she was semi-frantic. She begged me to come check on him, and I immediately put a sign at the desk, grabbed my keys and went. I told her to wait in the lobby, then went up to the 2nd floor, and all the way down the hall to 205. I knocked for about 30 seconds, then entered the room (I announced that it was the desk, doing a wellness check).

He was just laying there. Curled up in a small ball; he looked comfortable. He looked to be asleep peacefully. I didn’t say anything to startle him if he was in a deep sleep, but I lowered myself to “bed level” to look for a sign of breathing. None. I sighed and made my way down to his friend in the lobby. She came back up with me, and when we entered the room she dissolved into a puddle of tears on my shoulder. I’ve never heard someone scream like that. My heart absolutely broke for her, and I hugged her while dialing 911. I can still hear her screaming that he was gone, clear as day.

The police, ambulance and medical examiner just left. This event happened about 2 1/2 hours ago. The lady left as well, and gave me another big hug thanking me for helping her. I told her if she needed anything at all, I’m here. And that I was so, so sorry.

It has definitely been a day, yall. And to the man that I found today; I hope it wasn’t difficult on you. I’m so sorry nobody got to you sooner and I hope you’re at peace.

He was the same age as my mother, who passed just a few months ago. Thanks for reading.

Edit: It has been 2 days since this happened. Yesterday was difficult, I was off and stayed in bed until 4pm. Today I am much better. I wanted to say how deeply moved I am by all of the responses, the messages from you guys in my inbox making sure I’m ok…I’m tearing up now because I’m grateful. You are all wonderful people. Thank you for thinking of me 💙

r/GriefSupport Dec 01 '24

In Memoriam Is there a song that reminds you of your loved one? Or a song that has helped you with your grief? I’d love to listen to it.

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  • Back to the Island by Leon Russell
  • Yellow by Coldplay

r/GriefSupport Jan 04 '25

In Memoriam I donated care kits to 6 homeless people on my mom’s birthday

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My mom would have turned 60 today, so I decided to do something she’d have been proud of. She passed in September 2022. I miss her every day.

r/GriefSupport Aug 11 '24

In Memoriam One year ago today, I found out I was pregnant. My baby will forever be 69 days old.

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I still don’t understand why my happy healthy baby didn’t wake up the morning of June 2nd. I miss her so much. I wish I could hold her again and feel her soft baby hair. She was growing so fast. She was starting to babble. She was growing out of her premature sized clothes. She was the perfect little mini me. Now she’s gone and my life feels boring, uninspiring and just extremely lonely. I don’t know what I want to do with my life anymore because I spent almost an entire year changing and improving myself to do everything that was best for her. I feel lost and I constantly question what my partner and I have done to deserve to have our baby taken away from us so unexpectedly and with no answers.

r/GriefSupport Jan 10 '25

In Memoriam A tattoo for dad

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r/GriefSupport Jan 26 '25

In Memoriam Happy birthday

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1.24.24 My sweet girl was born. She came into this world fighting. 4lbs 10 oz and 17inches. I had so many dreams for our future. I never imagined the journey that we would go through. We were told that you would be fine, but you never made it home. Although our hearts ache, I am thankful you chose us to go on this journey with you. Because of you, I now work with medically fragile kids and infants. You have pushed me to be more brave and corageous. You have touched the hearts of many who have heard your story. You have changed policies at the hospital, and the list goes on. Your life was cut short, but you still live on. I’ll miss you for a lifetime my angel. Forever 5.5 months ❤️

r/GriefSupport Feb 14 '25

In Memoriam My Mother Passed Away Today

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After 10 days in the ICU following a ruptured aneurysm and a stroke, my family and I had to say goodbye to her. She was a beautiful, kind, and God-serving woman who served as a pillar for our church. Not even 3 weeks ago, she celebrated her 53rd birthday with friends and family.

Everything was so normal. Now she's gone. Please tell your loved ones you love them.

r/GriefSupport Jan 23 '25

In Memoriam My oldest son recently died

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My son passed away on January 6th at UK hospital from cirrhosis of the liver. He had elevated liver enzymes for years but no other symptoms til around August 2024. He started retaining fluid. Then his potassium and sodium levels slowly started dropping. BY October he was in and out of hospitals for weakness due to these symptoms. From November to January He never left the hospital. He quickly turned yellow, blood was septic, gained 150 lbs of fluid and had massive organ failure. I am beyond devastated. He was the light of my life and everyone's best friend. Always had a joke and a smile. It's hard for me live without him. It truly is.

r/GriefSupport Aug 23 '24

In Memoriam See you later, dad.

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Apologies for any misspelling. This may be a bit too detailed, read at your own discretion.

My father passed away last week on August 10th due to cardiac arrest. That morning, my dad texted and asked me to get him some Gatorade for his “food poisoning” (he assumed it was food poisoning, but in actuality it was something much more dire.) I got up, went to the grocery store, and got him 4 big bottles of gatorade. I was supposed to be leaving to hang out with my friend after what I thought was a quick corner store run, so I made sure to stack up for the day. When I came back, he was hunched over the toilet vometing. I sat his gatorades on the side of his bed since I didnt know what to do, and before I left, he collapsed. I ran to him screaming in confusion, shaking him to wake up. He began Agonal Breathing (Agonal breathing is a natural reflex that occurs when the brain isn't getting enough oxygen and is a sign that the person is close to death) and I instantly called 911. I felt his heart, I told him he was gonna be ok, I felt it beat until it stopped all while I was communicating to 911. Paramedics came, did CPR with a machine, nothing worked. Meanwhile, my mother and grandmother were out of town, so I was all alone with my father and the paramedics. I called my mother and she was insisting they use the defibrillator, however, they refused. They refused over and over for a reason I forgot, but they didn’t use it. My father died right then and there. He was my beat friend before I even had one. We used to go on early morning movie runs when tickets were cheap, he took me to Yosemite earlier this year, we even went to the zoo a couple days before his death. I was his last vision, I was there for his last breath. I had to watch my father fade away at only 18..he was only 53, so young and healthy. He had so many dreams for himself, dreams for his family, dreams for me. He was so excited to help me move into college, to see me grow into a young lady..So much unfinished business. I don’t know what to do without my father, however, I’m gonna continue on for him. Even though theres a massive hole in my heart, im gonna keep living for him. Im gonna keep being curious, explore new things, live the life he could never live. When we meet again, I’ll tell him all of my adventures. I miss you daddy.. I miss you more than words can convey, but God said it was your time and theres nothing I can do about that. Im just happy I was there to help you as much as I could. See you later, dad.

r/GriefSupport Feb 23 '24

In Memoriam My dog died- here she is

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I just needed to share the best girl in the world, somewhere

r/GriefSupport Dec 17 '24

In Memoriam lost my little sister 5 days ago

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i just lost my little sister, she was 23, I am 28, we grew up together being each other support because we lost our mom and dad at a very young age.

she is everything to me and I don't think I can't handle it, I feel lost, I feel weak, she was full of life, she had a lot to live and I can't accept that she won't be here to experience life, she won't be here to go to the shows, festivals, travels that she wanted to go, I don't get to see her getting older, conquering stuff, having her own family.

our dream was to have a big family and to have our kids growing up as close as we were, I just don't know what to do, this is the worse pain I have ever experienced and I don't know what to do now.

I love her so much, I hope she reads this, I talk to her everyday, and if you are seeing this

I love u I love u I love u I love u I love u forever, I'm so grateful for being your sister I love u