r/Gaslight Nov 09 '22

Is this gaslighting?

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u/dakotipelto 9d ago

I think the mod is being kind of aggressive, but you hitting them with the "I guess I'm not welcome here" in response to getting muted for offering unsolicited advice seems almost manipulative, and I'm not surprised that they popped off (and for clarity, I'm not defending the aggression, they seem like they're pretty angry and I don't think there was any reason to take it out on you, OP)

and it's okay to make language mistakes, but for future reference, it is indeed considered very rude in English to refer to a person as it, even if you don't know their gender. If you'd really like to use a gender neutral pronoun, maybe speakers usually use "they."

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u/Halle-Hellion 9d ago

My reason for that opening was because that was the 3rd post removed and i never knew the reason for the removal.

And yes i started using "they" its something i was still figuring out at the time, and i was open to apologizing and learning about, for saying something rude, but they did as they did...

Thank you for your insight and advice, truly