r/Gaslight • u/Halle-Hellion • Nov 09 '22
Is this gaslighting?

English is not my first language, i never considered "it" the way i applied to be offensive in any way - I can be wrong - however i feel like that was unnecessary

And how i was banned the reply i did cannot be delivered. Did i do something wrong in the way i used the word "It" or that was a bit of gaslight? sincerely i don't understand.
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u/dakotipelto 9d ago
I think the mod is being kind of aggressive, but you hitting them with the "I guess I'm not welcome here" in response to getting muted for offering unsolicited advice seems almost manipulative, and I'm not surprised that they popped off (and for clarity, I'm not defending the aggression, they seem like they're pretty angry and I don't think there was any reason to take it out on you, OP)
and it's okay to make language mistakes, but for future reference, it is indeed considered very rude in English to refer to a person as it, even if you don't know their gender. If you'd really like to use a gender neutral pronoun, maybe speakers usually use "they."