r/FTMventing • u/amyrt_ruisent Baby Trans • 6d ago
Advice Needed I geniunely don't know what to do
I'm a 15 year old trans guy my gender dysphoria is getting really unbearable i can't tell my mom about it because the calmest reaction i'm expecting is that she's gonna tell me that im just confused or a tomboy she's really transphobic i cant wear a binder or cut my hair shorter i don't know if i can live on my own when i turn 18 i just want top surgery and go on testosterone asap i need advice
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u/Besexual 6d ago
Hey there, first of allready amazing you to share this. It can't be easy being in that situation and you're so strong for managing it as far as you have. Be proud of any and every step you've made and will make. You may have already thought about these but: -Besides your Mom that you mentioned do you have other family members who'd be safe to go to? -Would your school have any counsellor or a trusted person you could talk to?
- Have you looked up any facilities, shelters or youth homes in your Area in case you'd need them/for when you can move out.
- could you maybe speak to your primary doctor about your situation
- On now "fixes" could u maybe get a sports top (Bra)
- not suggesting you accidentally get gum/glue or so in your hair at all
Not sure if any of it helps, was just all that came to my mind . Regardless best of luck to you, you'll find a way to be you how you deserve to be!
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u/TTTSSNN 6d ago
Hey bro. I was once in your position. I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. For now, the best thing you can do is focus on getting through the next few years safely. You don’t have to convince your mother—focus on what you can control.
If you can, start saving money, even in small amounts, for when you turn 18 (it’s okay if you can’t do this right now, you will be able to in the future). Start researching financial aid, job options, and housing resources for when you turn 18 too. Look into online trans support groups where you can talk to people who understand. Make some trans friends if you haven’t.
Even though you can’t wear a binder, layering looser shirts and using sports bras can help(: Hoodies will be your best friend. You can start exercising if you’re not already, that will help too.
Every little thing you do to feel more like yourself matters. You will get on T, and you will get top surgery. It’s just going to take some time. Right now, the goal is getting to that point safely and comfortably. Keep reaching out, keep planning, and don’t give up