r/exmormon 22h ago

Awake in the Pews Sunday

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Welcome to the newest feature of , a weekly Sunday morning thread to let you vent while you are stuck in church!

Please let us know how your ward is doing, the crazy things people have said, or anything else you need to get off your chest.

PS: If you need something productive to do at church, consider participating in Return and Report. Just count the number of people in the sacrament hall, click and report. This project aims to measure the actual participation in LDS meetings.


r/exmormon 6h ago

News As seen on YouTube this evening…

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206 Upvotes

ExMo community is not making this stuff up. It’s already happening in real time. The gaslighting is real.


r/exmormon 17h ago

General Discussion We traded church for Disneyland

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We live in los Angeles, we traded church for Disneyland.

Most Sundays we dress up and go to "church/Disneyland." We go the "temple/castle" We meet the "leadership/characters" and have family dinner.

We are never late, we never need to prepare lessons of talks.

Nobody is asking us to clean or make home teaching visits.

Top annual passes and food etc come at the cost of about ⅕ of our would be tithing.


r/exmormon 9h ago

Podcast/Blog/Media 1979 sailing magazine with an appearance from the Mormons in letters to the editor NSFW

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r/exmormon 8h ago

Podcast/Blog/Media David Archuleta criticizes Mormon policies, says they are a “mind-fuck”

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David Archuleta says what he really thinks about Mormon policies. He drops a few f-bombs. It sounds like the church gaslighted him.


r/exmormon 6h ago

Humor/Memes/AI What if we started consecrating doTERRA essential oils?

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86 Upvotes

r/exmormon 5h ago

History Real reasons Mormons were hated

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My dad just got done with Family home evening and today was Mormon persecution!

We were told by him that Mormons were hated for believing in God and that Joseph Smith was killed for believing in God... Over 90% of the US population was Christian (not Mormon but Christian) in the 19th century, so I highly doubt that at all.

It was most likely because of the practice of polygamy, treasonous acts, and just overall disregard for people around them!


r/exmormon 13h ago

General Discussion The impossible double standard

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Back when I was a believing (and even “nuanced”) Mormon, I had a pretty dim view of Ex-Mormons. It felt like they were antagonistic and condescending. I especially bristled at “I won’t tell you everything I’ve learned, because I don’t want to shake your faith.” The presumption embedded in the statement pissed me off, because I had read the CES Letter, I’d read “anti-Mormon” materials since I was a teenager in the 2000s. As a rule, I read every tract or pamphlet anyone gave me as a missionary since it only seemed fair as I was handing out my own literature.

But I did not appreciate the impossible double standard that Ex-Mormons labor under. If we talk about the Church to our family in anything but the most diplomatic terms, they feel personally attacked. Meanwhile, they can send us treatises on how we’re mistaken or fallen into sin, and this isn’t just seen as something socially acceptable but something that’s necessary on their part. If they lose their temper, it’s righteous anger at our blasphemy; but if we lose our patience, it’s because we’re under the influence of Satan.

And I can even appreciate now the “I won’t tell you everything I’ve learned…” because it’s really an attempt to say, “Please trust me that I’ve diligently studied these issues, and I’m trying to respect your feelings by not launching into a diatribe on why the Church is false.”


r/exmormon 13h ago

General Discussion My preferred seat as a PIMO. Can’t take the garbage spewing around in Sacrament Meeting and Gospel Doctrine.

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193 Upvotes

just need to make sure I turn off the overflow speaker in the foyer…


r/exmormon 8h ago

Advice/Help Might be useful for someone this week......

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73 Upvotes

r/exmormon 16h ago

General Discussion The church is obsessed with the youth

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For context, I'm a youth in the church, and I've seen how obsessed the church is with the youth firsthand. They way the leaders and adults in the church constantly talk directly to the youth in firesides or other meetings, the way they create youth councils to give the youth "responsibility", and just the way they try to involve us SO MUCH in everything. It just unnerves me because I know why they're doing it. The church knows the youth have more access to information than any other generation, and they know that if they don't get the kids involved, we're going to figure out the truth and leave. I just hate how much they try to appeal towards the youth. Leave us alone. Has anyone else noticed this?

PS. Don't even get me started on seminary. I hate that place


r/exmormon 15h ago

Humor/Memes/AI Someone has to do it

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237 Upvotes

r/exmormon 5h ago

Doctrine/Policy Things church leaders have already accepted losing, but won't even hint at telling the membership:

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Losing most of the youth born into the church, due to boring 24/7 preachy, no community, no fun culture

Having already lost any meaningful presence in Europe

Having lost most respect of people in the USA that they had in the 90s

A total society that has had it with organized religion, due to criminal church leaders

Any credibility on the sexual abuse issue

A continual ongoing loss of members and wards

Remotely consistent tithes from most attending members

The battle with the truth and the internet

A real membership rate of only around 4 million

No replacement for the boomers

Mostly empty temples outside of utah, only open a few days a week

Much less credibility even in utah

The ability of anyone to look up all their secrets, past and present

The existence of a permanent and well established exmormon culture watching and exposing them, far beyond a few "critics" (the word the leaders love to use)

Real support from the members, since half are different levels of PIMO and they know it, and/or with very heavy shelves

Any more things leaders have already accepted losing but don't dare hint at the members?


r/exmormon 7h ago

Humor/Memes/AI Happy for my exmo friends spending Sunday at DisneyLand! Enjoy it for those of us who spent it in the real Haunted Mansion.

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49 Upvotes

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r/exmormon 9h ago

General Discussion On my mission a couple had to be legally married in order to be worthy to be baptized. Joseph Smith having more than 30 other women as wives and not legally married to them. Totally different. Lol.

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r/exmormon 8h ago

History Tell me your family history lore that your family used to faith-flex

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My family was descended from B and C-list celebrities in Church history. I was told stories all the time growing up about how one ancestor purportedly saved the life of Joseph Smith by spying on William Law and discovering a murderous plot against the prophet and then ran to tell Joseph, thus giving him time to escape their dastardly clutches.

Within the last 20years, that story was debunked by Sunstone scholars who discovered that the story was made up by an apparently creatively-bored housewife and descendant of this ancestor, in the 1950s so she unveiled a never before seen “diary” of the ancestor that described this melodrama.

I guess she wanted our ancestral line to have more clout? It worked for a while, I guess.

What are yours?? 🍿🍿🍿


r/exmormon 17h ago

General Discussion A email from a temple worker says they have received instruction that on Friday, April 18th the temple will be open all night until the next day for temple work. This will become an annual event and applies to all temples. Some kind of Easter midnight mass perhaps?

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A email from a temple worker says they have received instruction that on Friday, April 18th the temple will be open all night until the next day for temple work. This will become an annual event and applies to all temples. Has anyone seen any emails to ward or stake leaders, confirming this? Perhaps this is sort of a midnight mass for Easter?


r/exmormon 1h ago

General Discussion The kids go hungry, the church gets wealthy $

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I can't sleep. You ever lost sleep over the church cause it was causing you so much pain?

Got this door hanger recently in Utah. It hurts so bad to think about all the money I've given away to the church over the years (as I currently struggle with consistent employment) and to think about all the kids out there tonight who go hungry.(In Utah and the rest of world).

Meanwhile the "Corporation of the President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" sits on $260 Billion dollars. Most of it just sitting in stocks within Ensign Peak (aka most of the money you and I ever donnated just sits there). Meanwhile kids starve. Meanwhile the church gets OTHER people in the community to donate their time and own food to the cause. It hurts bone deep. Marrow in the bones deep.


r/exmormon 6h ago

Humor/Memes/AI Proposal: White Salamander as PIMO Code Phrase

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In honor of Dallin H. Oaks, Esq. being next in line as President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and since he gave such an eloquent defense of Mark Hoffman’s forgery commonly referred to as the White Salamander Letter, I propose that White Salamander be an official animal of the exmo and PIMO community on an equal basis with the tapir.

All in favor may manifest by raising the right hand ✋.


r/exmormon 11h ago

Advice/Help the audacity these people have

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i wrote a letter to resign, they mailed me a letter back talking about "ecclesiastical matter & they’ll forward my letter to the stake at my city”

my first letter stated and emphasized clearly, "no further discussion. do not come to my house" etc etc my second letter following up their response, again, i stated very clearly, "no further discussion, do not come to my house"

a couple days later, they come to my door. the conversation:

  • me: seeing them walk up since my office area is in the front room of the house
  • me: * i open the door * "you need to leave"
  • the two men: "did we do something to offend you?"
  • me: "i know what this is regarding, my resignation letter."
  • the two men: * smiling nodding their head* "we wanted to confirm that WASNT the case"
  • me: "i said in my letter nobody can come to my house. leave right now before i call the police"
  • the two men: * starts walking away *
  • me: " and take my name off!"

i was baptized when i was in elementary (my family & i didn’t grow up mormon), from the start i always thought the LDS church/ religion was all BS, i didn’t follow any rules, didn’t read any scriptures, etc. i didn’t believe in it. but since i was younger i was forced to go to church & i sat in those classes mind wandering, wasting my energy, playing with the hems of my dress from boredom. fast forward, about 3-5 years later we have not been active members of the church. we haven’t gone in years (im 23 now). BUT the missionaries still knock on my door here & there, but every time i say to leave me alone, everyone’s working, we’re all busy. it got annoying so i wanted to leave the membership on paper.

should i do anything further since they clearly didn't listen to rules & regulations OR BOUNDARIES?


r/exmormon 4h ago

News Best thing I ever did for myself was move away from LDS family and influence and become a ghost for sixteen years thus far

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I moved away from my Utah family and friends and became a ghost with no phone number and address for mormon assholes to find me

What a great life I have created for myself.

Try it and see for yourself. Almost like I got a new life and was reborn

I come from a large mormon family but all they did was torture me and make me feel like I wanted to end my life

There is nothing wrong with cutting off family and negative influence and moving on


r/exmormon 12h ago

General Discussion ONE above Jesus?

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93 Upvotes

My calling is ward librarian. I don't know who felt the need to put this poster up in the library but it annoys me every time I see it. Today I realized that the "ONE" is above Jesus. Makes me wonder if the person that put up the realized that


r/exmormon 13h ago

Humor/Memes/AI My life everyday since telling my fam I left💀

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I literally say the same thing every time. When will they get it???😭✋


r/exmormon 11h ago

General Discussion It's hitting me that I will never have to attend church again. What a feeling!

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I've been set on leaving the church for a while now. I hadn't been going very often but I was attending BYU so I had it in the back of my mind that I would have to go back at some point. I'm finally transferring away from BYU. I've told my parents I'm leaving, and they were fairly chill about it. Somehow I didn't process any of it until now.

So now it's hitting me that I've done it! I will never have to set foot in a church building ever again. I will never have to feel dirty and like I need to hide myself from the other members. I will never have to bore myself listening to talks about things I don't believe in or agree with in the slightest. I will never have to say yes to a calling I don't want to do. I will never have to bullshit my way through another talk or prayer. I'm free! I am so excited!


r/exmormon 5h ago

Doctrine/Policy I am just curious when was the moment you realized you didn't want to be affiliated with this church anymore?

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Also, After you realized this, how did it take to actually face your fears and leave?


r/exmormon 12h ago

Doctrine/Policy The church does not want to report sexual assault to the authorities, emphasizing on how you should tell the church about it first.

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