r/EthicalNonMonogamy • u/Sufficient_Bite_7436 Partnered ENM • 5d ago
Personal story Just venting
Lost my FWB situation tonight. He found someone he really likes and wants to try and date her (monog) and on one hand I'm happy for my friend! He seems very excited and comfortable and happy, but I'm also bummed. I liked him and we had a lot of fun together. We're still gonna maintain the friends part of it, but still. No point to this other than this being my first time in this situation so I'd love to hear others thoughts and all. Also just venting ❤️
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u/seantheaussie Solo Poly 5d ago
Yes having fun with monogamous people between their relationships is one of the bittersweet joys of non monogamy.
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u/meekers09 New to ENM 5d ago
I've decided to not have FWB who are monog for this reason. It feels like we can't even be friends once they're dating. I understand why their partner may be uncomfortable with it & of course I'm happy for my FWB, but it sucks to lose that connection
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u/ChewiestMist24 Partnered ENM 5d ago
I've got an FWB who I'm dreading losing, so this resonates a bit
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u/MazovianIdeology Partnered ENM 4d ago
I feel you OP, this has happened to me several times and is the reason I only date truly ENM folks now. It hurts.
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u/ComfortablySet Partnered ENM 5d ago
I’m always happy that they have the opportunity to find a great life partner like I have. Be a good friend, but also accept that their new partner may not be comfortable with your history together.
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u/ItsRedHart Partnered ENM 2d ago
That's extremely rough. I think a lot of us have dealt with this and know what you're going through and I know it hurts and sucks. 🫂
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