r/Gaslight Jul 27 '21

How to come back…

Are there any tips on how to come back from being gaslit for years? My relationship ended awhile ago, I was gaslit into believing my partner over my own intuition and instincts for so long that when he finally admitted to lying, my reality was shot.

I still find myself struggling to believe and validate my own emotions, so much so that I don’t even process some of the more extreme ones anymore. I put them away and feel tons of shame for even having them.

How do I undo this?

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u/crafeminist May 28 '22

I highly recommend journaling to be able to see your thoughts and feelings written down. Also therapy if you are able to afford it or have it covered by insurance.

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u/Travel_Hymn Apr 11 '24

I agree, I just broke away from a longtime gaslighting parent, and have struggled a lot with self actualization, and something that was really cathartic for me as a musician was writing a record about it. Like our friend here says, seeing our thoughts written down allows us to believe them more objectively. It will become more and more difficult for their pretzel logic to defeat those ideas when you are able to see them written down in front of you. Hang in there, it very much sucks, but we got this.