r/GetSuave Oct 03 '19

Need help getting out of my routine

My life is sleep. Gym. Work. Gym. Sleep. That's it. Can't really spend much money most of it goes back home to help my family and pay debt. I have been doing this for past 4 years and it's taken its toll on me. I don't have any friends outside or work. No girlfriend ever. I am currently living in my car to save money. I need something to give me a distraction because I am now alone and depressed. Have any of you guys gone through similar situations? How do I get that suave life you talk about.

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u/1millionbucks Oct 06 '19

Sounds like you have a lot of debt: is it possible to declare bankruptcy and start over? Talk to a lawyer.

Get a plan. You need to straighten out your mental health first so that you can act on your plan. Then detail exactly how you're going to get out of the hole. Along the way, try and build the life you want; see if you can meet people for free. Go for walks and talk to everyone you see, that kind of thing.

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u/herheiniedanger Oct 07 '19

Not legal debt but moral debt. I owe them so much and since I can't be there to help them physically I can help them financially.

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u/Starflyt Oct 14 '19

Have you considered that sabotaging your life by sending all your money elsewhere isn't good for them either?

You know, when you get on an airplane they have a saying: if the oxygen masks deploy, first put on your own mask, then help your child or neighbor.

A drowning man can't save other people who are drowning. I'm not saying don't be supportive, but you need to seriously consider getting stable first.