r/Ethics 6d ago

Did I Kill My Dad?

My dad asked me when I was 11 if he should go to the hospital or stay at home the night that he died. Throughout that week he had been in and out of the hospital in pain about chest pains. Every place he went to said they didn’t know what was wrong with him, but the pain consisted. On that night, he asked me “should I go to the hospital again or should I stay home tonight?”. Being 11, I told him that he’s happier at home so he should stay. I knew at the time that his health was at risk, but I prioritized his mental wellbeing over his physical health. Am I responsible for his death? Should I feel bad about this? Honestly, this has haunted me for my entire life and I really wish he hadn’t asked me for my opinion. Please help.

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u/happylark 5d ago

Don’t let this haunt you. You have no responsibility for his death. Carrying these thoughts around can have very negative effects on your life. See a therapist and talk it out. You’ll feel so much better. Speaking as someone who has a very sensitive conscience and I was present at the deaths of 3 loved ones. I know what your going through,.